Just a quick back ground on me..but I grew up in abusive family where earliest memory was my mom punching my bro in the face. Then whining to my dad about how bad he was when Dad came home from night shift, I still wake up with those nightmares. It wasn't so bad for me but emotionally I suffered hugely and was sabatoged by my mom throughout my life and told I was never good enough.
When I had my children, she didn't like my daughter, I lost a child and yet again no support when you'd hope for it. I always swore she wanted me to be an Andrea Yates. Well, when my third child was born, she decided to dote on the first child and ignored my son. I kept up with it all b/c I believed Grandparents should have rights and maybe they would both be better Grandparents than Parents.
I am not going to go further into details as It's really personal but my wonder is why are there grandparent rights when , if you as a parent don't see a grandparent fit why should they have any rights!?
2007-09-16 14:48:13 · 5 answers · asked by Yummy♥Mummy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's been a full year since last contact, in the past 10 yrs I've had contact a month long. I don't see them coming after me to try to see grandparents as they've already doted on the next victim but I really wonder why this is an issue. Shouldn't parents be the ultimate decider of their kids?!
2007-09-16 14:49:48 · update #1
If you fear for the emotional well being of your children, not to mention the physical well being, you have the parental right to refuse your parents access to your children. You can even take this type of thing to court, if it were to go so far. If they were to fight for their right to see their grandchildren in court, just tell the judge everything from your childhood. I'm sure there would never be any sort of chance for them to win visiting rights. And if it came down to it, and you are able, move away... far away, making it as difficult for them to see your children as possible. And I'm very sorry for your loss btw.
2007-09-16 15:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents don't have rights when it comes to their grandchildren. My mother in law hasn't seen my kids in over 4 years, and never will again.
You are the parent, they are your kids. And it is up to you to protect them from people that are not a capable of being civilized human beings. Even if that means they don't see their grandparents.
2007-09-16 22:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by cris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it should always be about what's best for a child, and sometimes (like you said of your own mom) parent's aren't fit to care for children. That's when they have rights, otherwise it's, like you said, up to you to decide if you want them to see your children.
2007-09-16 21:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by S F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grandparents don't have any rights
2007-09-16 21:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by omgithinkiknow 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yes.
2007-09-16 21:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋