Family - September 2007

ok so my mom works in arizona mon-thurs and we live in california she comes home on the weekends and is in the worst mood ever and takes it out on me i understand that she is stressed out but she has been like this for months and i hate being around her she always yelling and im getting grounded over the smallest things
in may she kicked me out then called the cops and reported me missing and she gave the cops this sob story so i had to come back home well yesterday we got in a fight and she told me she effin hates me and doesnt want me in her house i wanna leave but whenever i do she calls the cops on me i dont kno what to do
whenever im around her im depressed and spend most the day crying we have never gotten along in all my high school years im a senior this year but i wanna enjoy it i have been grounded this whole month just for telling her how i feel but she took that as me talking back
i live with my step dad when she is at work and he enforces her rules while she is gone

2007-09-18 07:31:04 · 12 answers · asked by Ashleigh 2

My parents and I are having a quite large argument about my husband whom I married last year. He and my parents had the normal relationship until last month when Adam (my husband) had like 5 beers in this bar where my best friend had her 23 birthday party. Now they are saying he's an alcoholic and that I need to leave him for my own safety and also that I don't know what I'm talking about when I say he's fine and nothings wrong cause I'm only 22. He almost always only has like a beer or maybe two but this one time he had a few more and my parents flipped out. Now on top of that I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks ago and if I tell them they're going to say the baby's in danger and all that stuff. Adam even went over there and apoligized if he made them uncomfertable and my parents went crazy and started screaming at him and my dad actually punched him. This has happened once with a boyfriend, but not like this, I'm totally loosing my mind, what should I do, please help? Thanks.

2007-09-18 07:26:22 · 7 answers · asked by Brooke 1

it seems that she wants to fight with me and the sad thing is that my dad always takes her side i have been mellow all this time! what should i do?

2007-09-18 07:06:32 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Everytime my cousin gets around my grandmother she talks about the jewelry she is wearing and how she is going to get it when my grandmother is dead! She says it right in front of her and she always talks about how there will be a fight because her mother wants everything when she passes! Is that not sick or what! If you saw my last question, these are some of the family members I have nothing to do with anymore.

2007-09-18 06:58:14 · 9 answers · asked by Samantha 5

I have, I think in certain situations it's in your best interest. These people were judgemental and spread lies about me and my mother. With family like that, who needs em! The funny thing about it is, I feel so much better now that I don't have anything to do with them anymore! I am a much happier person now.

2007-09-18 06:54:07 · 30 answers · asked by Samantha 5

my sons (now 5wks old) father was "not interested" in my pregnancy words from his mouth.....so at 6 months i told him just to leave us alone...he hasn't called since..which is a good thing...but i left the fathers info on his birth certificate blank and gave him my last name....not his....i don't think he deserves it.....he hasn't even called to see when he was born and if he is ok...what do ya'll think .

2007-09-18 06:53:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Two weeks ago my son's teacher called and said he wasn't doing his homework, after a good old fashioned punishment,(no t.v., no bike, no phone, etc.) he did better (for that class). The very next week his other teacher called and said he wasn't completing assignments, I explained to him that he is an athlete and rule no pass no play. I told him that he wasn't going to play in the upcoming game and for him to explain to his coach why not. Well he talked to the coach and he did not play, he was very hurt and upset but I told him he could only blame himself. I thought by him watching his team play without him would motivate him to do all his work. Well on Monday we got home and he got started on his work with no problem. I thought to myself not letting him play must have worked. Well I didn't because Tuesday morning his teacher called again and said he didn't do his work. I have tried everything I can think of without having to whip his behind. PLEASE PLEASE I need advice.

2007-09-18 06:09:04 · 9 answers · asked by con par 1

My husband and I are going to file a chapter 7. I guess we are border line on our income. We have the option to surrender our house and let it go into foreclosure or we can reaffirm it and stay in it.

Here is some backround - our current home is mortgaged for approx. $255,000. The current value of our home is $217,000. We got the second mortgage to pay off some other debt a while ago, (mostly credit cards). We pay $2000 per month for our First (including taxes & insurance and escrow shortage payback) and our second. We have a 3500 total sq foot home with 4 bedrooms, full basement, 2.5 bath, large kitchen and 'bonus' room that we use as a play room. Our back yard is almost unusable because of the slope. We live on a cul-de-sac.

The house that we would be moving to would be $1000 per month cheaper. It is 3 bedroom, 2 bath. It has a large privacy fenced in yard with an above ground pool and 2 tier deck. It need some work here and there, mostly cosmetic.

2007-09-18 06:06:14 · 10 answers · asked by sahmcclure 2

Have sight love with my sister in low. What shall I do? She is married too. Is it risky to tell her the feeling I have for her or stay silent and suffer ??? help with you idea ?? I have no any idea if she has any sense of feeling towards me. Just sharing my feeling....

2007-09-18 05:58:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was caught lounging naked watching interacial gay porn while sipping sweet tea. My mother thinks that I should see a shrink but I think I was just simply watching a movie in my own privacy. Any thoughts on this???

2007-09-18 05:44:03 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why won't my step mom stay out of my life? She is always up in my business about everything! I'm 21 years old and the stuff that goes on with my mom and I is MY business! Not her's... She always finds a way to find things out and then I get in trouble... Its getting old and I wish she would stay out of my life!

Help me!

2007-09-18 05:38:17 · 6 answers · asked by Sublime Chick™ 3

2007-09-18 05:20:38 · 18 answers · asked by raj the secret 2

okay so my mom is in prison (please don't ask) and my grandma wants to go down and see her but she gets out in like 70 days my grndma lives with her mom who is like 92 and she has aids come and help for but only for like an hour or 2 every other day and i alreasdy had plans with my friends because i haven't been able to go out cause i have been sick but i already told her i would stay and help so she could go but my grandma house has flees ad her and my dad don't get along so what could I say to get out of this
i know it sounds bad but really its not

2007-09-18 05:06:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother-in-law gets on my last nerve! If it's not 1 thing it's another. My husdand & I have been together for 8 years & married 3 of the 8. Now that we're married she acts like she hates me. My husband's in the air force & is staioned in Japan for 2 years. He got us phones b-4 he left with the knowledge that his phone would work in while he's away, his doesn't, any way he asked me 2 call the phone company & have the phones turned off, that's exactly what I did. Now, somebody tell me y his mom went rite behind me this morning & called them! When I told her that I had talked 2 the people & what they had told me she flies off the handle, (just acted really ugly.) Telling me I was wrong and that I didn't know what I was talking about. Y do I let her get 2 me like I do? I've talked 2 my husband & he always says "That's just mama she don't mean any harm." Well yes she does, simply b-cuz it's me, she's disliked me since the day we were married. Help me, b-4 I let this woman drive me crazy!

2007-09-18 05:04:56 · 8 answers · asked by luvsthepink 2

hii...im upset because my parents do not trust me to have a boyfriend..and i know why. its all my sisters fault..she had a boyfriend and got pregnant at 22 years old and she isnt even married to him yet and doesnt plan on getting married for a while because she wants a big wedding and she dont have da money for dat right now cuz she has to pay for expenses for da new baby...now my parents are upset with her and they say i cant have a boyfriend either. they think that i will turn out just like her by getting pregnant before im married and they dont want that mistake to happen again. but i know that wont happen to me but they still dont trust me..what do i do? i am 17 and i started dating a guy but i cant tell my parents, and i dont like hiding things from them..help!!

2007-09-18 04:50:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband's mom committed suicide 3 years ago. Now his dad is dating a really nice woman. They aren't living together, but she redecorated part of the house and packed up some of my husband's old toys and things for him to take. One of the items was a bank that was in the kitchen hutch for years. My husband was really hurt to see that she took it out of the hutch. I think it also bothers him that she went through his old room and packed things up. I try to tell him that it's not a big deal, that he's 31 and shouldn't be keeping things at home anymore. I know it's a lot for him to deal with, but this woman is really good for his dad even if she's sort of meddling with the house. What can I do/say to prevent him from overreacting and disliking her?

2007-09-18 04:44:00 · 7 answers · asked by ♫ Sweet Honesty ♫ 5

A little bit about myself...I'm 5'5 and weigh 184 lbs. Now I think my average weight for my heighth is like 135-140 pounds or something like that. So yeah I'm over weight, but I tend to hide it very well. I think it's pretty safe to say that I'm not obese or anywhere close to it. I'm not depressed or ashamed of my body. Yes of course I would love to lose weight and be a little more comfortable especially when meeting guys like I used to be but it's not like i dwell on that 24/7.

My mother was not the skinniest kid either when she was my age. But I almost feel like she's disgusted with how much weight I have gained. She's always telling me that she's concerned with my weight (i went to the doctor and i'm as healthy as can be). That I need to go to the gym, that things (like guys) will starting happening for me, drink more water...yeah these are just regular concerns for a mother, but she's been doing this pretty much my entire life and i can't take it anymore! What do I do?!

2007-09-18 04:28:49 · 13 answers · asked by malassa07 4

My eldest son is almost 11 years old. He is very careless. I know that kids r like that at this age, but he is extreme, he forgets his gloves, lunch box, jacket, homework books, hats almost every day. he lost so many things, If somehow he manages to bring them from school he left them in the car. If his teacher gives something to sign he forgets to tell me. now he has started lying to me too, like he said "i'll keep my juice bottle in school from now" I know that he just forgot to bring it back. its not about little things it's about responsibility. Is there any way I can change his habits

2007-09-18 04:04:53 · 4 answers · asked by hina 1

i have a 19 year old sister, she is driving my family apart.... since she was about 16 she has slowly been getting worse. She lies, steals and drinks excessively. My parents have given her the world hoping that she would realize how lucky she is to have everything that she does. She repeatedly lies to my parents and steals their money. Also we have found empty glasses and achohol containers in her car when she showed up at home with out her car... drinking and driving? She does not have a job and refuses to get one if she has to wear any sort of a uniform. She honestly lives in a fantasy world where she thinks she can do what ever she wants. My parents are at their witts end and they are talking about divorce and it is all because of the stress that she causes them i need some advice on what to do. Someone please help me help my family.

2007-09-18 03:52:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

and then wants to come back home should i let him? or do i just leave him alone period? or do i let hime come back home and see if we can make it work a second time around

2007-09-18 03:34:06 · 15 answers · asked by tasha 1

I have twin 13 year old step daughters and for the past couple of years one of them has stopped coming around (except for Christmas and her birthday). I have always picked them (lately just one of them) up from school twice every week, but the other day the one that doesn't come over any more called and told her dad that if he wanted to see her then he would have to pick her up from school because it is his job. My husband did not take that little demand very well and told me he was not going to let a 13 year old child tell him what to do. My question is...should we back down and give her what she wants?
Alot of what has gone on is due to the mother. She has been jealouse of my relationship with the girls, they use to say they want to look like me and live with us...but now one of them can't stand to be around us and has asked her dad if he would let her stepdad adopt her, of coarse he told her no.

2007-09-18 03:18:42 · 9 answers · asked by Alliance Kicks Horde Butt 5

Well, I didn't get many useful answers when I asked this last night so I thought maybe I'd have better luck today. I really need some good advice instead of putdowns. My sister has been supporting me since I moved out of our parents' house and I've wanted to help out. She works as a dancer at a strip club and I wanted to work with her but even though I've been declared an emancipated adult and have my GED they wouldn't hire me because I'm only 15. My sister and I look almost identical so I used her ID and got a job at another club where I've been dancing for the last few weeks. My sister just found out and now she's really angry with me. She's not even talking to me. I just wanted to help out with money and I can't get a regular job that pays well. She wants me to go to college eventually and I do too but we need money for that. I don't understand why she's so angry. What can I do to get her to talk to me?

2007-09-18 03:06:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter was being mistreated by her step cousin. The cousin would keep harrassing her and calling her names. We told the parents and grandparents what was happening and it ended up a bigg mess. If the kids can't play don't bring them up was mentioned. It has been 2 months since we have went to the grandparents house. Now the little girl says she is sorry but I don't feel like she is. I can forgive her but I won't forget. This is the third incident with my husbans family. It seems like it is the step grandmothers fault cause she lets her grandkids walk all over her, and they are allowed to do whatever they want. I don't know what to do.

2007-09-18 01:51:37 · 13 answers · asked by Cindy T 1

I am pregnant and after my last miscarriage hubby and I decided we both wanted for me to stay home for this pregnancy. We get by just fine, we even have a little extra money at the end of the month that goes into savings. My husband has a coworker that came right out and said, "you know your wife has to go back to work now that you are trying to have kids right?" My husband was quite taken aback as this man is about thirty years older than he is and he works with him every day, so he just nodded and smiled. I, on the other hand, get flack from one of my aunts (who I was never close to) about staying home, while my parents and my husbands' parents are very supportive of whatever we do. I have worked since I was sixteen years old, I never thought that if I was lucky enough to be able to stay home with my children I would feel so... attacked. I think it's truly sad, but my question remains- what makes other people bothered by our choices for our family, by my staying home?

2007-09-18 01:48:48 · 9 answers · asked by hmm 5

My boyfriend's step-mother got me the job I'm at now and I thank her endlessly for it. However, yesterday I found out through one of our bosses/co-workers that she put in her 1 month's notice that morning so she could become a stay-at-home mom to her 1-year-old son! I really thought he was joking when he told me this at first because my boyfriend and I had gone over to her and her husband's (my boyfriend's father) house on Saturday and she didn't mention anything to us about quitting. To be honest, finding out the way I did kind of made me angry and just really made me feel like she didn't trust me enough to tell me personally (and I haven't given her a reason not to trust me that I know of). Especially since my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and a half. Plus, she's the one that got me this job! She's about the only person in my workplace that I actually like!

How would you have felt in that situation? Do I have a right to feel uncomfortable about this?

2007-09-18 01:47:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok my dad is really racist and before you attack me notice i said my dad( not me) im white and my boyfriend is black my dad wont even talk to me now all he says is "i cant believe your living with a F*cking N*gger!" and i get so mad every time that word comes out of his mouth that i cant even stand to look at him!!!! how can i get my dad to get to know my boyfriend as a person instead of a color?

2007-09-18 01:20:39 · 7 answers · asked by Brutal 2

my mother keeps trying to make me let my daughter back into my life when i just cant do it. my daughter has allways been my mums pet ,when she was 14 she stole the money my husband had been saving to buy us a new car she spent it on mobile phones and drugs . my mum said it was our fault for not giving her some attention i had just suffrerd a stillbirth.at 17 she got pregnant by a drug dealer and lives with him now although she swears she doesent do drugs now and my mum believes her . i worry myself sick because she is so thin and shackes all the time . i decided to cut her out of our lives for my own sanity i have other kids to look after but my mum keeps on at me to to speak to her again and telling me about my grandson who the father wount let me see even though i gave them lots of money in the begining.i dont no what to do my daughter plays mind games with everybody to make them feel sorry for her . she is 20 now i have tried to give her all the love in the world what do i do now

2007-09-18 01:11:18 · 15 answers · asked by K H 3

to spend more time with me and my fanily? he will not go around them and they treaty him very nice. i go around his all the time. what can i do to help him feel more comfortabe around my side of the family?

2007-09-18 00:52:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My Dad died 4 weeks ago, which has left my Mum living on her own in a retirement bungalow where they moved to 7 months ago. She has early stages of alziemers, which is really hard. I take a day off a week with her and see her weekends and evenings. My sister helps as well. The problem is, is that everytime I talk to her on the phone she keeps saying she is lonely and bored. All her neighbours have said she can go round anytime, and also there is a community house where they do things like outings, coffee morning etc. One minutes she wants to go then the next she doesn't. It is so frustrating, because I can't be with her everyday. I don't want to get angry with her because she has alzeimers and that would upset her. I feel so guilty for not being with her. What should I do?

2007-09-18 00:52:18 · 10 answers · asked by tia 2

I'm in South Korea for 8 months now and am very homesick and depressed. I have a choice of visiting my family in Chicago and returning to South korea to finish my contract or stay in Chicago for good. My contract will end in end of feburary. If I visit my parents and go back to Korea I'm afraid I will be very homesick again. I suffer from homesickness and am extreamly depressed by it, can't live a good live because of it. My salary here is good teaching english in elementary school but I rather go home and not be homesick anymore. I hate being homesick and depressed due to homesickness. Will visiting my parents for a week and returning to Korea make me more homesick in Korea ? Don't know if I should return home to Chicago for good or visit my famliy and finish my contract in Korea. It's a very hard decision for me that is why I'm asking what you thing my best choice is. I really hate being homesick and depressed but like seeing new places in Korea but homesickess is horrible.

2007-09-18 00:10:30 · 5 answers · asked by felixnamts 2