ok my dad is really racist and before you attack me notice i said my dad( not me) im white and my boyfriend is black my dad wont even talk to me now all he says is "i cant believe your living with a F*cking N*gger!" and i get so mad every time that word comes out of his mouth that i cant even stand to look at him!!!! how can i get my dad to get to know my boyfriend as a person instead of a color?
2007-09-18 01:20:39 · 7 answers · asked by Brutal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes, people don't WANT to see things differently, and you can't make them.
Let him know how much it bothers you, and make it clear. DOn't talk to him, don't smile at him, give him the cold shoulder. When he realizes he's not doing anything but pushing his own daughter away, he should come to his senses.
If he doesn't, you know you're the bigger person.
Good luck!
2007-09-18 01:43:00 · answer #1 · answered by Puppy Paws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not like that "N" word, either. It's demeaning and ugly to say the least. I'm not black, i'm white... and if my child were to choose a black person as their partner, i'd probably have to accept it.
The only problem i have with mixed marriages is the probable issues children which come from the relationship might have... sometimes they are made fun of and put down because they have parents of different colors. That would be my only problem.
Your father probably won't accept this guy ever, by the sounds of it. If you are happy, do what is best for YOU. I wish there were an easier solution, but i dont' see one. You can't change your father's thinking.
hugs
2007-09-18 09:15:18 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your mother think about this? You're a good person because in a lot of cases like this kids usually become racist because they're influenced by there parents. You should get some help from the outside (like another family member or a councilor) to really understand why he's the way he is.
P.S. : Until you resolve your problem with your dad you should really keep you boyfriend away from him!
2007-09-18 08:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by lola4good 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your father has no desire to change his attitude towards others of a different race then there is nothing you can do to make him recognize how hateful and ridiculous he is being. I think the only thing you can do is have a heart to heart talk with your father about your feelings concerning this issue. Hopefully then he will at least give your boyfriend a chance to show who he is and it could spark something in your father to change his ways.
2007-09-18 10:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lwood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ur dad is extremely closed minded and im sure after time he will either accept it or he will grow farther away. people are resistant to change, im sure after a while when he sees how happy ur man makes u it might change his opinion but for now ur dad is an angry person and it does not stem from u dating a black guy.
2007-09-18 09:19:46 · answer #5 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first he your dad, i not one to be races,, but when he was comeing up, ,he was taught, white stay with whites an, colors stay with color, , i know in this time, , they mixing, an even tho, i dont like it, ,. i under stand, you dont go by the color of a person skin, for love, see no color,, but i would say this give him time, he may come around
2007-09-18 08:45:24 · answer #6 · answered by ghostwalker077 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your from the South then your dad will probably never like him so good luck
2007-09-18 09:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by durtyboyz2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋