How can I get my sister to stop being angry with me?

Question

Well, I didn't get many useful answers when I asked this last night so I thought maybe I'd have better luck today. I really need some good advice instead of putdowns. My sister has been supporting me since I moved out of our parents' house and I've wanted to help out. She works as a dancer at a strip club and I wanted to work with her but even though I've been declared an emancipated adult and have my GED they wouldn't hire me because I'm only 15. My sister and I look almost identical so I used her ID and got a job at another club where I've been dancing for the last few weeks. My sister just found out and now she's really angry with me. She's not even talking to me. I just wanted to help out with money and I can't get a regular job that pays well. She wants me to go to college eventually and I do too but we need money for that. I don't understand why she's so angry. What can I do to get her to talk to me?

Answer 1

first off the reason why your sister is so angry with you is because she loves you. She doesn't want you to end up like her (even though it seems to be working for her). There are probaly a lot of things that she doesn't tell you what happens at her job ie harrassment issues, self esteem issues, etc. Also when you work at a strip club you tend to get used to the money and when that happens you end up falling behind and pushing things off like school till later. If your sister couldn't afford you to live with her she would not have let you come to live. She is also upset that you used her ID because she could very well get in trouble with the law. If you are using her ID that means using her identity as well. Besides you are really young and stripping is not the best way to go at your age you are more apt to doing drugs or getting abused because you are still at the age of being impressionable. Why don't you just enjoy your life, look into getting financial aid to go to college and work as a waitress part time somewhere. Only time and talking to your sister will make her not angry anymore. Just remember she loves you! Good Luck!

Answer 2

I can understand why she is so angry - you are underage to work as a dancer in a strip club and by using her ID and if she is aware of it she could get in BIG trouble. Even though you are emancipated, you are still underage for this type of work. Also, if you are using her ID, guess who's ID the IRS would have for tax purposes down the road? This would increase her taxes. First of all, you can get a job, maybe not making the same money as you would in a strip club but it would be one more suitable for a 15 yo. Second of all, if you have not already, QUIT the job. Apologize to your sister and be SINCERE about it. If you are still working then maybe she isn't talking to you because you are continuing to use her identity. Regardless of your reason for using her ID it is still identity theft. She may be thinking twice now about trusting you. If you steal her identity to do something that is illegal for you to do, then how can she be sure that you won't do something else later on? You will have to build the trust back up. It may take time but if you are honest with her and work a job that a 15 year old can work, then you are on your way to being back in her good graces. If you want to go to college, there are a lot of grants and student loans out there for those who want to go but can not afford it. I know because I had to find them for my daughter. Good luck!

Answer 3

Say you're sorry, get a regular job that's close to home, I know minimum wage sucks, but it's better (just barely) than nothing. She'll forgive you, she's your sister. It might just take a few days. She doesn't want you to have to strip, she makes that sacrifice for you. If you work close to home you can walk and it'll be so convenient. I've worked in convenience stores when I was strapped for cash, you don't have to do anything just sit there, you can bring your homework, whatever. I would suggest going to a community college for the first two years, you can still live with your sister, and it's a little easier than a regular college because a lot of people are adults and they have to work and don't have as much energy to spend studying and doing homework. Also it gives you two years to decide what you want to do if you don't know yet. :) p.s.~ you don't need money for college, when you're poor you just go to your financial aid lady and you practically go for free. Get a credit card and use it on something small every 4-5 months, it will help to build up your credit so you will be approved for financial aid, you can also get extra money working part time at the school, "work study." Don't worry about saving up for college, just focus on getting by and passing high school. You'll make it!

Answer 4

Why did you have to steal her I.D.? I'm 16 and got emancipated several months ago. I strip, and I've never had a prob w/ it that I'd have to steal someone's I.D. I know and emancipated minor can't be in/buy porn or anything, but I had no problem getting my job. If emancipated, you are at the legal AOC, but I'm not sure if that has to do w/ anything in your case. Anyway, I strip to put myself through college, I don't want to be on a pole till I'm like 40. You should definitely let her know your motives behind your actions. Even though you were trying to help, something like that could get BOTH of you into trouble. Remember, since you're technically an "adult" you yourself can get into serious crap doing something like this. Since your state law obviously prohibits someone of your age, regardless of your emancipation, from stripping, it is essential that you get yourself a new job. Something like this is bound to get out sooner or later, and you WILL catch hell for it. Although it is very important that you verbally apologize to your sister, it would be an even greater offense to her if you kept stripping and got both of you into trouble. Get off the pole for now, start looking for a job that won't put you in jail. Good luck :)

Answer 5

properly for one element you may convey regret on your sister for utilising her identity to get that activity. it somewhat is a extreme crime and would land somebody in a federal reformatory while you evaluate that's identity theft. On staggering of that, you will get her in subject with the IRS come tax time if she does not have the W-2 out of your activity and if the social protection numbers do no longer experience up, which could land somebody in reformatory besides. Even added on staggering of that, you're decrease than age and can't legally artwork in a strip club. this would get your organization in fairly warm water from the government, that may set off a lawsuit against you and your sister by the strip club. i comprehend you meant properly, yet you will get this rapidly and rapid! You stole your sister's identity and which could placed you in the back of bars and create a large number which you sister will could fix, that is financially high priced.

Answer 6

she does not want you doing what she does it is not good nd she knows that its a horrible way to make money. its very degrading and this is why. she wants you to make it with brains. so you decided to do what ever you wanted. i would quit and be done with it and go to school take care and then you'llb e friends again.