Two weeks ago my son's teacher called and said he wasn't doing his homework, after a good old fashioned punishment,(no t.v., no bike, no phone, etc.) he did better (for that class). The very next week his other teacher called and said he wasn't completing assignments, I explained to him that he is an athlete and rule no pass no play. I told him that he wasn't going to play in the upcoming game and for him to explain to his coach why not. Well he talked to the coach and he did not play, he was very hurt and upset but I told him he could only blame himself. I thought by him watching his team play without him would motivate him to do all his work. Well on Monday we got home and he got started on his work with no problem. I thought to myself not letting him play must have worked. Well I didn't because Tuesday morning his teacher called again and said he didn't do his work. I have tried everything I can think of without having to whip his behind. PLEASE PLEASE I need advice.
2007-09-18 06:09:04 · 9 answers · asked by con par 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that something else must be going on. I would sit down with him and find out what is going on. Don't assume that he is just being lazy. You might find out that he is having a problem with the class, the teacher, or even something else. Then when you find out the underlying issue, take him and go to the teacher and the three of you have a discussion. See what can be done to redeem the grade. Make your son responsible for his actions, and along with actions come consequences. That is the real world. I had only boys, and believe me, when they saw that they were on no teams because of grades, they hustled to make the grade first and then the reward of playing in the games was even sweeter!!
2007-09-18 06:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by firefly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a lot of experience in this to be honest as my kids don't have it. One thing that I have heard a lot about and read about is kids with these disorders can have a personal aide. Maybe you could hire one to come to your house a few hours a day or a few days a week to work one on one with your son and help him control his behaviors. They may also have some really helpful tips for the rest of the family members on how to deal with him and their own emotions. I know it can't be easy and I wish you all the best.
2016-05-17 21:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it that you are a single mom because you didn't mention that the good old fashioned punishment included an ***whoopin' from dad.
Seriously though, you may want to consider having him visit the school cousellor to see if there are any hidden problems. Perhaps he is noticing girls and he is not paying attention to his work. You better find out soon!
2007-09-18 06:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by Older Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this - instead of grounding, try giving him privileges (TV, bike, phone, etc.) ONLY if his behavior changes (he starts to do his homework). Many times grounding doesn't really work because the child will just sit out the punishment and not change behavior.
Make his privileges dependent on his behavior and you will see his behavior change.
2007-09-18 06:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by Wayner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is struggling with his work? Sit down and ask him what he is having problems with. If it is just laziness, pull him out of sports altogether until he gets his priorities in order. I have an athlete, too, so I understand you hesitation o do that, but what is more important?
2007-09-18 06:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try it again, no TV, no phone, no Internet, no playing, & doing house work, like, washing the dishes, cleaning the floors & everything else that you can think of:
usually what my parents does with my siblings is:
tell them whoever gets A or A plus will get to go to six flags or get $50.00, & it works every time
2007-09-18 06:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi , its so difficult , i had this problem a couple of years back with our son and we ended up making him stay in his bed for one whole week , he went to school ,come home went to bed only got up for food and homework , no tv , playstation , nothing not even a light ,weekends the same but no school , even longer in bed , it is soooo hard but i have had no more crap from him , your not on your own at least your trying to sort him out ,xx
2007-09-18 06:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good old fashion punishment??? Back in the day that would mean a relly good *** whippin......that is the problem with kids today, other than being raised by kids that have no respect for others and those that let them walk all over them....break out the board and i can tell ya they will have respect for you and your household rules..........
2007-09-18 06:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by reddbbird92 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the question is he tried all the time? does he like to be in his room alone? does he seem to have secrets? he could be in pot and that makes people sleepy tired and mean. it can make you parnoid also. maybe he needs checkup and stuff and get on line i wouldn't let him lie around i would make him do stuff and get moving. he has to be motivated somehow keep after him spankings do wonders sometimes.
2007-09-21 14:16:25 · answer #9 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋