Have you disowned any of your family members?

Question

I have, I think in certain situations it's in your best interest. These people were judgemental and spread lies about me and my mother. With family like that, who needs em! The funny thing about it is, I feel so much better now that I don't have anything to do with them anymore! I am a much happier person now.

Answer 1

I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE.
Everyone on my father's side blamed my mother for marrying my father.
Everybody on my mother's side blamed my mother for marrying my father.
Aunt barb, on my father's side, said my mom caused my dad to drink and smoke cigarettes.
Guess who got my mom started smoking?
My dad.
Me and my mom ran away from my dad, from town to town, because he verbally and physically assaulted my mom.
I was afraid of my dad.
Aunt Barb would constantly tell me how my mom is no good.
Uncle Joe and Uncle Henry on my mother's side, constantly told me my mom was no good.
I hated to visit my uncles growing up because they would tell me all the time that my mom is no good.
When I turned 18, my uncles gave me my inheritance:my grandfather left us money.
They bought me a car and gave me the check, then they wanted nothing to do with me.
Uncle Henry said he fought with my mom over handling her money and didn't want the same hardship with me.
Eventually, after visiting my uncle, he yelled at me to get off his lawn and to never come back.
Both my uncles on my mom's side disowned both me and my mom.
I felt so sorry for my mom.
When I was around 11 or 12 years old, living with my mom, I was playing with matches in the apt.
I caused a small fire to spread in my room.
I ran back and forth, from the kitchen to my room,. to put out the fire.
Afterwords, my mom grounded me to my room.
She told me to open up my room.
I refused, was scared.
Mom took a knife and pried it through my door to open it up.
Stupid me calls 911 and the cops come in.
I go into foster care.
I end up with my grandmother, on my dad's side.
I was so afraid growing up there.
Eventually, grandmother put me with my dad.
As I got older, I realized how wrong I was.
I should have never called 911.
Anyway, the same kids in middle school, who beat me up, were the same kids in junior high and high school.
I was picked on daily in school.
My dad was no help, as I was afraid of him.
I was so scared of my dad that I forged my report card, so he wouldn't know I was failing in school.
I ranaway, back to my mom, after awhile.
When I was about 15, they put me in the mental ward for depression.
I was hospitalized for about six months to a year.
When I turned 18, I tried to kill myself.
God saved me, if I had died that night, I would have gone to hell.
My dad died after I graduated from high school.
He stopped by, where me and my mom lived, to say he was dying of cancer.
I regret that I did not stay close with him during his final time.
Stupid me waits till he is near death, in the Veterans hospital, to see him.
Instead I was too busy chasing after this bartender, who never liked me, which I fell for.
In 1999, I had my feet operated on, because my bones in my feet were bothering me too much.
In 2000, I was hit by a car.
I am currently paralyzed from the waist down.
My mom died last year.
While I was in rehab, my Aunt Barb called my uncles and they said to go f* me.
After about six months of rehab, the hospital got Aunt Barb's signature to put me in a nursing home.
I was helpless to stop it.
God had other plans.
My mom fought with public housing to get me in there.
After about 2 weeks., I had my own apt., thanks to my mom.
Tell me, when does it end???
God Bless

Answer 2

Believe it or not religious beliefs play a big part in it. There was a study on runaways and abandoned children a while ago, and 78% of runaways and abandoned child came from very religious homes. Also those homes that have a stronger conservative religious back ground had 56% great cases of abuse. The most common thing at Planed Parenthood Clinic with teenage girls, is the girl being kick out of her home for being pregnant. A friend of mine that used to work at a Planed Parenthood Clinic was sadden by this every day.

Answer 3

yes, and then I have done the dumb thing of allowing them back into my life only for them to do the same stuff they did before. I have 2 children and I feel bad about teaching them that sometimes you need to just sever ties with family members, I feel sad that my family has made me teach my children that sometimes even family is to much stress and heartache to bear (drug and law issues).I envy family's that I see get along and enjoy each others company. That's what family should do. My kids are close and I hope they stay that way. I also hope that they never hurt each other.

Answer 4

yes--just because someone is in your family doesn't mean you have to put up with hurtful behaviour. it is not like a friendship where you choose to be in contact with that person--it's just the way things fall. you can't help who is in your family and what those people are like, so it is up to you to make the proper decisions about which members of your family to stick around. granted you should try to love and accept them, when too much becomes too much, you simply have to make the decision to remove yourself from potentially harmful situations. if this means 'disowning' family members, then for your best interests and possibly theirs, it sometimes must be done. i've got two members of my family whom i have chosen to avoid contact with for this reason.

Answer 5

I am no longer in counseling now that my sister is out of my life. I should have cut her out years ago but I was mislead in my hope that blood was thicker than water. She lives in a drug induced world where her lies are her reality and we are all against her and that she never did anything to be treated like this. Well, she's tried to have me and my late hubby killed, she's tried kidnapping my children. Her hubby tried to kill out Mom. She robbed our brother and her hubby beat our other brother and left him homeless in the streets of Tuscon while they cleared their apartment and skipped town with everything that wasn't nailed down. The brother they beat, has a spinal injury and they left him laying in a gutter. Nice sister. So, sometimes you have to cut a tie for your own safety.

Answer 6

I have disowned a brother and my biological father ( sperm donor) I haven't heard from them in years and I am a much happier person and mother for it I think

Answer 7

A lot of people say that "you only have one family, so you should stick with them no matter what". Personally, I disagree. My experience is that there are some people that are just too destructive to keep in your life, related or not.

Answer 8

Yes

Answer 9

Unfortuneately Yes... i have this cousin who tries to always be better and copies the things i do...its annoying so i choose to exclude her from my life. I have a cousin whos into drugs,(she was preg.and just had her baby in prison),she's 20,i don't like people like that-a LOSER!!, i'm so more classy then her,so shes another who i choose to not be around,they are both exclude from my life

Answer 10

I would have to say dis-own is such a harsh term. Although in some extreme cases it is okay to keep away from certain people... but if it's in the immediate family I would suggest working it out.

Answer 11

we all have some sorts of drama in our families but they will always be your family. Its not for you to disown them, your mom is an adult, its up to her and maybe whoever was spreading lies was wrong but you are not in a position to disown anyone but can stay away from them.