i have a 19 year old sister, she is driving my family apart.... since she was about 16 she has slowly been getting worse. She lies, steals and drinks excessively. My parents have given her the world hoping that she would realize how lucky she is to have everything that she does. She repeatedly lies to my parents and steals their money. Also we have found empty glasses and achohol containers in her car when she showed up at home with out her car... drinking and driving? She does not have a job and refuses to get one if she has to wear any sort of a uniform. She honestly lives in a fantasy world where she thinks she can do what ever she wants. My parents are at their witts end and they are talking about divorce and it is all because of the stress that she causes them i need some advice on what to do. Someone please help me help my family.
2007-09-18 03:52:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get a councilor and as much as I hate to say this, she may not realize how well she had it until she is forced to live on her own and fend for herself. Sometimes thats what it takes to wake somebody you love up to reality.
2007-09-18 04:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kazama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents need to quit "giving her the world." They are pretty much rewarding her behavior. So, why would you stop doing something, if someone is giving you multiple gifts? You wouldnt. Your parents need to strip your sister of her privileges and her car. If she is going to be drinking excessively, she does not need to be behind the wheel of a car. She can cause harm to herself as well as others. If she has to wear a uniform to work that she has to provide, maybe that will teach her some resposibilty. BOTTOM LINE: she needs a job. Your parents have done a lot for her already. You need to be there for your sister, dont turn your back on her, because that could cause more drastic problems. If her lying and stealing and drinking continues to escalte, she needs to be in couseling or a group session of some sort...
Sorry for you troubles...
2007-09-18 04:17:39 · answer #2 · answered by jessica_loran22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has anyone actually put their foot down and told her to shape up or ship out? Your sister isn't going to improve the way things are going. How is it that she has a car? If she doesn't work, who paid for it and who pays for the insurance?
She isn't living in a fantasy world. She's living the life your parents provided for her, and instead of turning on each other, they need to stand together and help their child. Counseling is the place to start, but honestly your sister is an adult. The consequences of her actions have to be made clear to her and your parents probably have to do some tough love to save her. She won't stop this behavior unless she has to, and its up to them to do it. You can help by supporting your parents and helping them do the hard stuff. But keep in mind that this isn't your child. If they are thinking divorce, then there are more problems than just this going on.
2007-09-18 04:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey we know its very hard I've been there but the thing is I don't have a sister it was all me doing it last year i was doing so many wrong things i stole a truck and got 1 year probation so I've got my life straighten out now so i guess everyone learns by there mistakes.
I sure hope everything gets better!!
2007-09-18 04:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what your going through , my sister had three of them like this it was bad sometimes she didnt know if they were dead or alive and they were rasied good , but we live in a small town , first of all when she comes in they need not to put up with it , i dont care how old i was if i didnt respect my parents home my dad whould of bent me over his knee a whipped my butt and i knew this ,they would have not let me come in and destroy their home , and sometimes even though this hurts call the police , let them pick her up , let go of your pride when it comes to your children it may settle her down and just let her know yall did it because yall love her and you didnt know any other way.if it dont work the first time do it agan she will finely learn your not putting up with it.goodluck.
2007-09-18 04:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents really need to lay down the law. Your entire family also needs to pray and seed God. Trust me when I say nothing is too difficult for Him. I will keep your family in my prayers.
2007-09-18 04:12:14 · answer #6 · answered by Seeker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
listen good and listen clear you need to tell your parents that they need to lock her up in jail or put her in a rehab because if they dont your family will be constantly destroyed you need to take a stand no not later ... you need to threten your parents that you will run away if they dont do somthinfg about her illegal problems ........
2007-09-18 04:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by MAMACITA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you will tell your mothers and dads approximately him except she stops speaking to him. by using fact your mothers and dads WILL have faith you. whether she sneaks in the back of your back, she'd be much less probable to understanding the outcomes that would ensue.
2016-12-26 16:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a counselor for her.
2007-09-18 03:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by LadyAnis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋