My mother-in-law gets on my last nerve! If it's not 1 thing it's another. My husdand & I have been together for 8 years & married 3 of the 8. Now that we're married she acts like she hates me. My husband's in the air force & is staioned in Japan for 2 years. He got us phones b-4 he left with the knowledge that his phone would work in while he's away, his doesn't, any way he asked me 2 call the phone company & have the phones turned off, that's exactly what I did. Now, somebody tell me y his mom went rite behind me this morning & called them! When I told her that I had talked 2 the people & what they had told me she flies off the handle, (just acted really ugly.) Telling me I was wrong and that I didn't know what I was talking about. Y do I let her get 2 me like I do? I've talked 2 my husband & he always says "That's just mama she don't mean any harm." Well yes she does, simply b-cuz it's me, she's disliked me since the day we were married. Help me, b-4 I let this woman drive me crazy!
2007-09-18 05:04:56 · 8 answers · asked by luvsthepink 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's as difficult being a mother-in-law as being a daughter-in-law. Women are by nature, very territorial. Mothers become so accustomed to being the only woman in their son's lives, that it takes them quite a while to realise that they need to take a back seat when he dates or marries. Some moms-in-law seem to be unable to let go and this is when the trouble starts. Likewise, if the daughter-in-law does not respect her husband's relationship with his mother and tries to end it. Mother's-in-law should remember that the Bible says that a man must grow up and leave his father and mother's house and become independent. I feel for you. Nothing worse than being married to a "mummy's boy".
2007-09-25 05:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, mothers-in-law, what fantastic creatures... Listen, she's just used to being the only woman in her baby boy's life. When you two were just dating, she didn't see you as a potential threat because she probably always assumed in the back of her sour little heart that it wouldn't last, but now he's gone and married you, and now she knows you're there to stay and it drives her crazy because she's used to being your husband's go-to girl for advice, help, etc. Your husband needs to stop making excuses for her, though, and let his mom know that he's all grown up and has a wife now who very much needs to be respected. You have to get your man on your side or you'll be fighting a losing battle. As for Mama, just say, "I really love how much you still care about your son's well-being. I just want you to know that he's in good hands with me," or something like that. That way, she'll feel like her intentions are being understood, and maybe (hopefully) she'll back off a bit.
2007-09-18 05:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the phone was to be able to keep in contact with him and his doesn't work then what was the point of keeping the phones on? I would not let her upset you. So what she called the phone company, they will not even talk to her as the bill is not in her name. If she calls you yelling just let her know you can not understand her as she is screaming and to call back later when she has calmed down. Take control of your life back as until now you handed it over to her. Your husband's answer makes no sense if that is the way she is great but, that doesn't mean you have to be abused by anyone. Mother or not.
Your husband's attitude as "well, that's mom" states that her behavior is acceptable and she will continue to walk all over you until he tells her to knock it off. Clearly, she has no respect for you.
2007-09-19 09:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the first place when you got married you should be prepared with the consequences like in-laws wouldn't like you. You cannot please everybody, someone will hate you somehow. It could be your neighbour, your office mate, the saleslady, the waiter, the taxi driver or even your own family. If your in-laws has a grudge on you it's normal. Specially in the Philippines where every word or every action has a meaning... even if you really didn't mean anything. All I could say is just let her hate you she's the one who's accountable for that, not you. She's the one who'll get stressed, will have additional wrinkles or any heart related problems if she doesn't stop minding in your life. Your husband has to be in the middle, don't expect him to take your side, she is his mother remember? Don't let her ruin your marriage.
2007-09-18 05:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by Myla O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Handle her the same way that you would handle the situation if it was your mother.
The only way that you will get through to her is to say: do you want me to get between you and your son? I am sure that she will say no, then you ask, then why is it that you are getting between my husband and me?
Stand up for yourself or she will trample you, and the relationship with your husband.
Tell her, that you will not tolerate her butting into your business, the same way that you wouldn't tolerate your mom's. If you can treat your mother in law with the same love, respect and straight talk as your own mother
then she shouldn't have any problems with it.
2007-09-18 05:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by judyrobins14 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know you won't be able to understand this yet sometime you will. the subsequent maximum suitable factor to being a mom is being a grandma. In some methods being a grandma is extra perfect. Please do no longer permit it get to you. She is merely super excited. I easily have one son and he's 30 now. whilst he grow to be born everyone reported how a lot he feels like his dad's family individuals. And unquestionably he does. i'm chuffed he has the family individuals genes even those of my in-regulations, yet he acts merely like me. we are very very a lot alike. I merely advised everyone "nicely I easily have the stretch marks to coach it". permit her be and merely snigger, that is barely a compliment to the reality she is worked as much as be a grandma. incredibly there is an entire udder understated love that grandmas have. i know the affection of being a mom yet a grandma, wow!!!!! no longer something like it. every physique that solutions you that may no longer a grandma won't be able to inform you what that is like. and you recognize what, now he has infants of his very own and that they very a lot desire their dad's (my son) factor.
2016-10-18 23:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by bachmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since her son is not here
why is she visiting you, & don't tell her any thing from now on
2007-09-18 05:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you will be have trouble with until she is alive.sorry
2007-09-18 07:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by mirka_1412 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋