I’m 17 and i have a problem with my stepmom. My step mom is loud, bossy, and rude without knowing it. I have a boyfriend, and I love to spend time with him. I’m not materialistic at all. i don't need gifts and pleasantries to make me happy but he likes to buy me stuff, even if i tell him many times not too. My boyfriend has a job and works for his money. Lately, my step mom has been an even bigger b.tch than usual.The other night, she tried to tell me that i USE my boyfriend, because he likes to buy me stuff, and that I should respect him. She says I’m taking advantage over the fact that he has money and that it's not my role in the relationship to use up all of his money. i don't ask him to buy me stuff. She's never around to see how we act, and how i reject his offers, and i made that clear to her. so is she wrong to ASSUME and tell me to my face that i'm using him? Read this to http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AidmdI_wvDt6SMaqarLsMxK.7BR.;_ylv=3?qid=20070916211551AAsVNWF
2007-09-16 17:36:45 · 16 answers · asked by RojaRego 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It does not sound like you have a very good home life. I am sorry for that. Yes, she is wrong to tell you that. I would ignore her. If you know that you are not using your boyfriend do not worry about what she says. Enjoy what you have with your boyfriend. You wont have to live there forever.
2007-09-16 17:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your step-mom is jealous because maybe she doesn't get that kind of attention or because she misses getting it. Being your step-mom she still needs to be respected and if you are doing that, then maybe you and her should sit down and have a talk about how she needs to respect you in the same way you respect her. And that you can't control your boyfriend giving you items, especially if you didn't ask for them! Maybe if you gave her something or got your dad to do it, it would settle some of those feelings that she's been missing.
2007-09-16 17:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by delainaparker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear (read) alot about your "step parent" but where is your father? Fact you need to know - some women do not know how to be friends with or friendly with other women of any age. Remember this for the rest of your life, it will get you far in life. She is taking her frustration out on you. Its obvious to me that she has some major issue and you happen to be her punching bag. So punch back not literally! Next time ask her what her problem is either with you or about you but in a I am so confused tone of voice. Yes, there is a difference. Then suggest you talk about it with your father. She will either agree or disagree. I am assuming she has a problem with ur dad so he will pick up on her bullshit and even if he doesnt you need to mention it. That way you are all clear.
2007-09-16 17:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is wrong to assume that your using him especially when she doesn't know the whole story. It also sounds like she might be a little jealous because she didn't get treated that way when she was young and she's looking for someone else to take it out on.
but in situations like this you have to try to be the bigger person and its not always fun. you just have to keep in mind that she doesn't know what is going on with the situation. you have to try to not let things like this get to you.
2007-09-16 20:13:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to your dad and tell him how you are feeling. Maybe you need to move in with your mum for a while. Or, seeing as though you are 17, save up some money and move out
2007-09-16 19:07:31 · answer #5 · answered by Suzieq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your step-mother should mind her own business. Maybe your father didn't court her the way that your boyfriend does. She seems a little jealous.
2007-09-16 17:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by Francine Frensky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's just jealous because she never had a boyfriend to take care of her , so if he likes to buy u things who cares as long as he does it because he wants to u should prove her wrong and do something nice for him to show that u appreciate what he does
2007-09-16 17:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jellybean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her to leave your relationship with your BF alone, your relationship is your business not hers or anyone elses... Or when she brings it upm change the subject, rise above it all. No one has the right to assume anything about your relationship except you.
2007-09-16 17:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did the thought ever enter your head, that your step-mother could be jealous..Many
actions and words are spoken and played
out because one is jealous..
2007-09-16 18:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by Harriet S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhhh hell naw i would tell her Your not my mom step off *****
and about the Boyfriend thing you seem like you deserve things for what you go thro everyday good luck
2007-09-16 17:48:28 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋