Family & Relationships - 25 December 2007

I'm hurt so bad and i don't know what to do...I found out that my husband had a mistress and they made love at my back....what should i do? i don't want to be affected but i cant help it...

2007-12-25 15:34:32 · 17 answers · asked by jenn 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Four years ago I had got divorced and their was in the decree that my wife restore her last name back to her maiden name. She has not done so yet . Is there any legal action that should be taken?

2007-12-25 15:33:33 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I have been dateing the greatest girl in the world since 11 grade. For years now. She is the kindest person in the world. She is in school right now to be a journalist and I am in my 3rd year for a ba in science. I want to propose but i feel like i am holding her back. She wouldint even addmit 2 this. I want 2 go 2 med school next year and would have 2 move away.

2007-12-25 15:32:05 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My sons father has been paying me ($***.**) a week to stay home with our son (we are not together). I wanted to get a job but he talked me out of it, saying it was better for our boy if I was home to raise him. Over the last several months he has complained that he has not had the money, and that I need to get a job because I am just a golddigger. I finally found a job but will not be able to start until the first of the year and will not recieve a paycheck until end of Jan. My problem is that he has only sent 2 out of the last six checks and I have had to sell everything of ANY value to buy food for my child, I have nothing left to sell and three weeks until have more money coming in and I do not qualify for welfare or unimployment. I have even had to sell plasma twice a week. My son's father stores his belongings in my home, including two antique rifles belonging to his grandfather. I am desperate enough now that I feel I have no choice but to sell one of them to make ends meet.

2007-12-25 15:31:19 · 5 answers · asked by Sunny D 1 in Family

Okay. I am at the age when you have urges. No, not sex urges, other urges. I want to have a boyfriend that will hold me and kiss me all the time. I have urges to make out *blush* with my crushes and stuff like that. Well I am worried that I might date this crush I have and then start making our or something(hes the kind of guy that woudl make out and go that far) but I don't want to. I want my first big kiss to be with a boyfriend that I know will be with me for a while and not a month or somthing like that...so what do I do?

2007-12-25 15:30:34 · 11 answers · asked by Jamie 1 in Singles & Dating

Danny is this guy i know from when i was younger. He is 22, and i am 18 (almost 19) now, and at a get together, we hung out. After about 5 hours of him flirting with me, he gave me his number and asked me to call him. Our parents both gave us money to shop for clothes, so he wanted to shop with me at the mall. Even though I have known him for a long time, i don't know him well. All i know is he is HOOOOT, basically from what i can tell, amazing, but he has had many many girlfriends. Actually a month ago his ex left him for another guy which was hard for him. If he likes me or if there is more to this. You guys know about as much as i do, i don't know if i trust him or not. He is the only guy ever to make me feel nervous. Weird. Should i call him and go shopping? Or what do you suggest? I kinda want to get to know him better....I don't know what to do!


Thank you for your answers!!

Merry Christmas btw!

2007-12-25 15:29:44 · 27 answers · asked by CC 3 in Singles & Dating

Is this normal for married couples? Not sleeping together also contributes to why we don't make love. We average about one quickie every 2 months and that is the truth.

We have two boys, ages 4 & 7 and she lets them sleep with her in our bed, which means, I usually sleep in one of the boys beds. She feels I'm getting the best sleep, as I can sleep alone, where she has two kids stretching out in her bed. I've asked her several times, lets's get them out and she continues to make excuses (i.e., not tonight, tomorrow night).

We never meet up in the morning for a cuddle or anything. We never kiss goodnight or good morning.

2007-12-25 15:28:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We bought them gifts and I told them what she wanted.

2007-12-25 15:28:31 · 16 answers · asked by knarf s 1 in Family

I've been seeing this guy for a while now.

The other night he started gently strangling me around the neck with his hands when we were having sex (I was on top).. it was really kinda weird because he didn't ask but he did it really gently (and I trust him and know he would stop if I said to stop).

I think he might have a thing for it because although this is the first time, previous times he's kind of... I don't know but there's been a lot of pressure around my airways before when I'm on the bottom and sometimes the pillow ends up a little across my neck, kinda hard to explain.

I mean I can always breathe still so if he's into it I don't mind letting him... I read a little about the fetish erotic auto-asphyxiation (or whatever it is) in google but just wanted to know, is this a common thing? Why do they like to do this? What makes it such a turn-on?

2007-12-25 15:27:04 · 18 answers · asked by deedee 2 in Singles & Dating

ok i get super homesick. i dont know why. and sometimes i cant even go to a friends house for one night....

im not young, im a teenager, i just dont know how to get over being away from my parents. and im always the last one awake, about to cry.

now tomorrow im going with my friend, to orlando flordia (8 hours away), and i REALLY REALLY want to go but i dont know how to. please give me advice.

2007-12-25 15:26:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We have lived here for over 2 years and two women moved in below 1 month ago. They have no furniture and smoke away from there apartment not on there porch like away from the apartment. Well a couple of days ago we are getting an odd smell in our bathroom. I can't describe the smell. I have never smelt anything like it before. It becomes very strong when they start to run there bathroom fan and gets much weaker when it is off. I am worried it is some kind of drug. I have three children 2 young twins under 4 months. Any ideas??

2007-12-25 15:26:53 · 19 answers · asked by Times2 3 in Family

why does my gf not have sex anymore? we use to have sex like all the time then she just stopped its been 1 1/2 years that weve been going out and the past two months she wont have sex anymore like i cant even touch her boob and shes like omg stop i dont understand why......... and she says shes not cheating on me but i cant help it she use to be so horny can it just be natural? 3 motnhs no sex or is she doing something behind my back.... she constanly hides to me shes going to her bosses house shes 18 hes 35 but he has 3 kids and his gf lives with him but why does she hide it then i constanly think shes cheating on me with her ******* boss am i wrong to think this? i dont want to assume even though i kinda am she says she loves me and everything and when i do say something she cries and says that she loves me too much to cheat on me i dont understand any ideas?

2007-12-25 15:24:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Even when they say they're not going to, which in my case was the exact night before, and he did anyways. I didn't even plan on doing anything with him, but it just happened. So actual intercourse though.

It sucks because he's a really good friend and I don't want him ignoring me.

But do guys do this to you? Or maybe it's just me, haha.

2007-12-25 15:22:22 · 11 answers · asked by Scuba Diver :) 3 in Singles & Dating

Ill try to make this short and sweet, I met this guy at college and he is a great guy, I have no complaints about how well he has treated and respected me, but here is the problem, I have a hard time committing to a relationship, always have. And the problem is I feel like we are on separate paths, and backgrounds, and I come from a great family, but a dad who thinks no one will ever be good enough for me, and I just want to bring someone home that they will be proud of, and I feel like he isnt that guy, and in the back of my head I feel like he isnt the one, and some people tell me that they knew the instant they met there one. Help me, because I'm just so confused if i should keep on dating him?

2007-12-25 15:22:15 · 10 answers · asked by Natalie J 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm leaving in 2 months for NYC.
I wanna clear things up with my ex-bf.
Whenever I see him he's always smiling and staring at me.
But I'm just still pissed at what he done to me.

What should I do? Should I just let him go and live my life? Or should I try talking to him? Suggestions?

2007-12-25 15:21:41 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm 14 and I have a boyfriend and we kissed on Friday. She was ok with that but she doesn't like that I'm shutting her out of my life! I talk on the phone all the time with my bff and I lock my door. She told me I could shut my door but not lock it, then she changed it to it had to be open all the time! The only door I'm alowed to lock and close is the bathroom! Then she noticed I was sneakeing on the phone on there and I was spending all of my time in there so then I could only close the door when I'm actually going to the barhroom! Now even when I'm peeing it has to be open! I'm a teenager and I need privacy! My mom thinks I hate her and she told me she was going to kill her self because I hate her! But I really love her I just want to be able to lock my door! I need privacy! What do I do?

2007-12-25 15:21:14 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-25 15:21:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

The guy is 45 and the girl is 28. (I'm trying to write a story with these two as the leads.)

They have a mentor-student/apprentice relationship and have known each other for about fifteen years.

The guy goes through some trauma (he was raped and kind of tortured), and in an effort to help him recover, and with consent from both guy and girl, they make out.

What do you think?

2007-12-25 15:19:17 · 22 answers · asked by get.real 3 in Singles & Dating

Ok I'm 15 and there is this dude that I go to school with. Recently he told me on aim that he likes me and I told him that I liked him back also. After that we talked on aim like 2 or 3 times and not at school b/c its during winter break. The last time we talked on aim he gave me his number and he said "you should call me" but it was 1 something at night so I didn't call him. After that time we haven't really talked on aim b/c he never signs on anymore. And I know that he's on the computer b/c I see him on myspace everyday but we don't talk on there. What happened? Did I do something wrong? What should I do now? SORRY FOR THE LONG DETAILS ^^

2007-12-25 15:17:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was with this girl seriously for about 16 months, had a ton of fun with her, highly enjoyed her company, we connected extremely well. The last month or two we were facing some distance issues, were 50 minutes apart, but it was just going going to be temporary. Well, one day she breaks up with me over the phone and was extremely mean about it. Won't return calls or anything, totally drops me out of her life in 60 seconds. Add to that, she has a new b/f almost instantly, so it was obviously lined up while she was still with me. I cut all contact with her. Month or two passes and she's messaging me on yahoo, every other week or so, starts telling me she misses us, etc. I finally get an email from her that states she thinks about us and our memories all the time, realizes what a true connection and bond we really did have, and is hinting that she wants to work things out and maybe try it again even if it takes time. Need opinions if I should let her back into my life, or let her go?

2007-12-25 15:14:27 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was with this girl seriously for about 16 months, had a ton of fun with her, highly enjoyed her company, we connected extremely well. The last month or two we were facing some distance issues, were 50 minutes apart, but it was just going going to be temporary. Well, one day she breaks up with me over the phone and was extremely mean about it. Won't return calls or anything, totally drops me out of her life in 60 seconds. Add to that, she has a new b/f almost instantly, so it was obviously lined up while she was still with me. I cut all contact with her. Month or two passes and she's messaging me on yahoo, every other week or so, starts telling me she misses us, etc. I finally get an email from her that states she thinks about us and our memories all the time, realizes what a true connection and bond we really did have, and is hinting that she wants to work things out and maybe try it again even if it takes time. Need opinions if I should let her back into my life, or let her go?

2007-12-25 15:11:52 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-25 15:09:20 · 17 answers · asked by Love 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I have this friend he is a good friend but he is married he is having trouble in his arriage and I have just seperated from myhusband.I know that we like each other because we have expressed these feelings.he dosent want to leave his wife because she stood by him thru soo much but he says that he is in love with me.I don;t really believe him but I have strong feelings for him because he was there when I went thru my seperation,however I dont want him to leave his wife on my account.I know I need to leave him alone for them to be happy but I have tried this 3x's before and he tells me he loves me all the time. What should I do?

2007-12-25 15:08:45 · 18 answers · asked by Lynboges 2 in Marriage & Divorce

A cheater is usually very good in sweet talking (& charming).

2007-12-25 15:08:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I dated my favorite girl in the world for 3 and a half years. A few years ago after we broke up, she told me she got married to a girl. We had a lot of traumatizing stuff happen years back, I will leave the details out, it was nobodys fault. A few months ago she said she broke up with the lesbian, and that she wanted to be with me. Then she vanished. I want to be with her, truthfully I love her, and know she loves me. I called her recently and she said she was maried?( her lesbian wife was present in the room, as we were on the phone) She said to leave her alone. If she was married to man, I never would have considered anything a few months ago when she came back. But since I know she is not really gay, and it is not a legal marriage, I want to try and get her back, and marry her, and love her. Am I wrong?

2007-12-25 15:05:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

You know when you get all cuddly...and your spooning with your girl...does it turn you on or something...? becuase last night i was...with my guyy and we were spooning and i felt somethinggg hard on myyy butt! hahah idk...i just didnt think guys would get turned on by ... spooning? I thought it was just cuddling....

2007-12-25 15:02:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I always feel like I am throwing money away when I buy toys for children because they are broken or cease to be played with within a week.

2007-12-25 15:01:35 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

does being a certain race make one more desirable ?

2007-12-25 14:57:31 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We have been together 3 years, married 1 year and the last 8 months have been just hell. He is very demanding, yet none of my needs are met. He don't work, I work fulltime, but hey all the house work is my responsibility, sex is just something that NEVER happens anymore, cuz he don't need it. I worked my *** off buying his kids great christmas presents, making a huge dinner, then he gets pissed off at me becuase I will not watch a movie filled with sex scenes with his 13 year old kid. Call me old fashion but I don't think kids should see rated R movies.
I am exhausted marriage counceling isn't working.......I just want to give up and get out.
I have never left someone that I loved before I just don't know how to do it.........but I am not in love with him the life has been sucked out of me.....

2007-12-25 14:54:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My sister and I are 2 yrs apart. When I was 15 my sister was always arguing with my parents that they were too strict and said to me that she hate them doesn't want to speak to them, even if she want to ask them for money. From then she kept asking me for money from my weekly allowance and I barely had any money for myself. I even starve myself oftenly to give her money. I gave her money not because I want to, but because I love her and don't want her to starve. I told her to stop but she wouldn't. I told my parents and begged them to tell my sister to stop but they wouldn't. I was very mad at them. That problem continued until I left for college. I went away for college just to get away from them. Last week I graduated from college. Now I move away from home. My family asked me to move back home, but I said no. I think back and still don't understand why my parents didn't do their job and told my sister to stop demanding me for money. I really want to know why. What can I do?

2007-12-25 14:52:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family