I was with this girl seriously for about 16 months, had a ton of fun with her, highly enjoyed her company, we connected extremely well. The last month or two we were facing some distance issues, were 50 minutes apart, but it was just going going to be temporary. Well, one day she breaks up with me over the phone and was extremely mean about it. Won't return calls or anything, totally drops me out of her life in 60 seconds. Add to that, she has a new b/f almost instantly, so it was obviously lined up while she was still with me. I cut all contact with her. Month or two passes and she's messaging me on yahoo, every other week or so, starts telling me she misses us, etc. I finally get an email from her that states she thinks about us and our memories all the time, realizes what a true connection and bond we really did have, and is hinting that she wants to work things out and maybe try it again even if it takes time. Need opinions if I should let her back into my life, or let her go?
2007-12-25 15:11:52 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No leae her alone she wants you to be her rebound dude ...you to be there when shes tired of dating others ....there are better women out there and you dont deserve that esp if oyu knew the other guy was aroudn while you wee with her. She was only looking for a reason to break up wit hyou which is why she reacted like that when you guys broke up.
2007-12-25 15:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by Wizdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can't really judge anybody here, but I would just let her go. How can you really trust someone who did that to you? Maybe she's just using you? Or perhaps she could have been cheating on you when you two where together, which is why she got another bf so quickly, and it just didn't work out, so she went back to you?
I think that people like that don't deserve a second chance--They should realize that a good relationship is valuble, and requires commitment and honsety. You don't realize what you truly have until it's gone.
2007-12-25 15:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on with your life.Find a new relationship,or at least date lots,and give her time to do the same.I think you'll find she was willing to use you as her comfort blankie while she was recovering from hurts and wounds from the end of the new/now old/relationship.She needs you right now because she is on shaky ground emotionally,and wants to use you as emotional toilet tissue to wipe up the mess this other guy left behind.
With time,she will get over it and you won't be so appealing anymore.Better to find that out from a distance.
Right now,you are calling the shots,in control of the choices in your life.Keep it that way.
2007-12-25 15:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mya H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust her just yet. It's ironic how she broke up with you and now wants to be friends again. It's pretty much up to you but I would definitely not take her back right away. Wait a while. i mean ignore her sometimes to test her loyalty. You have to make sure that this is what you want and that she is serious about you. there is also other fish in the sea. i would try to meet other people at the same time and base your decision on that. after like 6 months of dating other people
2007-12-25 15:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by ace7star 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? I would think about this if I were you. First ask yourself if its worth getting hurt again because she obviously is a user. She ran back to you when her other fling fizzled out. If you are still in love with her and you don't mind being hurt again then sure take her back. But if you think you are better than that (which you are) then I wouldn't give her the time of day. Its your call though. Good luck.
2007-12-25 15:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, she lost you already. She needs to learn her lesson. If I were you I would move on. If you go back with her, she would do the same thing again, because she does not love you. She is going to lose the respect she had with you. She was probably with him, when she was with you, and then when she broke up with you, and the other fellow knew about it, and realized he had to be responsible with her then, he let her go, thus she goes back to you. Since women do not like to be alone, and she knows that you are a sure bet. Let her learn her lesson.
2007-12-25 15:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by Eirene Goddess of Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that's a hard one. I am guessing she missed you, someone paid her attention which she lapped up so she dumped you and went out with them to find they just didn't measure up. Common mistake both men and women make. I would give her another chance but I would take it slow and make her prove she is serious this time. Everyone deserves a second chance but you don't deserve to have your heart trod all over a second time either good luck :)
2007-12-25 15:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by kimbathewhitelion02 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Were you her first relationship? If yes, a second chance is fine but beware. If no, you are setting yourself up for it to happen again, don't do it. Based on the info given this is the best advice I can give.
2007-12-25 15:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by Steveo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the same as far as connections and bonds that you two had, maybe you should pursue this. You never know who your soul mate might be. Good Luck
2007-12-25 15:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by sandy t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful...be hesitant, and be weary. but try it. i know how much i miss my bf. and i wasn't so kind at times and i had some pretty messed up stuff lined up too. and just short of begging i've asked him back but he isn't ready. but i feel really bad and would want him to reconsider. so if you have it in you, do yourself a favor and do something that would will regret NOT doing later. forgive her and try to work it out.
2007-12-25 15:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by Twisted Poet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋