My sister and I are 2 yrs apart. When I was 15 my sister was always arguing with my parents that they were too strict and said to me that she hate them doesn't want to speak to them, even if she want to ask them for money. From then she kept asking me for money from my weekly allowance and I barely had any money for myself. I even starve myself oftenly to give her money. I gave her money not because I want to, but because I love her and don't want her to starve. I told her to stop but she wouldn't. I told my parents and begged them to tell my sister to stop but they wouldn't. I was very mad at them. That problem continued until I left for college. I went away for college just to get away from them. Last week I graduated from college. Now I move away from home. My family asked me to move back home, but I said no. I think back and still don't understand why my parents didn't do their job and told my sister to stop demanding me for money. I really want to know why. What can I do?
2007-12-25 14:52:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Is that the worst they ever did? Don't complain, my parents cut me off at age 10. They even told me that I had to buy my own clothes, to ge a paper route for money. I did but it wasn't enough so I resorted to crime. By 11 I was shop lifting and stealing bikes and by 14 was doing B&E's, stealing cars and selling drugs. By 17 I had been arested well over 20 times and they did'nt even seem to care. The judges took sympathy on me and I never spent more than 3 mo. in the youth home at a time. They told me 1 more time and I would be tried as an adult and sent to prison. I was scared so I got a job and stayed away from crime.
The point is, it was learned behavior from being neglected. Today I have a great relationship with my parents. I put myself above them and learned to forgive.
2007-12-25 15:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister would not listen to them if they told her to stop. You did not do your sister any favors by always giving her money. You let her stay mad at your parents by giving her money. She would have had to work it out with your parents if you would have just said NO. That is called tough love. When you left for college did you still give her money? I think not. What did she do then? Your parents were on the right track by not giving in to your sister. You loved your sister and gave her money. Do you really think she would have starved? I am sure she would have swallowed her pride and asked for help.
2007-12-25 23:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by Blessed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all because you let it happen.your sister got very dependent on you and you just let her.didn't you say no even just for once?you always gave and gave.if you said no maybe she would have no choice but to go to your parents.and did your parents know that your sister always asked you for money?when it comes to "starving" part,was there no food in the house?the best way if it really bugs you is to ask your parents.it's right that you already move out,you're in the right age.talk to them when you get to visit them.tell them how it affected you,tell them that you were hurt,tell them about your feelings,so just as to let it out of your system.
2007-12-25 23:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by αςhα ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't your parents job, it was YOURS! Grow up!
2007-12-25 23:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah...I think you are living up to your name....time to get over it already....
2007-12-25 23:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋