I dated my favorite girl in the world for 3 and a half years. A few years ago after we broke up, she told me she got married to a girl. We had a lot of traumatizing stuff happen years back, I will leave the details out, it was nobodys fault. A few months ago she said she broke up with the lesbian, and that she wanted to be with me. Then she vanished. I want to be with her, truthfully I love her, and know she loves me. I called her recently and she said she was maried?( her lesbian wife was present in the room, as we were on the phone) She said to leave her alone. If she was married to man, I never would have considered anything a few months ago when she came back. But since I know she is not really gay, and it is not a legal marriage, I want to try and get her back, and marry her, and love her. Am I wrong?
2007-12-25 15:05:06 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jenny Straw LOL I have to admitt you rcomment made me laugh. I know, believe me. I feel like it's a Jerry Springer episode sometimes? As for the dude below Jenny, that is good advice.
2007-12-25 15:21:57 · update #1
Colleen O, you sound like a man hater sweetie. Take it easy, I am not ofended, but you also made me laugh with your comments
2007-12-25 15:55:31 · update #2
Liz: because Gay marriage is illegal in every state in the US accept Mass. It is the only atate where it is recognized and has any legal binding obligations.
2007-12-26 07:05:48 · update #3
She's got lots of issues with her inner psyche. She thought she was straight, then lesbian. Not sure what she thinks of her orientation today.
She seems to have made a commitment of some sort to a woman. This relationship appears to give her something she wants. Whether she's in a legal marriage or not is irrelevant. What matters is what she thinks she wants.
Will she want something different at a future date? No one can tell.
I wouldn't say you were wrong, but you might be chasing a woman who can't be caught. At least until she knows what she wants.
My suggestion is to stay in contact a bit, let her know you're still interested, but don't plead nor promise anything. And don't stop looking for yourself- don't make yourself unavailable to any other woman.
2007-12-25 15:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by going_for_baroque 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should give up. it sounds like she doesnt know what she wants. be a friend for her, but just leave it as that until she sorts out what she wants to do.
even though gay marriage is not legally binding, it still would mean a lot to her, and it is still a big commitment whether it is a guy or a girl.
she sounds like she really needs a friend to talk to and that she is really confused right now. all you can do is be there for her, and if its meant to happen eventually then it will, but make sure she has her mind sorted out before you rush into anything or else you will probably keep repeating the same situation over and over again.
2007-12-25 23:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for her to contact you-see if she is actually leaving her "wife" or just having some difficulties
2007-12-25 23:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you're in denial because your ego (manhood?) won't let you face the truth...that's what makes me quesion your manhood...a REAL man would chalk it up to expierence and walk away.
2007-12-25 23:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL i feel so much better about my problems when i hear stuff like this.
2007-12-25 23:12:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋