Ill try to make this short and sweet, I met this guy at college and he is a great guy, I have no complaints about how well he has treated and respected me, but here is the problem, I have a hard time committing to a relationship, always have. And the problem is I feel like we are on separate paths, and backgrounds, and I come from a great family, but a dad who thinks no one will ever be good enough for me, and I just want to bring someone home that they will be proud of, and I feel like he isnt that guy, and in the back of my head I feel like he isnt the one, and some people tell me that they knew the instant they met there one. Help me, because I'm just so confused if i should keep on dating him?
2007-12-25 15:22:15 · 10 answers · asked by Natalie J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
emm,,,, tricky one,,, i can feel your situation,,
well, just let the thing go,, go with the flow,, if u make a mistake.. u gana learn from it..
dont make it sound muddy,, we all have been through a lot.. it is not the end of the word..
and if your daddy say no one will ever be good enough for me,, tell him,, i might turn to lesbo with that statment of urs..
alas, he is not the one but u might make him the one..u lead him.. ..
2007-12-25 15:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about what other people think. Not everyong knows immediately: it takes longer to see if someone is of good character; whether they're honest and have integrity and are good to their word. In the meantime, if you're not living at home, don't take guys home until you see if they'll be around for awhile. And all dads think no one is ever good enough for their daughters, but I hope your dad does picture you someday getting married and having children, not staying at home because no man is good enough. If you can't commit to a relationship, then maybe it's time for some counseling.
2007-12-25 23:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let your father tell you who you should date, and who is or isn't right for you. Who is he trying to run your life? Claim yourself and your life; own up to the bat! You can't help who you like, and if they don't like him, well I guess they will have to come and learn to like him.
Now if you feel drifted with him, try spending more time with him. Reminisce on all the good times! Have a romantic night out. After these, if you still feel drifted and on separate paths.. this is when you two should sit down and talk about your relationship and it's future.
**Warning! Please keep in mind, you're confused. Don't make any decisions on your relationship with a confused mind. This could lead to regrets and such. Take a few days to yourself and cleanse and clear your mind. Then go for it with your boyfriend. Make decisions after the actions are taken!
Good luck girlll :) You'll make it through and everything will work out in the end! Have faith.
2007-12-25 23:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt matter what other people think. They might not like it, I know I hate who my friend is going out with, but its her choice, her life, and Im not her friend to dictate her choices or even talk rudely behind her back (as other friends are doing!)
Just date him. Dont say thing like "Together forever, promise to be there forever, kets marry one day". Just let it unfold. And bring him home to meet your family. If your dad says nothing is good enough for his little girl, then make a joke of it and act like everything he wants isnt good enough for him!
"You want that tie? You're kidding, it's not good enough for you, I want to to have a better tie relationship!" Always make a joke of it. Its totally erases the whole aspect of an argument.
2007-12-25 23:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why or why not you would reject a relationship with him. Is it because you don't like HIM or is it because you're reluctant to commit to a relationship with all the emotional experience a relationship entails. What about him is not ideal or do you not like? Is that enough to reject him or make you want to find other men? Nobody's really perfect in every way.
What are the essential things you want from a guy and a relationship?
2007-12-25 23:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my girls dad didn't think that i was good enough for her but we have been together over three years and we are about to get married. now her dad sees i am right for her once he got to know me he sees in away me and him are alike and he loves the fact that we are together. when i asked him why he didn't like me he told me noone would ever be good for his daughter unless they made a younger him even then he would not be right for her. if you like him and he treats you right you should be with him i mean come on theres not alot of us good guys out there. take him to meet your family try to find stuff out that him and your dad both likes and see what happens give it some time.
2007-12-25 23:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by jam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I think you are using your father as a crutch for your on feelings. I think its you that isn't content with him being "good enough" for you. You admit he isn't "the one" but imagine your life without him in it. Does it hurt??? If not MOVE ON! It sounds like he is a good guy do why not let him get on with his life as well as yourself. Go ahead and tell him the truth and give him the kind of life he deserves!
2007-12-25 23:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Karen K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well u both need 100% happy with each other, so do what ur heart SCREAMS @ u 2 do. i think i would talk2 him and my dad, if it is not better after that, end it smoothly.
P.S. Hope it works out 4 the best!!
2007-12-25 23:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart and gut tell you. If he really cares for you and loves you, your father and other skeptics will see that. Don't worry about what other people think, they can't buy your happiness. Worry about what you think and what you truly feel is right regardless of anyone else's opinions.
2007-12-25 23:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jocey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to try and please your dad all your life, you will never bring anyone home. You'll always be afraid of his reaction. Worry more about what you think, rather than what your dad thinks.
2007-12-25 23:27:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋