I was with this girl seriously for about 16 months, had a ton of fun with her, highly enjoyed her company, we connected extremely well. The last month or two we were facing some distance issues, were 50 minutes apart, but it was just going going to be temporary. Well, one day she breaks up with me over the phone and was extremely mean about it. Won't return calls or anything, totally drops me out of her life in 60 seconds. Add to that, she has a new b/f almost instantly, so it was obviously lined up while she was still with me. I cut all contact with her. Month or two passes and she's messaging me on yahoo, every other week or so, starts telling me she misses us, etc. I finally get an email from her that states she thinks about us and our memories all the time, realizes what a true connection and bond we really did have, and is hinting that she wants to work things out and maybe try it again even if it takes time. Need opinions if I should let her back into my life, or let her go?
2007-12-25 15:14:27 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try it once again. If it's meant to be then it will work itself out. I'm not a big fan of second chance romance, but it's Christmas. All the best to you.
2007-12-25 15:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by D J 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends how much she means to you. Or how serious you were before. Your girl is human too. We all make mistakes.It's what we do after those mistakes that make us better persons. Although letting her back to your life instantly may give her a wrong impression of love, it's still your call. Talk to her first and let it be her burden to decide. You've made your decision already by thinking about it. It's time she does her own. Meanwhile, keep yourself busy. No harm in meeting other people. Broaden your horizon and don't fear to lose a grip on someone who cannot get a grip on herself. If she's really wants you back, she WON'T JUST HINT IT. she will say it straight up, the way she broke up with you. Be loving, but be smart too.
2007-12-25 23:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by ryugeneral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no!!
What she did will always cast a shadow of mistrust over your relationship. Obviously, this new guy didn't work out and you're her back up plan. Cut her loose! Since she obviously had this other dude lined up while you were together, you know already she can't be trusted.
What happens if you get back with her, she gets bored again, thinks things might be better with someone else, then leaves you again? She'll know she can do that becaus you'll take her back every time.
Move on.. She obviously thought this other guy was great enough to end things with you for, so she's made her bed.. she should lie in it. And you should find someone you can trust who will be honest with you. You deserve better.
2007-12-25 23:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by spookynative 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i have been through this before unfortunately and its not fun at all and im sorry to hear about that. well i made the mistake of giving him another chance. he just ended up braking up with me for another girl again. i bought into the "i miss us baby" crap and i gave him a third chance, which was my last mistake. i dropped him and now i have found someone who would never do anything like that to me. listen, if she dont see how good of a connection yall had in the first place, its obvious that she didnt care to see it. my best advice is to pray about it and move on. God will send you someone else. thats what he did for me. me and the guy i am with now met a few weeks after i prayed about my previous relationship, asking for help letting him go. So we have been going out ever since.:) letting go of someone who didnt care for me the way he should have was the best choice i could have ever made. good luck and ill be praying for you. God bless :)
2007-12-25 23:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason she wants to get back with you is because things didn't work out with the new guy. Think about it: She breaks up with you and quickly gets with someone else. So now her and the new guy isn't working out so she wants to come back to you! No way, she sounds like the type who just needs a boyfriend and doesn't actually care about anybody. She just dropped you like an old toy and moved on to the next one. That is not very nice or caring.
You may still have feelings for her and everything but please do not make yourself a doormat. She will do it again, trust me. If you don't go back to her it will teach her a valuable lesson: Don't take people for granted.
2007-12-25 23:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by fingerprint 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guess things did not worked out well with the other person as she wanted huh?
At this moment, she is telling you all the things she think you want to hear just to cloud your judgment of her and revisit those feelings you once had.
It is best for you to leave her alone. She dumped you once, she will do it again and get all bitchy like before.
2007-12-27 16:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by ranay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, move on! She was the one who dropped you right away like a hot potato. Now she's coming back to be with you again. You might be hurt again afterwards. The next time she breaks up with you, I can say she has a new BF or something. She isn't worth your time at all.
2007-12-25 23:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by Brendiie™ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she had someone lined up Tell's you she is not to be trusted right off the bat she broke her trust worthiness with you .
now you can forgive if you like her well enough and want to take a chance with her but I'd not be to quickly to take her back I'd have a talk with her and a understanding . look i do not mean to be cold but they got things out here the doctor does not cure no more ,so she has to be say up front faith-full no more cheating if yous do not make it this time do not bother even e-mailing you in like future at all
2007-12-25 23:23:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe I would want to know why she broke off the relationship so suddenly and so cruelly before I even considered reuniting. I would want to know what justification she had, and why she was involved again so soon afterward. Her behavior raises trust issues and if she isn't willing to provide reasonable answers you may never quite feel the same if you do renew the relationship.
2007-12-25 23:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sure you will be the light of her life till another mr perfect comes along. why line up to have the same thing done to yourself again. She had her chance and she blew it. Find yourself a girl who is only into you and isnt going to ditch you the first time it gets tough
2007-12-25 23:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by auburn 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋