We have been together 3 years, married 1 year and the last 8 months have been just hell. He is very demanding, yet none of my needs are met. He don't work, I work fulltime, but hey all the house work is my responsibility, sex is just something that NEVER happens anymore, cuz he don't need it. I worked my *** off buying his kids great christmas presents, making a huge dinner, then he gets pissed off at me becuase I will not watch a movie filled with sex scenes with his 13 year old kid. Call me old fashion but I don't think kids should see rated R movies.
I am exhausted marriage counceling isn't working.......I just want to give up and get out.
I have never left someone that I loved before I just don't know how to do it.........but I am not in love with him the life has been sucked out of me.....
2007-12-25 14:54:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are emotional and practical issues going on.
Emotionally, you're not getting anything. You don't really need a reason to get out.
The practical issues include the how, the when and the what. For this, you may need an attorney. If we're talking about a couch and a set of dishes, you may consider leaving it. If there is more (like real estate) then you'll need legal help to get it done.
My kids have been watching R-rated movies all their lives. I don't have a problem with that, but I can understand your reluctance. I think it's not that one movie that prompted you to ask. I think it's a lot more.
The disappointing part is him sending you the message that he doesn't find you sexually attractive. Too bad. I think a lot of people can put up with lots, but if the sex is good, the other stuff seems less important.
You're in a bad situation. Hope you find a resolution.
2007-12-25 16:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by going_for_baroque 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way out is a divorce. If you feel you might want to divorce, it is certainly a good thing to talk about with your marriage counselor, either while your husband is there or perhaps you can talk to the counselor alone. You are right, it isn't appropriate for 13 yr olds to watch those types of things, and it does seem like the situation is one sided. If you feel the marriage counseling isn't working, let your counselor know that. It will allow her to change her approach on things to make the counseling more effective. However, BOTH partners need to be working on the marriage together. If you are doing all the work, and he isn't, then the relationship won't work regardless of how much counseling you pursue. Also, have you talked to your husband about how you feel? Does he know you want to leave him?
Good Luck!
2007-12-25 23:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how I did it. I made sure that I slowly but surely put all my stuff around the same spot so I could get to it fast. Made sure it wasn't noticeable. Then once day, when he is gone to work or wherever, have a friend pick you up or load up your car and go. I went to stay with my parents for awhile. He will be mad as hell but will get over it. You will feel sad for awhile but will be happier than you have ever been.
2007-12-25 23:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by hazelkatana 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's using you-kick him out! he needs to leave
2007-12-25 23:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋