Family & Relationships - 24 December 2007

so, me and this guy starting dating at the beginning of the month. he is a great and wonderful guy, but he is not ready to commit to just dating me, which i understand. but I have never been one to see more than one guy at a time (not even talking to another guy)..i don't want to invest my all until i know he is, but i don't know how long that will be and if it will ever be..i don't want my time wasted, yet i truely like him, but i know i will be hurt and get jealous until if and when he does just become me...i really just don't know what to do. i think to myself, well, i should keep my options open to and talk and meet other guys, but it sucks bcs once i like someone as much as i do him, then i really don't give others a chance.... i know patience is a virtue but....someone, tell me what i should do, please.....

2007-12-24 09:27:26 · 5 answers · asked by koifish 2 in Singles & Dating

Hi again everyone. I will try not to make this too long but here is my situation. As usual I REALLY appreciate any and all help from you guys and ladies...so thanks and Merry Xmas!

Alright, to start out...my (future ex) wife and I got married last year when we found out the amazing news that we were having a baby. We were young and in love and wanted to marry anyways but this helped our choice.

So we got married, things weren't so great after awhile...we would argue, fight, be bitter, etc. I'm not saying I'm perfect and neither was she. Also in my opinion we are both GREAT parents. I love my little girl more than anything in the world. I would do anything for her, even fight fire and brimstone.

So my friend from Texas comes to visit us for xmas, I had a work vacation but it ran out and had to return. I came home one day to see them in bed together (the 20th of this month). Then found out it had been happening for 48 hours. My wife still fights and everything.

2007-12-24 09:20:35 · 15 answers · asked by Nathan 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My ex( again) ran off aawy from me again. Every few years we get real real close, quite fast. It is intense and amazing on every level. Then she suddenly does not want to talk, and seems to forget everything that just happened, and becomes emotionally detached. She has ben thru a lot as a child. I asked her why she keeps doing this to me and he response was" I am everything that she wants in her life, and it scares her death" Is this just an excuse ladies? Or is this possible?

2007-12-24 09:18:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

It is really making me sick

2007-12-24 09:16:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

HI

I'm such a dork and really need help i swear and i would love for this to work out.

Ok i've asked advice b4 on here, so need even more help
well i chatted uo this barmaid while i was drunk at a work party which i don't know how.

so we have been out on our first date, it didn't go to bad, we talked a bit conversation ended a bit dry coming to the end which is a bad thing, i think i might of talked a bit to much bout myself, don't think i asked a lot of questions she seemed to i think.

Trouble is we were drinking so i kinda don't know what we talked about but we got a second date and i've got no clue what so ever to talk about to her as my shyness and nervousness gets in my way. We talked about where we grew up, music, etc the usaul just don't know how i'm gonna really tlak to her about it as i new to this really

I REALLY need help here on what to talk about

where i could take her on a second date, i was thinking ice skating as she told me she used to fugure skate

2007-12-24 09:15:26 · 5 answers · asked by crazyirishnuttah 3 in Singles & Dating

who you can rarely see due to finances? He is 1000 miles away, near most of the family. But I cannot afford to travel or stay in a hotel, so we see each other maybe once a year. Christmas seems to be getting sadder for both of us. Would appreciate hearing from others with the same heart ache. Thanks and blessings to all.

2007-12-24 09:12:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

ok im not going to type some long story but... i really want to move my mom does as well she's just holding back on it,were i live now i cant go to the better school cause i live on the border of two citys :{ and we have had trobule like people following me home & this or and and people have tryed to break in,i jsut really wnat her to see that we need to move and it's not jsut a want for me it's for the both of us, i really want to move into a better house so i can go to a real school and be safe :{
what do i tell her???

2007-12-24 09:08:21 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-24 09:06:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Ok i made a mistake and hooked up with a guy i shouldn't have. But the sex was good. I'm sore now, but at the time it was like he was filling me up in a way i never had been before and it felt extremely good (even thought it hurt a little). He was also very dominant and confident and just seemed to know what he was doing. Am i going to be thinking back to this experience every time i'm with a normal guy in the future?

2007-12-24 09:04:19 · 12 answers · asked by Amanda J 1 in Singles & Dating

There's this girl that I dated last year and we broke up like 6 months ago. It took about a week together over it, but she still doesn't want to leave me alone!! I dont know how I should get rid of her. I tried letting her talk to my cousin, but that didnt work so how should i get her to stop!!

2007-12-24 09:01:12 · 4 answers · asked by Ya Already Know!! 2 in Singles & Dating

Theres this girl i had a thing with for a while, and lat weekend she told me she just thought of me as a friend now. So i started to back off to not be the creepy lurker ex. She has been texting me a lot this week but i havn't been able to respond right away because ive been busy. So on Saturday she texted me asking whats up when i was at a family dinner thing so i couldn't respond. then like a hour later she asked if i was mad at her and i was like no why would i be mad at you? then told her i had been busy and asked what she was up to, and she hasn't texted me back...Why would she get all worried about me being mad at her then when i talk to her about it she doesn't even write back????

2007-12-24 08:59:13 · 16 answers · asked by Baseballer 1 in Singles & Dating

(in writing) the card to him. He is a very special man, but I would like to be a bit more creative than that. Help please?

2007-12-24 08:58:40 · 6 answers · asked by TropyWife 1 in Marriage & Divorce

A number of people have said that I am boring on the phone & it is REALLY bringing me down. How can I change this? What tips can I get? How should I act on the phone? Please don't say these people aren't your friends because that's not what I want to hear =(..xx

2007-12-24 08:58:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

tell kids about Santa the truth that is. Okay here is the deal. My hubby had a bad divorce and now they split the holidays. This is our year to have them for the whole Santa thing. Well She told them last week Santa was not real! They are 7 and 10. We worked extra hard for this this year. We had cut backs at work and we struggled to make this happen and now she has told them. Well I have two kids of my own and soon they will know because she wanted to try and ruin our Christmas with them. So how old do you think and how did you break it to them? So I will have a idea about what to do for my kids. :( Inocence is soooo short.

2007-12-24 08:49:13 · 11 answers · asked by lyttledarlin 4 in Marriage & Divorce

undies my wife parades around in!
She is now acting as if she will not wear the stuff anymore because she is mad
Isn't she overracting?
What would you have said, or thought if it was you?

2007-12-24 08:47:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i had a convo w/ my brother cause i was telling him that im scared that my bf would cheat, (i dont trust men cause how i was raised) i love him and i know he loves me and is the best bf you could ask for but i still have an insecurity. anyhow my brother said all men do it and if they dont then its because they are scared they will get caught. is this true? i just would like to know to have other perspectives. my bf is going to new york for christmas and from what my brother told me is now making me worry. please no stupid answers, just the truth. thanks.

2007-12-24 08:45:05 · 17 answers · asked by bubbles 2 in Singles & Dating

*sigh* I get that cheating is disrespecting someone by allowing another into your relationship, and usually thats the end. But my BF is pretty different. When he found out, things were pretty hard, he basically told me that if that ws what i wanted, he loved me enough to let me make my own choices. It may be a little hard to express, but i feel like crap for what I did, and he hasn't been himself. I havent spoken with the other guy ever since, so i've been giving everything i can for him instead. Everything he always wanted from me but it was always so hard to fully give him, my time, my affections, he always did those for me to make up for not meeting him halfway. He doesn't speak a lot anymore, even when we're cuddling, it wasn't like before where he made me feel so warm all the time, i'm doing most of the work now and based on his expressions, im terrible at it. I'm pretty much prepared to give him anything to make things better, asides from time, how can i make up for what i did?

2007-12-24 08:41:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, so you probably hear this all the time, "I want to ask a really hot girl out, but I'm afraid to get turned down... blah, blah blah." Ok, so I'm that good looking over-weight guy, I'm about 6 months away from getting the "extras" off. I get checked out a lot by a lot of women. My gal-pals say I have a powerful, attractive and "magnetic" presence. So I'm ready to come out of my shell and connect with some of the amazing, beautiful women I see all the time - even though I'm still overweight. I'm also in my early 30's (though most women think I'm in my twenties)

So hey, I need to ask... should I even bother? I mean, in my brain, really attractive women have their pick of guys - they can hook up with anyone - why would they hook up with me?

Thoughts?

2007-12-24 08:39:42 · 3 answers · asked by ? 3 in Singles & Dating

after a very bitter divorce and seven years later one has still not have had contact with the children. after legal system failed and all other avenues one is still stuck in emotional merry go round. Although another year has past and still no contact but for those out there who still hope never give up. One day they will seek you out and find truth. for alll those out there i wish you a very merry Christmas and a safe new year. i love my children very much and think about them everyday to them i remember me.

2007-12-24 08:37:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

She was my aopted aunt whom i just adored and well she passed in october and this is there first x-mas without there mom and i want to say thew right thing and just feel ill land up with my foot in my mouth?

2007-12-24 08:36:33 · 7 answers · asked by cc 1 in Friends

2007-12-24 08:34:13 · 7 answers · asked by frogeekim 1 in Family

every time i go to my daughters house i feel very uncomfortable because her husbands always belittling her in front of me i dont even think she relizes it your probally gonna say mind your own business its her choice ok good but i still cant stop feeling uncomfortable when im around them its weird like hes trying to be her father or something its just puts me in a awakward postion how i feel about it i never said anything to her or him about it
how do i get rid of my weird feelings?

2007-12-24 08:33:06 · 3 answers · asked by LittleLady 4 in Family

I put my profile up on MATCH 2 weeks ago, I havent payed suscription yet since I am out of the country until january, but I´ve being looking to profiles and saved my favorites one of my favorites emailed me but since I havent payed I cant see my emails, so he just deleted his profile and I was wondering if after I payed am I sitl going to be able to read his emails that he sent me while he was up on MATCH???

2007-12-24 08:31:55 · 9 answers · asked by aais 3 in Singles & Dating

I never changed my name or did anything official here in the U.S. so I'm not sure if I'm legally married here? I have been asking him for a divorce, but he won't give me one. It would be cheaper for him to do the divorce there in the Dominican Republic (where we were married). He is Dominican and is still living there. I am an American citizen and we have a child together. I want to know if our marriage is legal under U.S. law before I go and hire an attorney to officially divorce him.

2007-12-24 08:31:42 · 12 answers · asked by sweetnsassy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

most of the people in my family don't give me the time of day unless they want money or need me to do something for them. I have come to look at it as a blessing because I have gotten over the emotional side of wanting them to love me... here is this one child that has a smile on her face not just for me but for all others and these same family members believe that she has a problem! she loves to read and draw pictures.. I love my family no matter what and a bleeding heart I am not I just believe that we are at the times mentioned in 2 timothy 3:1-5 and that there is nothing that can be done because we are so far gone in this system of things... Yes I have have met many that are in agreement about the times because they study the bible as I do... and the love of many have cooled off. and we are being delivered up by the love for the GOD of this system and all that he offers those that are blind that that they can not see and deaf that they can not see

2007-12-24 08:30:32 · 5 answers · asked by bay 2 in Family

2007-12-24 08:30:06 · 42 answers · asked by boo 1 in Marriage & Divorce

well i have been talking to my ex boyfriend now for a couple weeks. but since we broke up 11 years ago i have 2 kids and stretch marks from it. my question is should i tell him about the stretch marks before we sleep together or not. im very embarassed about them. and im not sure if im going to feel comfortable being naked with him. not knowing what he thinks about the stretch marks. what do i do? im only 26.

2007-12-24 08:27:24 · 7 answers · asked by SEXYCHICK2008 3 in Singles & Dating

Stares at you for at least 3 hours but when you look back at him and he turns away really fast and gets his friend to annoy you. Does that mean he likes you?

2007-12-24 08:25:25 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-24 08:23:12 · 1 answers · asked by music4life 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

theres a guy in my class and ive noticed he stares at me sometimes and seems nervous around me. Also when i smile at him he always gives me a big grin back. The other day i was talking to some friends and he interrupted and asked me a question about myself, when i answered he got defensive and acted like I gave him attitude... i dont think im a scarey person though, im really shy!

why is he being like this?

2007-12-24 08:22:43 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating