tell kids about Santa the truth that is. Okay here is the deal. My hubby had a bad divorce and now they split the holidays. This is our year to have them for the whole Santa thing. Well She told them last week Santa was not real! They are 7 and 10. We worked extra hard for this this year. We had cut backs at work and we struggled to make this happen and now she has told them. Well I have two kids of my own and soon they will know because she wanted to try and ruin our Christmas with them. So how old do you think and how did you break it to them? So I will have a idea about what to do for my kids. :( Inocence is soooo short.
2007-12-24 08:49:13 · 11 answers · asked by lyttledarlin 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believed when I was little and even after I figured it out it was not a lie to me. My parents wanted me to have a child hood and I trusted my dad till the day he died. There is a difference.
2007-12-24 09:02:35 · update #1
All of your answers are so wonderful Thanks to you and everyone else. Merry Christmas to you all. HOHOHOH!! LOL.
2007-12-24 09:16:41 · update #2
Just because she told them that doesn't mean they fully believe it! So when they arrive at your house you keep the Santa thing going! It's not that hard.
And if they say their mom said Santa isn't real, just tell them that perhaps mommy said that cause she was bad and was afraid that Santa wasn't coming to her house this year! LOL
2007-12-24 08:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 10 year old already knew, the 7 year old probably knew before his mom told him. By the time they start school some other mother's little darling took a cheap thrill in informing them how childish they were to believe in Santa.
As kids we pretended for the parents until they finally asked us when did we know (I was 12, my stepbrothers were 10 and my brother was 8 when they finally asked--we told them "but you seemed to enjoy it so much, we didn't want to hurt your feelings"). Heck, I'm 42 and Santa still leaves a package for me at my grandparents' place. ;)
Look up the history of St. Nicholas and tell them about him and how Santa is the representation of the spirit of Christmas and generosity. This would be the time to introduce volunteerism and doing nice things for others who are less fortunate than them. Maybe start a new tradition of them donating to a charity of their choosing.
Merry Christmas and I'm sorry your hubby's ex had mess with the kids' Christmas but don't let this ruin your Christmas, just be flexible and roll with it.
2007-12-24 17:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!! NO SANTA? HOW DARE YOU RUIN MY HOLIDAY............ (actually) it is best to let the kids figure out santa isnt real on their own... but if someone tells them to just ruin their holiday best way out is to say oh yes there is a santa... but because he is always busy this time of the year we have to give him a bit of help and put up the tree and decorate and then later he will deliver presents on christmas eve (this is where you have the presents wrapped and put away hidden really good) then put them out after the children are asleep and make sure you leave out milk and cookies for santa (make sure they disapear before morning!) you can still make it special for them just be a bit more creative with it!!! good luck and Merry Christmas with the children.
2007-12-24 17:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lynn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah... it all depends really... i remember when i lost my first tooth.... i peaked when the "tooth fairy" came.... so i kind of figured that out... and just put two and two together with Santa... i was probably about 5-6. Then when I was about 7 i started helping my mom set up the stuff from "Santa" for my little brother... 10 is probably a little too old to still believe.. .but 7 or 8 is usually the age kids find out... good luck
2007-12-24 16:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anna J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All children are different....My 3 teenagers were sharp as tacks and figured it out all on their own when they were younger....I think children should believe in something as wonderful as Santa Claus...for as long as they wish....because the real world can be so cruel....So sorry that your ex had to spoil the belief in Santa for your children.....
2007-12-24 16:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well iI think u should tell them around the age of 9 or 10 .....actually 9 bcau 8 is 2 young nd 10 older ...but some kids figure it out by their friendz or on skool!!
2007-12-24 17:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have never lied to my children. this will never be a dilemma for me. my friend's mother hid he radoption from her and she will never trust her mother again. this is as bad as perpetrating the boogey man myth. i trusted my mother til the day she died. she was honest.
another friend is catholic and believes in heaven and hell. instead of threatening her 5 year old with hell, (as the churches do) she tells her other lie........good boys go to fun heaven and naughty boys go to not-so-fun heaven. my 19 year old was always told the truth and my three year old is hearing only truth. they are both well-adjusted. i just have to keep correcting all of the lies they hear.
2007-12-24 16:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by slkrchck 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SANTA ISNT REAL?
Oh Man .... now what? Wait is Santa isnt real then whos been eating my wife's cookie?
2007-12-24 22:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by Mergler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Daughter was ten when I accidentally let it slip. She was okay when I explained to her. She pretty much figured it out anyway at that point.
2007-12-24 16:54:38 · answer #9 · answered by Christine W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They didn't know he was fake I guess thats cute. My son knew when he was 6.
2007-12-24 17:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋