How can I be ''exciting''?

Question

A number of people have said that I am boring on the phone & it is REALLY bringing me down. How can I change this? What tips can I get? How should I act on the phone? Please don't say these people aren't your friends because that's not what I want to hear =(..xx

Answer 1

This is hard because you didn't mention what you talk about or how old you are. How long do you stay on the phone? Is there a purpose to your call? You must have a purpose then have a few follow up questions. If there is silence on the line....it is time to end it. I call my friend because I am following up on something...asking what she is doing because I am looking for something to do....sharing some info about something....found a joke....but there has to be an exchange of information. You must also show interest in what the other person is saying. Actively listen. Respond to the person who is talking.

Answer 2

Some people are just more boring on the phone than in person. It might be because you like to kid around more in person and you say more with your eyes and smile than you can on the phone. Well...not sure how to help you here, maybe you could just accept that you don't find too much to talk about on the phone. Or else just ask the other person a billion questions about themselves and let them chatter. Then they'll forget about criticizing how you sound and they'll think the conversation has grown more interesting because they've talked about themselves.

Answer 3

IIf you want to be more interesting and exciting on the phone, you actually have to be a little more dramatic than you are in real life because people can not see the body language. Body language is huge to expressing yourself. That's why jokes online generally don't work well at all, something is lost when it's not in person. Think about what's funnier watching a comedian in person, watching a comedian on television, listening to a comedian on the radio/cd, reading a transcript of his performance? They're listed in order of most to least enjoyable, even with the same comdedian and the same jokes.

To be exciting on the phone, you have got to try to start verbally describing the details a little better. Don't go overboad, but try to get good at setting the mood and painting a mental picture of what you're talking about. Add a little emotions in your stories.

Little a few little tricks is to get them to talk about themselves, and you just listen. People love to talk about themselves and their accomplishments. If someone talks to you about themselves for an hour and you just listen, say nothing, and laugh when appropriate, chances are people will think it was one of the best conversations they've had in a long time.

Another trick you can use is to tell a funny story or anecdote about yourself when they say something that reminds you of it. "So my friends are talking about taking a senior trip to the Outter Banks." then you chime in "Outter Banks? One time when I was at the Outter Banks with my buddy we rescued a little girl from drowning."

Finally, talk about things that you're actually interested in. If you just try to small talk an entire conversation, it will get boring. If they're not talking about anything that interests you, finish out the conversation and work a segway into what you want to talk about. "So my lipstick smeared all over the place!" "Wow, that sucks. That's almost as bad as when Ryan was working on this sweet car and the oil squirted all over his face. It was okay though, because his car..."

The final trick is to get the heck off the phone. Always leave them wanting more. When you sense the conversation is going really well that's usually a good indicator that you should be trying to get off the phone. Then people remember a really interesting/fun conversation and are interested in continuing it at a later date. Staying on the phone too long ends the phone conversation when you've both run out of things to say and are starting to experience boring pauses. It's not very inviting as people feel they've discussed everyting with you already and the last thing they remember about talking with you is that it was boring. Say what you need to say, get into an enjoyable conversation, and then say you gotta run we'll talk more later.

Answer 4

These people that say that you are 'boring' - what makes them so elite?

The reason why people criticise a particular aspect of a person is because they are aware of that trait in themselves.

Are you a comedian or clown by profession? Neither am I. That must make me, you and about 5 + billion people boring on the phone too.

Answer 5

Develop a fake laugh, talk about rubbishy stuff like new shoes and make up instead of real things. And above all pass on every single bit of gossip you hear about your friends to each and every person you are on the phone to. Add a bit of your own too. Theyll soon want good old 'borin' you back

Answer 6

Think of interesting things in the news to talk about. Ask questions about what they've been up to and let them rattle on and sound interested. Don't watch TV or read a book when you're on the phone and think of them in their underwear whilst they're talking to you and you might find it more interesting or possibly exciting!

Answer 7

ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS COMMENT ON THINGS IN THE WORLD.FOR EXAMPLE:OMG! DO YOU EVERTHINK THIS WAR WILL END?I DON'T EVEN KNOE WHO TO VOTE FOR! OR DID YOU HEAR ABOUT THAT WOMAN WHO ROBBED WAL- MART? OR I WAS THINKING ABOUT TAKING A CRUISE NEXT FALL, BUT WITH ALL THOSE HURRICANES IN THE GULF,I'M NOT SO SURE...HAVE YOU HEARD ANYTHING ABOUT CARNIVAL? OR I HAVE THIS KHAKI DRESS I WANT TO WEAR WITH BLACK TIGHTS AND BOOTS...YOUTHINK IT WILL LOOK SLEAZY? I MEAN WHATEVER IS ON YOUR MIND..SAY IT. I HEARD THIS LADY SAY SHE WAS LOOKING FOR A PARTICULAR BOOT IN A SHOE STORE RECENTLY..I TOLD HER ABOUT A PAIR I AT ANOTHER STORE AND STRIKED UP A CONVERSATION..WE BOTH LEFT AND MET UP AT THAT STORE.I SHOWED HER THE BOOTS AND SHE BOUGHT THEM..IT'S THE SAME ON THE PHONE...JUST TALK..ABOUT ANYTHING...ELABORATE ON WHATEVER THE PERSON IS TALKING ABOUT..IF YOUR GUY FRIEND SAYS HE HAS A TERRIBLE COLD..TELL HIM WHAT WORKS FOR YOU.VICKS ON YOUR FEET AND THERAFLU..AND THEN TELL HIM ABOUT THE HORRIBLE HEADCOLD THAT YOU ONCE HAD IN HIGH SCHOOL THAT HAD YOU SO SICK, YOU HAD STARTED WRITING AN EARLY WILL IN CASE OF PREMATURE DEATH..HE IS SURE TO LAUGH..I MEAN USE YOUR OWN STORIES,AND MAKE IT INTERESTING,WE ALL HAVE SIMULAR ISSUES THAT WE DEAL WITH THAT CAN BE DISCUSSED.GIVE AN OPINION AND TELL YOUR STORY...

Answer 8

just be natural and keep the conversation flowing by opening up interesting topics. A good conversationalist is never afraid to ask what she/he feels but also keep in mind your limits in your talk.

Answer 9

Talk about current events with ur friends u know or talk about what u wanna do and ask ur friends the same question.

Answer 10

not everyone likes speaking on the phone. use it as a tool to arrange to meet up with your friends, you can be 'exciting' in person instead.