after a very bitter divorce and seven years later one has still not have had contact with the children. after legal system failed and all other avenues one is still stuck in emotional merry go round. Although another year has past and still no contact but for those out there who still hope never give up. One day they will seek you out and find truth. for alll those out there i wish you a very merry Christmas and a safe new year. i love my children very much and think about them everyday to them i remember me.
2007-12-24 08:37:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
after 20years of marriage i never realsed that he would do such a thing. At one stage in front of the children he threatened to kill me before he would allow the children to be with me. Since 2000 i have had an emotional breakdown, total hysterectomy due to the fact he raped me, a stroke, depression on a very large scale, suicide attempt and to top it all off i am now a diabetic but then i realised in the end that i wasn't going to let him win and i was no longer afraid of him. My children are over 21 now but still they have not seeked me out. 6 months ago i was told by the doctor if i continue on this path i will not be good to anyone let alone my children. That is when the realization hit me that i need to start taking care of my health so that when they do find me . But the hardest part for me is that my youngest has Down Syndrome and he would not remember me. thank you all for your comments as it gives me strength in believing again
2007-12-25 08:43:11 · update #1
It's terrible if it's any consolation I'd have done anything to keep my ex in my daughters lives, but they didn't want to know did everything, I even met up with him after he raped me so he could be in their lives
2007-12-24 08:45:10 · answer #1 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this is the Past when my kids were 10-14-16. They didnt want to visit with me for 3 years cause Momma said this and said That. Then as they have become grown they have all 3 cried and fell all over themselves apoligizing to me. Now they hold a grudge against thei Mom for the Lies she told and the out right deceiving that she did To turn them against their Dad!!!! Kids shouldnt be used as Pawns in the Divorce game but many parents do!!! I can never make up for the Lost time but I am sure having fun Trying. I now have 4 Grandkids who also think the world of me. My kids are now 25-29-32 years old. Merry Christmas to ALL!!!
2007-12-24 08:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by Ed P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up.. sister in law went thru the same thing. She didnt see her kids for 9 years. When the oldest turned 18 she contacted her mom's sister. She was given her mothers number. They talked. in 2 yrs the son turned 18. They both packed thier bags that day left arkansas and moved to fla to be with thier mom. That was years ago they are still living in fla near thier mom and have little or NO contact with thier dad. They say he is at fault that they were denied thier Mom all those years. So it done him no good to do what he done. He lost his kids and now grand children in the end. So dont give up it may take time but in the end they will want to see you... im so sorry you are hurting... Heres you a hug... take care and God bless
2007-12-24 09:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was seven years to find my children .after divorce she moved
did not know how to contact them .one day i tried an old p o box
i now one of my two children has come to live with me. my mother is the one that had to p o box information .as long as they have way to find you . then don't give up
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2007-12-24 08:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by mdntfever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry no
2007-12-24 08:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by LivingMyLife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋