Family & Relationships - 24 December 2007

My fiance has a 7 year old daughter. He loves her very much and so do I. Before I met him, 1 1/2 years ago there was this woman and they had a short good time together.He said it was less than 10 times and he always wore a condom. He also found out that she was with another man when she went to NY & Miami.After a year she calls him and tells him she has had his baby and he couldn't believe that call. He will be going to get a DNA test to see if she is his.

The thing IS.. his 7 year old's mom took her to see the little girl already and has told her about the 'sister'! She is too young to have known this so soon without even being sure.

Should we tell her it's not true or leave it alone. If it is true we don't want her to tell everyone about this so fast. It's hard, any advice?

2007-12-24 01:05:04 · 24 answers · asked by HotJewels 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay, my brother has anger issues!
This is long, if you don’t like reading that much then don’t read it & blame me for wasting your time please. Sorry if I sound rude, I’m just rlly mad.
He has anger management just like my dad so whenever we play a game like arm wrestling & I win he takes his hand & slaps me across the face & kicks & punches me! WTF is his problem? One time, he got soooo mad at me he grabbed a pair of scissors and started walking toward me holding the pair of scissors like that crazy Chucky doll & my mom was right there with her eyeballs glued to the computer screen & when I couldn't back away any longer, I got shocked until I moved the other way & then I started screaming, crying, & yelling at the top of my lungs because my mom didn't go anything then she told me to go to MY room & that everything was my fault & because I was screaming, yelling, & crying....she thought  I  had anger management. Isn’t anger management when you can't control your anger? I can control mine deffinently but Alex & stupid dad can't! Since I’m the older one, I’m the one who gets in trouble & yelled at most of the time, gosh. He even throws things & knocks things down. I’ve been fed up so many times, I’ve always gotten the feeling about reporting this to the counselor but whenever I’m about to [when mom & Alex finds out] Alex starts burst out crying, screaming & throwing a tantrum & mom says all these really mean harsh things to me saying that she doesn’t want to live with me anymore, she just wants to runaway from me, why am I chosen to be her child, I never cause any happiness, that I’m never nice, & says all this crap even though I always help her & tries to cheer her up when she’s down most of the time. And whenever we get in a fight, & only a few of the times, he gets in trouble & then when my dad is lecturing him, my mom’s giving me this evil glare at me saying that I’m the child of the devil. Wth? Something seriously is wrong in my family & I’m sick of it! Why is my mom doing this to me? And one time, my dad abused me leaving me with marks, head damage with blood dripping from my head, muscle/bone aches, & all these harsh remarks & he’s been doing that to me until I told in him & I’ve been having flashbacks ever since I was 3 yrs old when that crazy bastard humped me with clothes on & I was really depressed at that time & I’ve been holding a grudge at him for so long & I still do b/c he got away with it & made me look bad instead saying that I lied because my mom told me to [there’s more to it but that’s not what the main problem is right now]! I have no idea what to do! I can’t ******* live like this nomore! So anyone, help? I would love to run away & start a fresh new life in 2 years when I turn 16 yrs old!

2007-12-24 01:04:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Okay, my brother has anger issues!
This is long, if you don’t like reading that much then don’t read it & blame me for wasting your time please. Sorry if I sound rude, I’m just rlly mad.
He has anger management just like my dad so whenever we play a game like arm wrestling & I win he takes his hand & slaps me across the face & kicks & punches me! WTF is his problem? One time, he got soooo mad at me he grabbed a pair of scissors and started walking toward me holding the pair of scissors like that crazy Chucky doll & my mom was right there with her eyeballs glued to the computer screen & when I couldn't back away any longer, I got shocked until I moved the other way & then I started screaming, crying, & yelling at the top of my lungs because my mom didn't go anything then she told me to go to MY room & that everything was my fault & because I was screaming, yelling, & crying....she thought  I  had anger management. Isn’t anger management when you can't control your anger? I can control mine deffinently but Alex & stupid dad can't! Since I’m the older one, I’m the one who gets in trouble & yelled at most of the time, gosh. He even throws things & knocks things down. I’ve been fed up so many times, I’ve always gotten the feeling about reporting this to the counselor but whenever I’m about to [when mom & Alex finds out] Alex starts burst out crying, screaming & throwing a tantrum & mom says all these really mean harsh things to me saying that she doesn’t want to live with me anymore, she just wants to runaway from me, why am I chosen to be her child, I never cause any happiness, that I’m never nice, & says all this crap even though I always help her & tries to cheer her up when she’s down most of the time. And whenever we get in a fight, & only a few of the times, he gets in trouble & then when my dad is lecturing him, my mom’s giving me this evil glare at me saying that I’m the child of the devil. Wth? Something seriously is wrong in my family & I’m sick of it! Why is my mom doing this to me? And one time, my dad abused me leaving me with marks, head damage with blood dripping from my head, muscle/bone aches, & all these harsh remarks & he’s been doing that to me until I told in him & I’ve been having flashbacks ever since I was 3 yrs old when that crazy bastard humped me with clothes on & I was really depressed at that time & I’ve been holding a grudge at him for so long & I still do b/c he got away with it & made me look bad instead saying that I lied because my mom told me to [there’s more to it but that’s not what the main problem is right now]! I have no idea what to do! I can’t ******* live like this nomore! So anyone, help? I would love to run away & start a fresh new life in 2 years when I turn 16 yrs old!

2007-12-24 01:04:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

So this guy broke up with me,because i told him "i love you".
one of my really good friends got talking to my ex at a party while me and him were still dating. My ex asked him for some advice,becoz he didnt know how to react tothe words"I love you" in a text message from me. I did not write just those 3 words, i just wrote it at the end of the text message....

afterwards, i noticed that he became more distant, and then within a week he broke up with me.
do you think he might have done it because he got scared or something?How do i ask him about it?

2007-12-24 01:02:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was drinking my drink yesterday and this guy grabs it from me and gives me a sheepish look half smile. I told him he could have a sip, if he wanted. He also hugged me the first day he really met me. He went up and said, "Lizzie?" Me-"Yeah?" Him-"Hi." And when I went over to him with his friends he gave me a hug to give him food.

He's also sort of touchy. He touched near my breast by mistake I think. I can't tell if it was a mistake or not so I looked past it. Believe me, I'm 16 and haven't even kissed a guy yet. I'm clueless. =[

2007-12-24 01:00:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Situation: as much as i love my girlfriend and everything about her is great, i get a stress/worrying feeling every now and again that becomes unbearable. Is it because she is not the one, even though my mind is clear that i like everything about her? Will taking a break help? Has it ever helped you? Thank you

2007-12-24 01:00:52 · 5 answers · asked by ieatbacon4breakfast 2 in Singles & Dating

I mean with a man.

2007-12-24 00:57:20 · 6 answers · asked by mimi 1 in Singles & Dating

my husband and i separated and i have a bank account bu its only in my name and we dont live together anymore , im going through a divorce but currently still married! should i open a new acount with a new number or u think he woulnt have access at all?? is it secure

2007-12-24 00:55:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

since my sisters husband touched me i feel uncomfortable around him, i am not sure if it was on purpose or an accident (he may have thought i was my sister). i am 17 years old and he is 35 years old. i don't want to cause problems but i haven't told my sister about it yet and not sure i should. also i don't want my actions to say something gone on if there are not anything to actually done. i am so confused over this because i also have other pressing issues with my boyfriend. i don't want to deal with this also. any help is welcomed, IM's or emails are also welcomed that can help.

2007-12-24 00:41:39 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Im nearing the age where i will no longer grow anymore 21 in 5 months... And i begin to notice my own family is beginning to discriminate against my height. I stand at 5'6 inches tall and skinny build but toned. My own mother treats me like a preteen, i asked her why she treats me with little respect and not on a adult adult level and she said boldly, "because your short". I was shocked. My cousins who are younger than me make fun of me, like "im only 16 and im taller than you *6'1'' kid" At a sit down last nite my family said, "he probably doesnt have a girlfriend because hes so short." And saying stuff like "I dont get it why hes so short and his parents is so tall." 3 of my cousins began to hit home saying "Hes always so depressed because hes short, if he was tall he wouldnt be." Im now in college again after a break and i notice its getting worse. Women bring it up, guy friends bring it up. Even my prof discriminate against my height. Does it get worse as you age and wont grow any.

2007-12-24 00:40:32 · 4 answers · asked by FlyHighDude 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Since birth,my father abandoned me..i never recieved any support from him since he is in the USA right now.but i met him when i was 18 years old but iam confused "how iam going to accept everything" ......after this moment....he go back to USA he didnt try to reach me again.
actually i dont care about him..coz i have a successful life right now...by the way thanks for my mom.she teach how to be a strong and to be responsible.

2007-12-24 00:34:53 · 11 answers · asked by annapoohtz 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am 27 years old..and i got married when i was 23..it was arranged marriage..i loved my husband very much. i respected him and his family but i felt do to low self esteem i thought i nor my family was good for him. so i always talked about divorce..i wanted to save him from mental agony.so i finally divorced him. but he begged me not to divorce him..i didn't listen as i thought he was saying not to divorce so that he would not look bad with his family and he maybe he didn't like me..but simply wanted me to still be married to him for the sake of not being embarrased..BASICALLY i brought unnecessary thought and problems into our realtionship..i assumed alot ot things. but NOW after being divorced over a year..i feel like a new person..i feel i am confident in myself..i am more clear headed, mature person ..and now i am dying to get back with him..each and every time i see improvment in my life..it pains me that i didn't show this to him during my marriage ..what shall i do..?

2007-12-24 00:34:25 · 4 answers · asked by maxine m 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My top set of teeth are not perfect but my bottom ones are. one of my front teeth kinda sticks out a lot and my smile is ruined when I show them. This problem helps when I should be focusing on important things in life and not getting carried away about boys. I have a pretty smile without the teeth but talking kinder wards off boys if you know what I mean. Soon I am getting braces. Can any guy tell me does this really matter when they like a girl? I'm Desperate!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-12-24 00:32:33 · 5 answers · asked by Nikzor 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-24 00:24:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-24 00:23:20 · 22 answers · asked by Alicia M 1 in Singles & Dating

The reason I asked this is because he was married before and he went to see his daughter back home and he is telling me that he is staying at a hotel. However, his ex wife and daughter stays together and last night he didn't talk on the phone with me long as usual. I really think he is staying with her and possibly doing a little more. He has already lied and told me that he wasn't married and to fund out he was before. Can I trust him?Im much younger at 23 and he is 35. I need help from someone because I feel bad.

2007-12-24 00:22:51 · 10 answers · asked by cindy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

pls help me.2 guys in ma life nd dnt no who 2 choose,both outside the country one whom i no nd one only takin on for 4 a year nw,he want see first b4 he can contiuon wth da relationship the other want come nd marry me i dnt want 2 hurt anyone wat should i do.

2007-12-24 00:17:50 · 4 answers · asked by Naja 1 in Singles & Dating

OK the story is, last night my husband presented me with an early Christmas gift....a new bridal set. When we got married 5 years ago, we really didn't have the finances to get a really extravagant ring. So I got my husband a few things for Christmas, but I am now a stay at home mom. I have some money....Does anyone have a suggestion of what to buy my guy?

2007-12-24 00:17:22 · 17 answers · asked by Angelbaby79 3 in Marriage & Divorce

When it comes to loving your partner, do you just have sex in the "traditional way" aka a bed? or have you had an odd random place?

PLEASE DO NOT get into detail of how!
PLEASE because I don't want to vomit!
Just state if you had odd places that you made love.

2007-12-24 00:14:54 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I fell in love with someone who was my perfect match. He was funny and exciting and fun to be around. For 2 yrs., we enjoyed each others company and couldn't stand to be apart. We wrote each other love notes, gave each other surprises, played jokes on each other, laughed til our cheeks hurt....He waited on me hand and foot, knew my every need before I did, and could read my mind. He was like a male version of myself...my soulmate.
Then, we moved in together. After 2 yrs., I have discovered a bad temper. I have discovered a manipulative and controlling side of him that he NEVER let on to me previously. I have discovered lies that were told to me. I have met his men friends who hint around to a past of gambling, lying, and womanizing. I knew he could be a flirt, but only with me. He lied about his age and his education. He has been married twice. First one ran off with another man and 2nd one caught him talking to me. He claims she was addicted to Oxycottin.

2007-12-24 00:10:36 · 25 answers · asked by maplesyrup09 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-24 00:07:42 · 13 answers · asked by Luna 1 in Marriage & Divorce