So this guy broke up with me,because i told him "i love you".
one of my really good friends got talking to my ex at a party while me and him were still dating. My ex asked him for some advice,becoz he didnt know how to react tothe words"I love you" in a text message from me. I did not write just those 3 words, i just wrote it at the end of the text message....
afterwards, i noticed that he became more distant, and then within a week he broke up with me.
do you think he might have done it because he got scared or something?How do i ask him about it?
2007-12-24 01:02:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i havent spoken nor seen him since we broke up (which was 3 weeks ago)
out of the blue, he is returning my belongings..piece by piece.. not all at once.. and just then he invited me over for a Christmas eve movie.. which i politely refused.
i dont get it?
2007-12-24 01:03:12 · update #1
You don't say how old you are, but it could make a difference.
Most guys are at a loss when a girl professes any deep emotion, especially if it's directed their way and it's love.
He likely didn't feel that he could return the same feelings, or not just yet anyway, and maybe somehow threatened by your statement. He may now feel he would be leading you on to stay with you, or simply that he is not ready for that kind of thing with you.
It is a bit of a lesson in being careful with the heavy emotional statements until you are sure they are mutual feelings. Men are taught to hang on tight to this stuff, and girls sometimes move in too close, too fast for them
But, the fact that he did ask you back may mean that he does not want to give up altogether, but only to back up, slow down.
I'm not sure why you refused him, unless your pride is wounded, or you felt rejected by him . I really don't think he was rejecting you, but only acting from confusion and an inability to cope with your feelings.
If you really do care for him, i would give him a chance. he really is not abnormal in this, tho he may not be the kind of guy for you. Some never learn to say or do anything that would commit them, others only take time to come around.
I'm not sure even asking him about it at this stage is a good idea. If you do want to be with him, why not just see him again and see how this goes? Having a heavy conversation about "our relationship" is sometimes a sure way to kill it totally. Could you just see him, sit tight and see what happens?
Often patience is the best course of action.
2007-12-24 01:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he feels the same way but when you said them he was taken aback. I would sit down with him and explain why you said "I love you" and ask him why he broke up with after the fact. Come to some agreement if the he doesnt "love" you yet. Its possible that he is falling in love you but it may be too soon.
2007-12-24 01:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a nice girl having no doubt and the guy WHO whom u said I love u is not considered to be eligible to accommodate your lovd.So thank God, he groken up with you at this stage. have patience, go through your normal routine to fulfil your dream and one day you will find yourself in a den of loveand wishes and people will die to even talk you.The man who will get your love be regarded as 'blessed'. wait for the nice day and till then my best wishes.
2007-12-24 01:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, I personally don't think that's a good reason to brk it off, He sounds awfully immature. he may have been instigated by his friends . Whatever the reason, you made the right move by refusing to go to his home for christmas. Don't want to make it seem too convient
2007-12-24 01:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by ?????? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably.....i such as you has extremely deeper of feeling. yet the two fairly advise the comparable concern it purely relies upon on the guy and how they communicate. somebody could say "Love ya" yet nonetheless interior fairly love you deeply, purely experience extra comfortable asserting it that way.
2016-11-24 22:32:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave that clown alone. You scared him off, yeah, but you're better off without him. Find someone else to love who will treat you well. Merry Christmas.
2007-12-24 01:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he freaked out because he realised that you are serious with him & he is not that serious with you (yet).
Maybe it would be good that you move on. if he is distancing himself from you already, there is nothing you can do because this is a sure sign that he is not interested in you as much as you are to him.
2007-12-24 01:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think so he could not react to what u said to him...may be he thought u might leave her if he didnt reply to u....
its better that u go in person to him and sort out those problems that u both are going through..just dont loose heart...
2007-12-24 01:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by ohohohohoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve an explanation. Ask for one. If he doesn't like a heart-to-heart talk, do not insist. Leave it that way. Just think it's his lost, not yours.
2007-12-24 01:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by MoreOfMe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs a refund for Christmas until he finds someone else. He's trying to use u.
2007-12-24 01:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by Sunday's Best 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋