Since birth,my father abandoned me..i never recieved any support from him since he is in the USA right now.but i met him when i was 18 years old but iam confused "how iam going to accept everything" ......after this moment....he go back to USA he didnt try to reach me again.
actually i dont care about him..coz i have a successful life right now...by the way thanks for my mom.she teach how to be a strong and to be responsible.
2007-12-24 00:34:53 · 11 answers · asked by annapoohtz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you wanted was to be loved and your father failed at giving you that. Any child who has an absent parent is going to be damaged emotionally. Young lady I strongly urge you to seek counseling and to realize that none of this is your fault. There is nothing you could have done to prevent this. I often tell my daughter's father children need your presence more than your presents. He thinks money is going to solve everything but in your case he didn't even have decency to do that. Absolutely makes no sense to me how any parent can't be civil enough to do what is in best interest of their child. Your father has no idea or concept of what he missed out on when he choose to avoid you. Your mother did an exceptional job and I applaud her for keeping you grounded and your success. I hold your father responsible because he knows better all he has to do is give you is an explanation then maybe you could forgive him but you will never forget. Your father doesn't know you which is very sad. I wish I had a healing hand to take your hurt away because no child should have to go through this. Emotional scars are tough to forget but you have proved you are a survivor.Take one step at a time.As I see it now you are in the processes of healing as much as you want to reject him don't let him see you I guarantee his guilt and pain outweigh yours. I just wanted to let you know you touched my heart today.Your life has a purpose live it to the fullest without letting an obstacles hold you back.
2007-12-24 01:12:02 · answer #1 · answered by Aphreakywuman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had a similar childhood. Dad ran of when I just started school. No word nothing untill I went looking for him at 18 years old. Saw him 3 times after that. He only saw our one girl and never the younger one. He died about 8 years ago. Wel at least I can say I had one BBQ with my old man. Thanks to my MOTHER for doing the job of both. And oh boy did she do it good.
2007-12-24 08:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Anna, the only reason you should keep in touch with your, so called dad, is to find out about he's medical history.
On his side of the family. In case you, ever need to answer some medical ?s on your side. Other then that, just let it be. And continue with out him, your doing just fine. Good luck.
2007-12-24 09:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by meatball288001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to love him or even respect him. My mother abandoned me when I was five. I have never seen her again and I am now 38. I do not love her or even care about her.
You do not owe your father anything. That goes for whether you feel successful or not.
Take care,
Troy
2007-12-24 08:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he wants to be a part of your like he will make the effort if he doesn't you will be able to tell as for loving him. OK no you don't have to love himor accept him if you dont want sounds harsh but as you said you have a good life now and he was not a part of that that was his choice. goood luck
2007-12-24 08:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by bobby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The beginning is to forgive him for abandoning you. Maybe there were circumstances, who knows? Pray for him and for the ability to forgive him and then respect him as your father.
Remember, it takes 2 to make a relationship.
Good Luck
2007-12-24 08:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You dont have to love your father. He hasnt been in your life. I wouldnt spend too or really any time worrying about it. Just get on with your life.
2007-12-24 09:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by Bob D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should love him anyway,but you don't have to acknowledge he exists in the world.He did help make you ,but he did not help raise you, and you did fine uh? It is ok if you don't want to have him in your life. You are not a bad person. So go on with your life and be who you are now always.
2007-12-24 08:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your mother is all you need.
Your dad wasent there for the first 18 years, and you got by just fine, just try to remember you don't need him.
2007-12-24 08:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by Carly M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to love him. and you dont have to feel guilty about not loving him.
Focus on the ones who did teach you and give you love.
2007-12-24 08:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋