OMG, I hate my stupid brother so MUCH!!! He pisses me off! What do I do?

Question

Okay, my brother has anger issues!
This is long, if you don’t like reading that much then don’t read it & blame me for wasting your time please. Sorry if I sound rude, I’m just rlly mad.
He has anger management just like my dad so whenever we play a game like arm wrestling & I win he takes his hand & slaps me across the face & kicks & punches me! WTF is his problem? One time, he got soooo mad at me he grabbed a pair of scissors and started walking toward me holding the pair of scissors like that crazy Chucky doll & my mom was right there with her eyeballs glued to the computer screen & when I couldn't back away any longer, I got shocked until I moved the other way & then I started screaming, crying, & yelling at the top of my lungs because my mom didn't go anything then she told me to go to MY room & that everything was my fault & because I was screaming, yelling, & crying....she thought  I  had anger management. Isn’t anger management when you can't control your anger? I can control mine deffinently but Alex & stupid dad can't! Since I’m the older one, I’m the one who gets in trouble & yelled at most of the time, gosh. He even throws things & knocks things down. I’ve been fed up so many times, I’ve always gotten the feeling about reporting this to the counselor but whenever I’m about to [when mom & Alex finds out] Alex starts burst out crying, screaming & throwing a tantrum & mom says all these really mean harsh things to me saying that she doesn’t want to live with me anymore, she just wants to runaway from me, why am I chosen to be her child, I never cause any happiness, that I’m never nice, & says all this crap even though I always help her & tries to cheer her up when she’s down most of the time. And whenever we get in a fight, & only a few of the times, he gets in trouble & then when my dad is lecturing him, my mom’s giving me this evil glare at me saying that I’m the child of the devil. Wth? Something seriously is wrong in my family & I’m sick of it! Why is my mom doing this to me? And one time, my dad abused me leaving me with marks, head damage with blood dripping from my head, muscle/bone aches, & all these harsh remarks & he’s been doing that to me until I told in him & I’ve been having flashbacks ever since I was 3 yrs old when that crazy bastard humped me with clothes on & I was really depressed at that time & I’ve been holding a grudge at him for so long & I still do b/c he got away with it & made me look bad instead saying that I lied because my mom told me to [there’s more to it but that’s not what the main problem is right now]! I have no idea what to do! I can’t ******* live like this nomore! So anyone, help? I would love to run away & start a fresh new life in 2 years when I turn 16 yrs old!

I'm sorry for typing down some bad words...please excuse me for that.

Answer 1

Oh my god. I feel so sorry for you! There isn't much I can do. I wish there was. What is a little 10 yea old gonna do on Christmas Eve? Oh yea give advice.

Well, you definetely need to have a talk with your mom. Tell her how you feel, but stay calm about it. Tell her how you are scared, tell her what your dad did to you, I'm sure you can tell this to her sometime!

When you are at school maybe you could ask to go to the counselour and tell him/her about this. They would know what to do more than I could!

You have to stay positive about this. I know I sound stupid and it sounds hard, but you have to get through this! There is another way, you don't have to run away if you can get help for this problem! I know it seems like your brother would need a lot more counseling than you, which I'm sure he does, but you need help if no one is going to let him get it. You could learn to deal with him, and this may work.

Just try to stay clear of you brother. My cousin had a prob sorta like this, but it was just her whole family that she as sick of. She moved in with one of our relatives. Maybe you could ask your mom to try moving in with a reative for a while too. Or go to a couple friends houses for a few days. Get away from the family for a little while, you might realize how much it helped you, being able to calm down just a little bit.

I'm pretty sure it helped my cousin, she sure seemed better when I saw her next. I haven't heard her somplain as much. So the moving in for a couple months with the relative is what I suggest.

It's really not safe for you to be in that household!

Answer 2

that was long!ok,i have yonger brother too,but i have an older one as well. so sometimes it's good to be older.Don't runaway cuz ur gonna regret that.may be not today or tomorrow,but ur gonna understand that after some years.u should thank god that u have a family ,some people have nobody and they say i prefer even to have the worst family to having nobody.so talk seriosly wit ur parents and if it didn't work try to share it wit ur friends or any of ur relations.u have to be patient wit ur family specialy wit ur brother.one day u will leave the house and u want to remember good memories.u should take after ur brother cuz someday when u grow up he will defenintly take after u and stands beside u.nothing is closer than ur family,try to keep that.

Answer 3

Sounds like your brother is seeking your attention, and you have been ignoring him. I'm sure he looks up to you, or, maybe used to. Anyway, why not be nice to him? Show him that you are the concerned about him, and as a family member, that you love him. Maybe he will change. If he doesn't, then at least you tried. But, siblings should be closer than friends. One day, you will be old, and if your brother and you are not close, it will be painful to have only bad memories of your brother.

Answer 4

This is too serious and complicated a matter for an advice column.
Normal families have their skirmishes, but nothing like what you describe.
It is obvious that everyone in the family needs help, not just you.
You need to speak to a local school counsellor or social services office.

Answer 5

Get a hold of an adult outside of your family as soon as possible. This is not a healthy situation for you or your brother to be in. Do it now. If you can get to a friend's house, do so and tell your friend's parents as soon as you get there. You shouldn't have to spend one more minute in that house.

Answer 6

I am sorry to hear that you are going though all of that.

I would get help NOW. Your dad physically and sexually abused you. Are there family or friends you can live with?

Your living situation is unsafe and very dangerous. Get out of it now, you are only setting yourself up for more abuse if you stay.

I'll pray for you and good luck!

Answer 7

I think that you need to talk to a counselor about your problems. They seem really serious, its obviously not your fault and its not fair that you should have to live like this. Talk about it with a professional.

Answer 8

call the cops tell ur mom if she wont do anything about call the cops on your father and your family that there doing this i know how you feel im living the same life i got stabbed im only 8 so call te cops im living the same life as you call the cops

Answer 9

do you have a aunt uncle if so you need to tell thim what has been done and your little brother needs a mom and a dad i hate this for you plz go and tell no kid needs this .

Answer 10

Knock it off. Stop acting like a brat and try being an example for your younger brother. Take some responsibility for your behavior and stop giving your mother so much grief, its a wonder she has any hair left.