I was drinking my drink yesterday and this guy grabs it from me and gives me a sheepish look half smile. I told him he could have a sip, if he wanted. He also hugged me the first day he really met me. He went up and said, "Lizzie?" Me-"Yeah?" Him-"Hi." And when I went over to him with his friends he gave me a hug to give him food.
He's also sort of touchy. He touched near my breast by mistake I think. I can't tell if it was a mistake or not so I looked past it. Believe me, I'm 16 and haven't even kissed a guy yet. I'm clueless. =[
2007-12-24 01:00:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Uh, no i wouldn't say you are his "friend with benefits" which usually implies sleeping together with one you have agreed not to have a relationship with.
BUT...
This guy is kinda creepy, and my guess is the breast touch wasn't an accident. How do i know? Hmmm, just too many years with men maybe.
Anyway, don't entertain this fool. He obviously knows you have little experience and that's enough reason not to mess with him. I think you may just be a little inexperienced to know how to take a fast talker, and that's really all that he is.
Being confused about this stuff is no crime, but acting on anything you don't yet understand very well could certainly give you a headache if not quite a bit of trouble.
So, go after someone more your age, type and/or temperament. I just don't think this guy is very good for you.
2007-12-24 01:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the "friends with benefits" part, but you definitely don't want strange guys sipping your drinks...you don't know where his mouth has been. As for being 16, you're old enough now to know some assertive language that establishes boundaries between acceptable and unacceptable behavior where touching you is concerned. Don't be afraid to use it. Whatever you're becoming or not becoming should be a matter of choice and not an accidental happenstance. Merry Christmas.
2007-12-24 09:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lizzie, friends with benefits usually means two friends who are having sex with each other. Its a choice by both people. This guy isn't your friend, yet and this doesn't seem to be happening by your choice. Tell him to back off. And if he doesn't look for some help from your parents or a school official.
2007-12-24 09:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend with benefits is something else. What this sounds like is that he is taking advantage of you. It wasn't a mistake. He did it on purpose to touch you when you are vulnerable.
If i were you, i wouldn't look past it. You can report it to a teacher, your parents or someone in authority & see what your options are now.
2007-12-24 09:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt sound as "friends with benifits" What this sounds like is a very shy person trying to ask you out or letting you he likes you. I would confront him and let him know that you like him as well if that is the case and ask him out.
2007-12-24 09:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you're becoming his friends with benefits.. that goes for much further. just have fun with it.
2007-12-24 09:06:16 · answer #6 · answered by honey dipp 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋