I am 27 years old..and i got married when i was 23..it was arranged marriage..i loved my husband very much. i respected him and his family but i felt do to low self esteem i thought i nor my family was good for him. so i always talked about divorce..i wanted to save him from mental agony.so i finally divorced him. but he begged me not to divorce him..i didn't listen as i thought he was saying not to divorce so that he would not look bad with his family and he maybe he didn't like me..but simply wanted me to still be married to him for the sake of not being embarrased..BASICALLY i brought unnecessary thought and problems into our realtionship..i assumed alot ot things. but NOW after being divorced over a year..i feel like a new person..i feel i am confident in myself..i am more clear headed, mature person ..and now i am dying to get back with him..each and every time i see improvment in my life..it pains me that i didn't show this to him during my marriage ..what shall i do..?
2007-12-24 00:34:25 · 4 answers · asked by maxine m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Live your life and reap what you have sown.
It is over between you and him. Leave the poor guy alone and let him move on with his life.
Fix your self esteem issues and move on as well.
2007-12-24 01:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just write to him and tell him how you are feeling now and that you are sorry for how things turned out. I would just start with the apology and tell him how you feel you have changed. Then I would thank him for the life you had together. I would not start the correspondence with an admission you want him back. He may get scared off. Open the opportunity for communication and let him get comfortable for a while before you even consider reconciling. He will need to see the "new" you before it would be likely that he would get back together with you.
2007-12-24 11:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad you are in a better place now. Self-esteem plays funny games on people. I would try to talk to him and let him know that you were not stable before and couldn't commit yourself to someone. Tell him that you still love and miss him and want to get back together. What do you have to lose?
2007-12-24 09:21:46 · answer #3 · answered by calendargirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is still single then you tell him exactly what you said here. That you are a different person now and that you have grown and changed and you feel that you would like to see him again.
2007-12-24 08:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋