Family & Relationships - 23 October 2007

2007-10-23 03:46:30 · 11 answers · asked by jemediah 1 in Marriage & Divorce

im finally with the guy i have wanted to be with for the past year and he treats me sooo good, we talk on the phone everynight for hours, he kisses me passionately and holds me tight, tells me im beautiful...but the problem is im falling for him and im not going to tell him because he told me he was looking for ms. right, and i asked what a girl had to do to be considered ms right. and he said he didnt really know and then he said he would know in a few weeks if someone was ms. right and if it clicked or not...i dont understand i thought it clicked already if he liked me...someone please help i get the feeling im being used one minute and the next i feel like he really wants to be with me

2007-10-23 03:45:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Last night I went over to his house. He was calling himself my dater friend. I was like what is that? Then he said "what do you want to call me?" Was he trying to have the talk with me? He calls everyday and there only a few days we don't see each other during the week because he has night classes. I have already met his parents.

2007-10-23 03:44:38 · 14 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Singles & Dating

Hi im 22yrs old i been married for 2 years and been with my wife for 5. we have to boys one is 3yrs old and the other is 11mo old. a couple of days ago my wife when out with some co-workers she was getting off from work at 5pm. i ask her to please pick up the kids from the babysitter before she when out. my never picked up the kids and that day came home at 5 am in the morning. after questioning her i found out that shes was in a hotel with one of her co-workers. my creditcard statement comfir that she also paid for it. that day we argu and it got physical since then we been trying to work things out but is not workin everything is still fresh in my memory and i dont know what to do

2007-10-23 03:44:27 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I dont really like having my picture taken because I look so silly - Im kind of lIke Chandler off friends when he has his wedding photo taken!!

2007-10-23 03:44:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My partner and i are friends talk about everything from past 7 years.We fell in love 3 years back.My partner is doctor works abroad rich educated.Till today hes given 1 gift.My partner is my first love.We talk but ive no idea how to tell that i would like gifts.He doesnt write love letters plan surprises.My partner is not poor he was when we met but now hes rich has properties cars pets travels world high class living.
Most of my friends get showered with gifts go on holidays have expensive tastes they are helped financially by their partners who arent even as rich as my partner.
No im no gold digger.I am self-respecting girl who pays half of my share in dates,paid my own way through life,dont have expensive tastes,low maintainence,gift him,write love letters, plan special surprises.Ive got alot of wealth on my own(hes richer) before marrying partner i want to make sure hell financial support me after marriage if need be it wont be this way.What do i do?A diva in the making(joking)

2007-10-23 03:43:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

If you love someone and decided to spend your lives together by getting married, why would you cheat on that very person you love and care so much about? If you loved them, why would you risk hurting them so deeply?

2007-10-23 03:42:18 · 44 answers · asked by Cookie 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Well people I did ask him several times and of course he is going to deny it he has a family that dose not approve of it and his grandmother he keeps secrets from because he says it would break her heart. So I know he will not want anyone to know he is gay. How do I find out. Read my question is my husband gay girst then come back to this one!

2007-10-23 03:39:54 · 8 answers · asked by cutiepie28 1 in Marriage & Divorce

do girls fall in love with boys who are sweet or do they just tend to say 'awwww your so sweet'???????

2007-10-23 03:39:47 · 20 answers · asked by supermann 2 in Singles & Dating

need one that is instrumental, slightly 'celtic' sounding, not all Beethoven and Mozart....something that not everyone will recognise..pleasant, soothing, for a candlelight ceremony.......any ideas?...thanks, folks!

2007-10-23 03:38:52 · 7 answers · asked by meanolmaw 7 in Weddings

Can anybody tell me why? My boyfriend has been seeing a married women behind mine and her husbands back they have been together 2 years we have been together 1.
He says he can't get her out of his heart, he says in his mind he wants to be with me and he loves me but his heart won't let him move on.. He says they have this "dream" together. She has told her husband 3 times and all 3 times couldn't leave him.. Last week I packed my bags and was leaving him but he begged me to stay said he can't imagine life without me, only now I have found emails he has sent to her while she is away with her husband and kids... He says he wants nothing more than to love me whole heartedly. So why cant he leave this women alone? Is it just the whole fantasy thing. Believe me I know I should leave him but can't bring myself to do so. I have spoken to this other women who has told me she can't tell her husband again... Will he ever get over her?

2007-10-23 03:37:55 · 22 answers · asked by claire s 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My fiance and I are concerned about having alcohol at our wedding...

Cons
We are not planning to drink more than a glass or two ourselves
We both have relatives who are either recovering alcoholics or might drink too much
We are holding our reception at a place with an exclusive beverage contract and even just wine and beer are very expensive

Pros
People are more likely to dance
People are more likely to stay late

We don't think it's important to have alcohol for ourselves, but we don't want people to go home early when we're spending money on a reception hall!

Any advice?

Also, any suggestions for non-alcoholic beverages to pair with Italian food? Any creative suggestions?

2007-10-23 03:35:44 · 15 answers · asked by weirdiscomplimentary 6 in Weddings

like from a guys point of view plz help

2007-10-23 03:34:39 · 18 answers · asked by gwenfan113 2 in Singles & Dating

I am Raam.,India.
In my family ,I am the last son.
I grown up in the closeness of my family.
My father was died in an accident last year.
Now our family has not a financially high.
My problem is....I am loving a girl who is a poor one.
My family is not known that matter.
They are thinking as doing marriage with another girl who is loving me since 2 years.She is a rich one.
I am loving Poor girl so much.
My family will settle in comfortable life by marrying the rich one.
What can I do?

2007-10-23 03:34:03 · 7 answers · asked by Raam 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Compared with foreign men I know, they don't respect their mothers or take care of their sisters. They let doors close on women and they have no galantry. Not all but a good number of them.

Why do you think that has ocurred in the USA?

2007-10-23 03:32:03 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

my sister has some issues, always has and it has led her to turn to hard drugs and liquor, which in turn has introduced her to drug dealers and people of lower class than us. she keeps bringing bad people around me and my family who are judgemental, argumentative, and combative. i wish she'd stop but she will lie, steal, and stop at nothing to do and get what she wants. i just don't know what to do anymore. we were like best friends. now she hangs out with people who are just like her and all i have are my boyfriends friends.

how can i help her?

2007-10-23 03:28:39 · 8 answers · asked by pookie 1 in Family

I recently just broke up with my boyfriend and now I really need him back. I love him so much i just don't know what to do anymore. We were so close and were together for 2 and a half years. He just out of the blue broke up with me and I just found out he likes someone else. How do I make him realize that he still loves me and is only using her becasue she is closer to him distance wise and that we have so much together. What do I do I really want him back and I know he just didn't get over me.

2007-10-23 03:27:31 · 8 answers · asked by kylovehope 1 in Singles & Dating

they have been married for 9 yrs...had kids and she has been lygated 3 years ago after the last child...One night,the husband made loved to her,and he pulled his ***** out of her ******jst after It was almost coming out...She ignored it for the 1st time....It happened again for the 2nd time.This time,she asked him why does he have to pull it out?She's been Lygated for years,the fact that,he's been releasing it inside every time,and they have both doing that for 2 1/2 years,after the Lygation has been done...And why the sudden changed?So she did asked him why?Husband answered,It slipped accidentally!(she saw him,blushng a little).She,ws jst quiet..But,It happened again in the 3rd time!And when she asked him again,he answered,It feels much better to take it out and comes outside...What!!!?Is he serious about this?I mean would u Guy's even feel of doing that,coz u think,it's more exciting??and dn't evn bother about what the wife wld think of?any advice on this?All husband w/ lygated wife?

2007-10-23 03:26:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

We have been together for more than a decade , i have stood by him despite his cheating n adjusted with his family "high and mighty " attitude towards me and given up a rich and rewarding career for bringing up our only child as i think its imp to raise them well ......as the years progress n thought generally he treats me well often he mockingly asks what i do for him ? His contention is I only have to cook n clean which is no big deal. While I agree it is no big deal to me it is as big as his work if not more. But truth is while his career grows each year and his salary increases exponentially year on year my household contributions remains as much and as menial n insignificant as ever. Do you also face this ? Do u also yearn for an occassional well done ! ? Am I asking for more than my due ? Does a general statement like "big deal ...u only do housework " negate all my contributions to his life. Am I to be valued only as much as one values a maid/cook/general help ?.Im confused...

2007-10-23 03:26:20 · 15 answers · asked by smashingdelite 3 in Marriage & Divorce

My 3 year daughter father basically goes for months and ignores my daughter as if she does not exist. He does this every year and always has an excuse. This time he is using me as an excuse because he does not like me we have also argued and he feels he cant get along with me. It is a load of bull he just wants to get his paycheck and not give my daughter a dime and his hate for me is an excuse. We could try to get along for her sake but he just chooses to not call or contact his own child. His family calls once in a while whenever they feel like it and I allow them to speak with my daughter but her father has not in months. My daughter asks about him all the time. If he does decide to one day call for her or want to see her again, What is the best way to tell him without an argument that he can not just pop up whenever he feel like doing so. Im fed up with his selfishness and the fact he does not love his daughter the way a father should. Just need some advice Thanks!

2007-10-23 03:26:01 · 5 answers · asked by Bleedingheartz 1 in Family

I wrote this poem and am in the process of publishing it, as well as others. I would love some feedback

Stranger Next To Me

I woke up this morning
with a stranger in my bed.
He was laying in the spot
where you’d always been.
I wondered how he got there
and why he wasn’t you.
Don’t remember when I met him
or how this could be true.
I didn’t recognize this man,
as he lay sleeping next to me.
Though he sort of looked like you,
I knew this couldn’t be.
Your loving arms around me-
had once felt so safe and strong;
but with his same arm slung over me
I felt trapped and in the wrong.
His body next to mine
had me feeling ill at ease.
His smell was reminiscent of you
but that offered no relieve.
Then I started thinking of you
and the way things used to be;
I wondered where it is you’ve been,
and that’s when it occurred to me.
All this time-
I don’t know how I hadn’t seen,
that indeed you’d become
this stranger next to me.

2007-10-23 03:25:18 · 17 answers · asked by .sincerious. 6 in Singles & Dating

He's 25 & I'm 32. We have a strong sexual attraction but also are close & have a great friendship. Don't think he was just after sex either. I think I may offended him during and after sex by making comments that we had too much to drink (he was a little drunk) but that was only because I thought he would regret it & we could use alcohol as an excuse. We hardly ever talk on phone..either text or see each other at the gym (he teaches there). Sent him a text 4 days after sex and said I had great time but made comment that it would've been better without whiskey. Now I regret saying that. He's clearly avoiding me at the gym now(won't even look @me) but it almost seems like his feelings are hurt. Is it because of what I said? How can I find out if he's hurt or is just done with me cause he didn't have fun and/or got what he wanted? Don't want to keep making moves if he's just being a jerk but if he's hurt I want to fix it.

2007-10-23 03:24:58 · 8 answers · asked by JES 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a friend that has been cheating for around 2 months. I have encouraged her strongly to tell her boyfriend, but she has not. I don't really know her boyfriend but I know what she is doing to him is wrong, should I tell him?

2007-10-23 03:21:59 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-23 03:19:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Im 18. Im in college.There's this girl in my class.She's hot. She stares at me.While having an exam,and after she's done with the paper..She'll just stare. Sometimes,I just freak out.I look away. She'll continue to stare even when I catch her staring. She stares a lot.And also, If you don't like someone, will you keep staring at him/her? or you will just look away when you see him/her? (implying to the girl) could she stare because she hates me?
Its an intense stare. not smiling, but not frowning or scowling either. just normal facial gestures.But she doesn't stop staring,she continues. Why me? could she hate me or something? and no,I check there's nothing wrong with my face or anything. So why the heck is she staring? She stares straight in my eyes. Could it be an intense stare?. She gives me a lot of eye contact,but I look away.She gives me a lot of eye contact.So,does she stare because she thinks that I'm ugly. When she's near she wont look my way.4 days back,she was still staring.I ignored her. After a while,she stopped staring at me.She stares at me everyday without fail.Im a girl btw,SHE STARES EVERYDAY..Two days back,she was walking alone today. Normally,she's with her friends.she was smiling a bit,and looking straight at me This time,I didn't leave her eye contact.She was a bit shy and she looked away...So,what does this mean Yesterday,While I was sitting with my frends and shifted my chair,..Later,I just went to the ladies,when I came back she was sitiing on my chair,talking to my frens and looking straight at me..And I immediately looked at her,She turned away..What does all this mean?And also,I dont know why she talks to all my frens expt me..

2007-10-23 03:18:58 · 11 answers · asked by samantha g 1 in Singles & Dating

I met a man...fell in love...got engaged...got pregnant...shortly afterward, I found out that he had another girl who was pregnant. Now, she was pregnant when he and I met, but he lied to me about even "being" with her. I tried and tried to get past it, but there were a lot of things I felt he was being dishonest with me about. Later, I talked to the girl, and she told me that the baby wasn't his. We still had trust issues, and I told him that we needed time apart, to sort things out.

That was about two months ago. We've been talking...he tells me that he loves me, and wants to work things out..always saying that I shouldn't hold something against him that was in his past. Then I found out he was engaged to the first girl. Days later, I get a message from his girlfriend (not fiance'..a different girl)...long story short...he's got four children on the way now. Two with the girl I knew about, (turns out they ARE his), mine, and another from after me.

2007-10-23 03:18:41 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I think i know someone likes me, and i like him awell
but theres a problem
he's never had a girlfriend and
i've never had a boyfriend.
i'm not gonna question wether he likes me becuase i just know by the way he acts around me and the way i'm around him is almost identical.
Okay so i've never even spoken to him except once on the internet.
He kind of hangs around with [[if i can call them this]] the "Popular" crowd but he's not like them he's different and i cant explain why he's just , well you can tell he's just with them becuase there isn't anyone else to hang with. I'm realy nervous around him so its hard to pluck up the courage to say anything to him or even look at him [ what would be a good way to get over this?]
and well about the people he hangs around with, there "Popular" which makes him that.It makes me feel a bit discouraged to know that well i'm not as popular as him although i have a fair amount of friends it still seems like he's better than me for some reason.

2007-10-23 03:17:23 · 19 answers · asked by Huggles [mozzafan] 4 in Singles & Dating

Hi there, mylife over the last 8months has changed beyond belief. I have separated from my husband of 10years, fallen head over heels in love with the man I should have originally married, changed jobs and had to adjust to bringing up 2 fantastic kids on my own.
My family have not exactly helped the situation I am in but to be fair it can't be easy for them. The problem I have at the moment is I really can't seem to cope with my job at all, in fact I hate it that much I have considered doing really stupid things. My boyfriend is worried sick about me but although I think about doing things I would never hurt my kids by leaving them or anything like that. I am a childminder and the kids I look after happen to be my sisters 2 boys (my nephews) and a friends 2 boys. To be honest becoming a childminder was a big mistake in the first place but now the youngest one (10 months) is driving me to distraction. He cries all day, and I mean ALL DAY! I cannot cope with him screaming and although

2007-10-23 03:16:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Someone I have been friends with since we were in middle school has been cheating on her boyfriend. This girl considers me her best friend... I don't really feel the same way because she hasn't always treated me the best. She has been dating this guy for three years, and because she sort of forces her boyfriends on me, I am pretty good friends with him as well. When they first got together she had cheated on him and I didn't think anything of it. This past spring they got engaged and then called off the engagement over the summer... but they are still "together". She called off the engagement because she is doing other guys. She has told me about it and I want to be the "understanding" friend... however, I feel like if the whole thing blows open not only will she look awful when people find out who she really is... but I am guilty by association. Not trying to be self-absorbed here, but I don't know if I am willing to lose him as a friend either. Thoughts?

2007-10-23 03:15:18 · 12 answers · asked by Robin Sparkles 3 in Friends

2007-10-23 03:13:00 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating