My partner and i are friends talk about everything from past 7 years.We fell in love 3 years back.My partner is doctor works abroad rich educated.Till today hes given 1 gift.My partner is my first love.We talk but ive no idea how to tell that i would like gifts.He doesnt write love letters plan surprises.My partner is not poor he was when we met but now hes rich has properties cars pets travels world high class living.
Most of my friends get showered with gifts go on holidays have expensive tastes they are helped financially by their partners who arent even as rich as my partner.
No im no gold digger.I am self-respecting girl who pays half of my share in dates,paid my own way through life,dont have expensive tastes,low maintainence,gift him,write love letters, plan special surprises.Ive got alot of wealth on my own(hes richer) before marrying partner i want to make sure hell financial support me after marriage if need be it wont be this way.What do i do?A diva in the making(joking)
2007-10-23 03:43:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people are very harsh here i totally understand after being so self respecting you would wish your partner showers you with gifts that too after few years your not wrong try to get him expensive gifts if he gives gifts back in kind expensive then hes got the point if not just tell him it would be nice if he wrote love letters got gifts you two went shopping for it together hes not interested then its cheap it wont change after marriage
2007-10-24 09:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy will never change, he just isn't the type to put that kind of effort into a relationship. You may want to find someone new. Most woman like being special occasionally and being showered with little gifts once in a while is how most men show us that they love and appreciate us, not this guy. If you can live like this then that is fine but if you can't then know it well never change no matter how much you tell him.
2007-10-23 03:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you telling us this instead of him?
Why do you need material things to feel loved by him? That's selfish and silly.
If you fell in love 3 years ago, why are you not married? Maybe he doesn't love you as much as you love him. Don't most Indian guys marry some chick their parents force them to? Maybe he's already married and he just hasn't told you. I bet his wife wouldn't be happy with him giving gifts or writing letters, LOL
C'mon - he has no obligation to buy you anything or to support you now, but once you get married he does. What's the warning all about? Sounds like you're in a hurry.
2007-10-23 03:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Ive got alot of wealth on my own" buy your own gifts then. He is under NO obligation to get you anything. Not purchasing you gifts is no indication that he wouldn't be able to support you...Supporting a spouse has nothing to do with purchasing them gifts or writing them love letters. Support is paying the bills in the home. If you want presents I suggest you marry Santa Claus
2007-10-23 06:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is who he is... love yourself first & your man second! You should never "need" anything that you cannot provide for yourself! He probably see this in you & therefore does not feel that your self esteem or self worth needs "possessions" I've learned hard lessons in life... I plant my own garden instead of waiting for someone to bring me flowers! Marriage this day & age should be an equal partnership! If you are requiring him to support you, give to you, do for you... then what is it you really have? And will you ever be totally satisfied? Are you giving to him because you want these things back? OR are you giving to him just because it makes you feel good?
2007-10-23 03:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by T. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He obviously thinks as you are supporting yourself he has no need to give you things. Men often dont get the point of demonstrating their love, they think they can tell you once and it will last you alife time, a bit like when they do the washing up! Maybe because you are strong, he doesnt see you as precious?
2007-10-23 03:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are coming off as a gold digger. if you are showering him with gifts and love letters, then you need to stop giving him these things. if you two get married then that would be a different story. you say that you are comfortable money wise, maybe he thinks you do not need anything. also ask him why doesn't he do these things for you. and then you will have your answer.
2007-10-23 03:50:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Word of advise: What you see is what you get. If he is cheap now it will only get worse after the wedding. Have a talk and ask what the deal is? Just because he has the money dose not mean he has to spend it.
2007-10-23 03:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Kat G 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Gifts you are talking about are just "things". Does he spend time with you? Do you enjoy being around him? Does he treat you with respect? These are the real gifts.
2007-10-23 04:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by Lynn B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you are a diva, since the moment your question says your story is very IMPORTANT.
Look for a lawyer that lives in your area, maybe you'll get more presents from him.
2007-10-23 03:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋