DO you believe that most American men HATE WOMEN?

Question

Compared with foreign men I know, they don't respect their mothers or take care of their sisters. They let doors close on women and they have no galantry. Not all but a good number of them.

Why do you think that has ocurred in the USA?

DId everyone skip the "don't respect their mothers or take care of their sisters" part?

kao x is a good example below

I love fisherman. Let's get married!

Answer 1

I think there are far too many men (or just people) like that who are far more concenred with themselves then anyone else. It's all about the values are society dictates (independence, which causes many people to think of their own needs first...look at other cultures and their family structure makes it that they put others first), our society is pretty fast paced and many are learning or have learned ettiquette (if you'd call it that with some) from television, which doesn't always provide the right messages especially with how women should be treated. I think that there are many people out there who don't respect others and treat them as they should and do things that are hurtful and downright selfish. However, it would be completely absurd and wrong to attribute this to just males or to even go as far as generalizing it to so many. Yes, there are many, many, many aholes out there but there are just as many good guys (people) out there, problem is they are often taken advantage of or not appreciated enough for the morals and values they stand by and live up to.

Answer 2

Most men I know respect their mothers. So I'll throw that part out. But in this country the line between men and women has been blurred to a large degree because of the feminist movement. It has put men in a strange position where we really don't know how to act much of the time. Do you open car doors, other doors, pay the check at all times, etc or do you treat the woman as an equal. Some women get offended with the whole gallantry act, some get offended with the opposite.

There have been many studies about the effect of feminism on male/female interaction, check em out.

Answer 3

That's an interesting question, but I disagree. I work in Manhattan and have travelled a lot. I notice in Greece and in many Middle Eastern countries, they not only don't treat their women as well as we do here, they have them walk behind them, separate them from social events, and are just flat out rude.

I still hold doors for women (not just pretty ones), help a woman when she struggles with a baby stroller down the stairs and open the car door for whoever I'm with at the time. I know you said there are exceptions and I DO AGREE there are far less occurrences of chivalry than in the past.

I think that stems from children not being able to be home with their mothers as much as they did in the 50's, 60's and even the 70's. Both parents need to work now and the children don't get to bond with their mother the way they used to and many fathers these days don't stay leaving single mothers that have little time for nurturing and seeing the way the husbands respect the women. There is no one teaching family values anymore....but it' still there. I promise.

Answer 4

Women in the U.S. very much have developed an "I can do it myself" bitchy attitude. Not all, but many. They seem to have forgotten that it's out of sheer politeness that we do these things. They often think we do things for them because we think that they can't do it themselves.......and that's not our thinking at all. They want to be treated equally as men, but still expect all the perks, and that's where men draw the line.
If you want to be treated like a man, then I will treat you like a man.
I have always been a gentelman to women, because that's how I was raised, and it's just my nature. But the more that it goes unappreciated, the less I will be a gentelman.
I respect my mother, for the person that she is.......not just because she is a woman. I would always take care of my sisters, and give my life for any of my family members if needed.
So basicly, it boils down to.......women want everything here. Not all.....but alot of them. It's hard to find the good ones.

Answer 5

No. I love my wife, my mother, and my sisters. In fact, I like women in general. I am an American man, so I do not believe that most American men hate women. Many men have never had a good male role model and simply don't know how to treat women the way they should be treated. I think the actual number is very low.

Answer 6

I think you are all went on this question... I saw this question by someone else last week so I went on an observing spree... In two days observed 63 men and woman holding hands and going into restaurants all but three opened the door that's better than 90% Why dont you try that where you live and let me know how you made out.. Good luck Grant M in Pennsylvania

Answer 7

It sounds like you have met "most" American men to make such a broad generalization. A lack of chivalry btw, does not equate to mysogeny (hating women). I should also point out that extremist feminists have scared a lot of men away from being chivalrous in the US.

I think you are probably making a generalization based on a handful of experiences you have had with American men. Consider that in some countries in the world women are second class citizens, cannot vote, work, or drive, and have their genitals mutilated at birth. Is that the kind of country the US should be? I think not.

Answer 8

compared to most foreign countries American men are saints, not all but a good deal of them. Were a country of independent thinkers it's normal in this country to dislike his family because of anger or possible abuse as a child - in other other countries (no not all) a lot of that crap is like second nature and the child are raised to believe their parents are flawless and MUST respect their parents. I'm happy that I live in the U.S. where respect is earned and not just given because of someone else's beliefs. The two most important men in my life love their mothers and would die for their sisters. That's my husband and my best friend.

Answer 9

American women seem to be hypocrites, because none of then likes it when men call attention to female's stupidity, inequalities, and bullying. Usually people hate others either because: they are insecure, and they falsely believe that attacking others will somehow lift themselves up; or, they are selfish manipulators who think that bullying other people is an acceptable way to get people to do what they want. American women, by and large, no longer have any manners, respect, or empathy for others, because no one teaches them to. Our culture teaches that it is acceptable, even "empowering", for women to be sexist pigs. ---------------------------------------... "Men Are Becoming the Ad Target of the Gender Sneer" By COURTNEY KANE (New York Times) Published: January 28, 2005 ARE today's men incompetent, bumbling idiots? Judging by portrayals in some advertising, the answer seems to be yes - much to the dismay of some men. The portrayals began as a clever reversal of traditional gender roles in campaigns, prompted by the ire of women and feminist organizations over decades of ads using stereotyped imagery of an incompetent, bumbling housewife who needed to be told which coffee or cleanser to buy. As those images disappeared, the pendulum swung, producing campaigns portraying men in general, and husbands and fathers in particular, as objects of ridicule, pity or even scorn. Among them are ads for Bud Light, Domino's, Hummer, T-Mobile and Verizon. The "man as a dope" imagery has gathered momentum over the last decade, and critics say that it has spiraled out of control. It is nearly impossible, they say, to watch commercials or read ads without seeing helpless, hapless men. In the campaigns, which the critics consider misandry (the opposite of misogyny), men act like buffoons, ogling cars and women; are likened to dogs, especially in beer and pizza ads; and bungle every possible household task. Most marketers presenting incompetent, silly male characters say their campaigns provide a harmless comedic insight into the male mentality while also appealing to women. But men who describe themselves as rights activists are increasingly speaking out against the ads as a form of male-bashing, especially when the ads disparage the roles that fathers play in their children's lives...

Answer 10

Because women today are more concerned with what they want than what is good for their children.

If these "men" had been raised by mothers who stayed home to raise their boys, and these women had strong values of right and wrong and brought their sons up with those values, and the sons had fathers that would keep them in line, especially when they'd get disrespectful of the mothers, then these guys would have grown up with far more appreciation of women and their positions.

But women's lib has been selling women a bill of goods about their role as women. Women cannot have it all - family, a good marriage, and a career (or even a full-time job) and actually be happy. And women's lib has emasculated men to the point that men are more like women than real men. (I'm not talking about men who beat their wives - they are scum. I'm talking about men who stand up for what is right, won't let anyone interfere with his family, and treats his woman with respect - but also won't put up with any disrespect in his own home.) It's almost like we're marrying a girlfriend instead of men.

This is why I am so adamant about women being extremely careful in who they choose as a mate and why I believe that being a SAHM is more important than board meetings.

When you die, do you want to be remembered for being never missing a deadline at work? Or for being a loving and wonderful mother? Which one do you think impacts lives more?

Another side issue - I believe that a lot of women have lost all respect for themselves and do not truly value themselves as worthy of a good man. A large portion of this I blame on absent or weak (emasculated by women's lib) fathers who don't show their daughters how a man is supposed to treat women. And because they don't have daddy's love, they are willing and desperate to find it elsewhere, but, lacking life experience and the self-confidence it takes to make good choices, they fall for anyone who shows them a little attention, and then are willing to do whatever it takes to keep them.

As women, we need to understand and draw the line at the type of behavior we really want from men. This old "if I don't have sex with him I'll lose him" has got to stop. OK, if sex is the only reason he is willing to stay with you, then he isn't the man you really want to have around. And he won't stay with you long-term, anyway. Once we start to say (as a majority) "These are the conditions under which you will be able to have a relationship" (i.e., no sex until marriage and we are to be treated with respect) then men will either have to straighten up or they will be doing without.