He's 25 & I'm 32. We have a strong sexual attraction but also are close & have a great friendship. Don't think he was just after sex either. I think I may offended him during and after sex by making comments that we had too much to drink (he was a little drunk) but that was only because I thought he would regret it & we could use alcohol as an excuse. We hardly ever talk on phone..either text or see each other at the gym (he teaches there). Sent him a text 4 days after sex and said I had great time but made comment that it would've been better without whiskey. Now I regret saying that. He's clearly avoiding me at the gym now(won't even look @me) but it almost seems like his feelings are hurt. Is it because of what I said? How can I find out if he's hurt or is just done with me cause he didn't have fun and/or got what he wanted? Don't want to keep making moves if he's just being a jerk but if he's hurt I want to fix it.
2007-10-23 03:24:58 · 8 answers · asked by JES 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you said "it would've been better without whisky" he may have taken that to mean you felt that he wasn't that good in bed.
2007-10-23 03:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by Michael B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was after sex. Sorry. Just move on and find someone better to spend some time with. =)
2007-10-23 10:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by agomez9612 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really liked you and was in love with you what you said wouldnt have bothered him. it certainly wouldnt have bothered me. sounds like he was just after sex while he was drunk. if he wasnt just after sex then it sounds as tho he needs to grow up a little but. theres no need to act like that at 25....maybe 16 to 18 but not 25
2007-10-23 10:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by ANTHONY H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I learnt this lesson the hard way as well - I slept with 2 friends and lost them, due to embarrassment and misunderstandings. He's gone, don't waste any more time worrying about it.
2007-10-23 10:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by Velouria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him out on a date and say we aren't going to drink to see if there is a real attraction. I am sure he likes you and that comment kind of hurt him
2007-10-23 10:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its anything that you said, he basically just wanted the sex.. You gave it to em now hes done with you... Sorry! Dont call or text him anymore, if he wants to talk wait for him to call you..
2007-10-23 11:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Drew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was after sex.
"it would have.." said to him "You weren't that good"
Can you fix it..Dunno
Avoid the alcohol from now on.. it ruins your libido..
and if you don't drink he will at least, drink less...
2007-10-23 10:35:27 · answer #7 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong, he was after sex, he's got want he wanted and now it's done.
2007-10-23 10:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋