Family & Relationships - 22 October 2007

my step mum h8s me she calls me all sorts of names(im not sayin what) but she makes me feel really bad and ugly. She has children with my dad and shes horrible to my dad to.Weve tried to move out but the council wont house us! Anyway my dad also wants to stay with her because of their children. My rooms even been taken away frm me 2 use as a junk room.The thing tht gets 2 me is me & my step mum used 2 get on b4 my bro n sisters were born.My sister thats 7 also treets me like dirt + hits me.My stepmum treats us like slaves.Im 13 n feel like my lifes over. Help!

2007-10-22 05:04:29 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

Ok, quick but thorough background. A friend of mine was married for 6 years, then, wife cheated on him and moved out of his house with another man. She continued to use his (their) credit card(s) and built up an enormous amount of debt, possibly ruining both their credit histories for a very long time (bankruptcy may be apparent). During this 10 month period, he repeatedly try to salvage the relationship, with no success. She told him she didn’t find him attractive any more, and didn’t love him, etc., basically everything you need to move on with closure. Now, month 11 he has began talking to her again (after he sold his house, moved to a new place and started a new job) and is seriously contemplating trying to work it out with her, again! Throughout this process I helped him move on and get his life back in order (start anew), but know I feel he is headed down the same path by contemplating the renewal of this relationship. Furthermore, the only reason he is contemplating this is because NOW she is ready to try it out again. Personally, I think this is a tragic mistake! I have told him so, but I believe he is already moving on the opportunity. I know you can lead a horse to water but not make him/her drink, but what advice do you have for me that I can give to him?

P.S. I currently found out that he didn’t file for divorce when he said he did, just FYI, so they are technically still married.

2007-10-22 05:04:29 · 17 answers · asked by Derrick 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I lost all of my friends. I lost most of them because they got into drugs and I had nothing in common with them anymore. I'm 20 years old and a college student. I'm sociable, not mean or shy. I'm really lonely and depressed and it's effecting my relationship. My boyfriend has a bunch of friends and I used to give him a hard time about going out with them because I had noone to hang out with. I stopped when I realized I was being selfish, so now I encourage him to have fun with them. But now when he goes out I sit at home with nothing to do. Anyway, what do you do to meet new friends?

2007-10-22 05:04:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I've been in love with him for 4yrs in the begining the sex was fun and great now i find my self not wanting it as much any more. he wants it all the time but i dont. i love him and want to be with him i just dont want to have sex that much any more and he's getting flustrated with me and i just dont want it that much any more but find my self daydreaming sex with other guys i would like to have sex with,so i ask what do you think this mean when i do really still love him and want to be with him just not sexually all the time and were in a relationship deep? help me please!

2007-10-22 05:03:19 · 4 answers · asked by another sass 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm stuck on what date to pick for my wedding. I don't want to just pick ANY day... so any ideas?

2007-10-22 05:03:00 · 25 answers · asked by Riley's Mommy 6 in Weddings

So i work in a business type atmosphere. The women here dress in business type outfits, some are a bit revealing and a lot of the women are attractive just like most work places.

Anyways I was talking with female employee, she was squating near my work station, i could see down her blouse and I became slightly arroused. She asked me to join her for a smoke break. Well when I stood up I noticed I was actually very arroused. I don't know if she noticed, but I think she did, I had to sit down quickly and told her that I had an important email to send out and I would join her next time.

My question for you women is, does this happen often, and are you able to notice when such things happen.

2007-10-22 05:00:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Hi everyone.
My mom's birthday is today and I just want to get some ideas about that.
I can't buy here any gift, but have you any ideas about what I can give her.
And maybe some ideas about what we should do today.
I'm 14 and she just got 49, we live just to because my parents are divorced and my brother is in another country at a collage.
Thank you.

2007-10-22 04:55:46 · 15 answers · asked by Heidi E 1 in Family

Help!!! I'm confused! What I really want to do is to go to Charleston,SC to get married next year and make it really simple but beautiful but that means that alot of our guest won't beable to come. I feel like a part of me has to stay and have a local wedding so that all the guest can come but that also means more expense and planning involved. I know this is a one in a lifetime event for me so I don't want to regret it years down the road. Does anyone have any ideas that I could do for the local people or should I just forget them and just think about me and future husband and close family members???

2007-10-22 04:55:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My parents are seperated, not divorced. He has a new partner and everytime my lil brother and me go visit him, they are all over each other. This bothers me. Makes me not want to visit him cause it makes me uncomfortable. I just feel hurt cause I remember when my mom and dad were like that.

I can accept he has moved on, but can't they like be lovey-dovey when we are not there?

2007-10-22 04:54:32 · 15 answers · asked by Bella 1 in Family

Our son is 8 weeks old. I don't know if I'm just not in the mood, or if I'm really not attracted to my husband anymore. Maybe its just hormones? It's not because we don't the opportunity, our son sleeps through the night. I just find myself turning away from him at night. How do you know the difference between your hormones going back to normal or finding yourself not attracted to someone anymore?

2007-10-22 04:53:46 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

The measurements of their husband/partner. Yes, down "there". It's funny, I think every man in the world knows exactly how long it is since they have a preoccupation with it. How many women know ??

2007-10-22 04:53:44 · 26 answers · asked by DMV 1 in Marriage & Divorce

what does it mean when a girl says i like you but im not ready

2007-10-22 04:53:33 · 26 answers · asked by saifu 2 in Singles & Dating

me ill say about 7 times a week lol almost everyday lol!!!!! but im young i need it!!! RAWR!!!

2007-10-22 04:52:14 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We I'm only 16 and he just turned 18. We have been dating for a year and a little over three months now. We had sex before the first time we did was around 9 months. We only have had sex a few times. I got a little carried away and wanted to do it all the time. So we did it like 3 days in a row once. I decided I didn't want to anymore since he was saying it was too much. Then the next day he decides he wants to do it once a month. Well today I decided I didn't want to do it anymore. He is mad about me and says it doesn't make sence that I don't want to anymore. Thats alright if I don't want to right? What is going on? I think thats unfair that he can be mad about that. Thinks just don't seem as if they are working anymore. Thanks if you have advice... =]

2007-10-22 04:51:30 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My sister is getting married next Sept. and we are trying to figure out the color scheme..She decided to go with dresses in Chambord
http://www.davidsbridal.com/bridesmaids_bycolor_detail.jsp?stid=2982&sid=15394&cfid=26

What other colors can she do, she is against the idea of any greens (though I think they would look great) any suggestions (if you have links so we can view it would be appreciated!!) THANKS!!

2007-10-22 04:49:20 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I am getting married on the 31st. Yes Halloween. My family and friends have known about the date and time for a year. 2 days ago, my grandmother called me and chewed me out for poor planning because she doesnt see how 2 of my uncles can make it.(They work for her) I got the whole you should have chosen a different date/time etc..The ceremony isn't scheduled until 6 in the evening..I had 150 people to work around when i picked the date and time and that seemed the most workable to the majority. Am i right that she should have said something months ago???

2007-10-22 04:49:01 · 28 answers · asked by Geia 4 in Weddings

I met a guy and he came back to my flat. I had never done anything sexual with a guy or even kissed a guy! (I'm 18) anyway he took off my jeans and stuck his penis inside me FOR ABOUT 6 SECONDS. It only went in half way and he was trying to push it in further and guide it with his hand but it hurt so bad and he took it out again without him even starting to push it in and out.
I don't want to lie so was wondering,have I had sex with him? He never ejaculated at all and never got it in fully.Also he never thrusted.My hymen was already broken from a horse riding accident I had two years ago.Not that I think that makes a blind bit of difference but some freaks on here seem to believe it does

2007-10-22 04:48:54 · 107 answers · asked by jacinta 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

her he takes her out of state and all these places and I never know where she is and he won't tell me when he does this, is he allowed to do whatever he wants with her? He has even kept her out of school to go on vacation without letting me know.

2007-10-22 04:48:44 · 9 answers · asked by speclt1970 2 in Family

My Husband is a great Person.. But Im left alone emotionally.. He Loves Sex so much I feel pressured that it Is "THE ONLY" thing he wants... How Can I get My husband to be More emotionally loving? & More sensitive to my needs..? Its always.... Me" Hunny can we cuddle.. will you just carress or Rub my back"........... Him.. "No But Im horney..... yeah baaaabeee Give it Up...." I say No not tonight.. he whines.... LITTERALLY! But I waaaant some!.. I have tried to stop giving it to him so that i can get Him to understand that Im emotionally lonely! sooo what can i do?? i wont divorce Him.. we have a 2 year old... & my husband is the only One who has ever made me laugh.. He used to be emotioally connected to me.. but now?? i can talk till im blue in the face & he still dont get It.. my heart & soul hurts... we have tried marriage counsling.. he wont go again... He wont let Me have an affair with a guy.. ( i dont want one.. but he says to just try out for another woman!) Help?????

2007-10-22 04:45:31 · 11 answers · asked by SHAIYLYNN 3 in Marriage & Divorce

We're having a small wedding at our church and the reception will be in the church hall. Our families are complete opposites and won't mingle very well. Because of my family we are forced to have a dry wedding which his family won't be too happy about. For the reception we were planning on having cake only. What are some ideas of things we could do during the reception so it's not a total bore?

2007-10-22 04:45:24 · 10 answers · asked by KittyKitty 2 in Weddings

2007-10-22 04:45:05 · 3 answers · asked by crybabygomez 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-22 04:44:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My bf of 6 months and I recently broke up (we're both 25). We had backed off a little a month or so ago because he felt like we should slow down, but we were still intimate and still hung out and talked all the time. I foolishly thought that meant something. Finally when I talked to him about getting back together he said he's super attracted to me and has a great time with me, but doesn't want a serious relationship right now. (He's going to europe for a few months and loves to just hang out with the guys) He said he can see himself getting really attached to me and isn't ready for that.

WTF. I don't get it... if you are attracted to someone, have great chemistry with them, and enjoy spending time with them, why would you back off like that? Is not wanting to be in a serious relationship a real excuse, or is it a cop-out? I'm sad and I'm taking it very personal. Do you think if it really is a commitment thing, or is he letting me down easy?

2007-10-22 04:41:37 · 12 answers · asked by Leah 3 in Singles & Dating

I just said to one of my friends "wouldnt it be cool to have an older sister? you could talk to them about anything" and my friend replied you weirdo! it means your lonely...
Is it weird i'd want an older sister?

2007-10-22 04:40:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

i went out to eat saturday night and my waitress and i talked for awhile, by the end of the night before i left she said let me give you something. and she gave me her number, without me having asked for it, and said maybe we can go out for lunch sometime. ok well i texted her later on, just saying its me, and this is my number so you will have it. no respond. well i called around 7ish on sunday left a message, just saying just wanted to see if you wanted to get together this week and do something, give me a call back. well its monday morning obviously and i was just wondering what the deal is. i know she works alot, but to not have time to return a call or text. i mean why would she give me her number and not return the phone calls? any tips on what i should do?

2007-10-22 04:40:08 · 11 answers · asked by Josh 3 in Singles & Dating

my brother and i are very close hes is 16 and im 19...i don't live at home any more by choise but my brother and i still talk almost every day...he has been dating his girl for alittle over 3 months when i asked if they had sex yet he said no but did everything else and he promised to tell me if they had sex
after we talked about it for a while...i told him to be safe etc etc

but my moms new thing is to bug me and him about his sex life ( she never did that to me when i was his age)
she keeps asking me if i know anything what are they doing etc...how do i tell her to butt out i don't want to rat out my brother cuz he really isn't doing anything wrong and he would never rat me out

i know he really loves this girl that is why im ok w/ it and i did lose mine at 16 too

2007-10-22 04:36:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

my bf spent the night at another girls house. it was late saturday like 11pm we were parting ways, he was goin to a bar and i was goin to my bros apartment to drink(since im under 21). he was at the bar with two male friends and a female friend of theirs, which was fine..... another friend was supposed to show(a girl) but she never went. so he didnt leave the bar till about 2 or 3 that morning. so... he decides to call this friend(girl) that didnt show and ask why she wasnt there. he was drunk, and she was like "you know i live real close to where youre at? you can stay at my house" so he goes there. i dont know if he drives or she comes for him, but he went. he said they drank for a bit and talked for a while, him, this friend(girl) and a friend(girl) of hers. then slept for like an hour, when he got a call from his mom telling him he had to go to work.... then he went to work and didnt tell me any of this (he had chances to) untill about three in the afternoon sunday. ....

2007-10-22 04:34:46 · 16 answers · asked by para_servirle 2 in Singles & Dating

Maybe we should change the way we think about it? It should be a healthy thing, right?

2007-10-22 04:33:28 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

ok soo i just posted a question. i said that i didnt like this geek and he asked me out. i also said that im a cheerleader and hes a in the band. people r calling my a bi**c and it really hurts. they think that just cuz im a cheerleader im the meanest person ever. i just dont like da guy u know. and i did feel srry for him. big woop. watever well why r people sooo mean?>??

2007-10-22 04:30:03 · 14 answers · asked by Cheerleadingkutie 1 in Singles & Dating

he just had a birthday and i dont know what to get him. he is coming to my house for thanksgiving to spend a few days with us and meet my family. What is a good gift for him. he loves to hunt and fish. and he says that he is a redneck

2007-10-22 04:29:56 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating