Family & Relationships - 22 October 2007

My husband and I seperated last week, wednesday to be exact. We didn't split because we weren't getting along..we split because his son was getting out of jail and we agreed that for the best interest of his child and mine that he would spend some time with his son and get him on the right track. We each have children from a prior marriage, none together though. Friday night I took a ride to the next town over just to get out of the house for a few minutes. I saw my husband and another woman, each obviously drinking and they were all over each other. I wanted to throw up..we had only been apart for 3 days. But we have been together for 8 years. He had been a recovering alcoholic and had not had a drink in years. He called me yesterday morning to say hello, said he had been sick with the flu all weekend and his cell phone broke so he caouln't call me. Very calmly I told him what I saw, how he hurt me and how I never want to see him again. I feel so empty and betrayed. Thoughts?

2007-10-22 02:51:32 · 44 answers · asked by rp044 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My friends husband barely ever wants sex with his wife..but he'll wait til she leaves the house so he can watch his adult movies and please himself....I mean we are talking they will go for a month or more without doing it....Thats not normal is it? My friend feels that when he does do it ..its becuase he feels bad and finally has to give in...What would be some reasons why a husband wouldnt want to do it? they have only been married a year.

2007-10-22 02:50:59 · 24 answers · asked by kakeydec 4 in Marriage & Divorce

Lots of people choose not to marry now a days. What is your reason?

2007-10-22 02:50:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I just moved out of state, away from my family and friends where I had lived for most of my life to be with my current boyfirend of 3.5 years and he goes home to his parents house, 2 hours away, every weekend to hunt. He will be going for half of November too. Prior to this it was fishing though not every weekend, at least every other or once a month.

I don't know many people here and I don't want to spend every weekend at his parents house. I also can't help but spend Saturday nights worrying that he is out at the bars as he can walk to them from their house.

We used to go out together but I quit drinking and now I don't like too go out to bars. We were both supposed to quit, but he didn't. I don't want to start drinking again, but he barely wants to do any non-drinking social things and basically I just don't want to sleep with him anymore as a result of all this as it feels like we aren't friends anymore cause we don't hang out.

2007-10-22 02:47:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

When I watch all these bridal shows, they spend thousands of dollars on flowers and decorations. What is done with this stuff after the wedding? Are people keeping them, or do the wedding planners keep the stuff, or is it thrown away?

2007-10-22 02:46:05 · 14 answers · asked by cashmaker81 6 in Weddings

2007-10-22 02:44:07 · 11 answers · asked by yagshemash! 1 in Friends

2007-10-22 02:41:06 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

would you disapprove of the age gap?

2007-10-22 02:35:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

We just found out yesterday that my fiance's daughter has been telling her mother many, many lies about what goes on in our house and she went as far as telling others in authority about things that happen in our house. She is 17 and we know it is her choice to come to our house for visitation. I had asked her previously if she would be one of my bridesmaids, but she never really gave me an answer, though she talked about what dress she would like to wear in the wedding with me on multiple occasions. Right now, I am so angry about the lies that she told because she tried to make us look very bad in the eyes of others. It is not just me and my fiance that she lied about, but also my 2 children, whom she claims to love like her own brother and sister.
I really don't want to keep her as a bridesmaid, because to me, I have to be able to trust my bridesmaids.

Should I keep her as one?

2007-10-22 02:34:42 · 12 answers · asked by tazrunner1 1 in Weddings

met a guy in July, We ended up hooking up, i got his #, never called,I knew he wanted nothing serious. 3 months later i contacted him thru myspace, he said we should meet up for drinks. we did the other night. i got really drunk and acted stupid. He had said earlier in the nite hed fix my car. Next day, i texted saying, can you help me with my car still? he said, yes and he did help. He told me i had acted kind of crazy the night b4, but he laughed. He still has more of car to work on, but made it seem like he was really busy and woudnt be able to do it till next week. I went home,didnt hook up with him,but he thought i was going to stay. He said, ill call you next week. I feel a little bad that i havent heard from him. I mean my friend kept telling me he would ask about me, tell me he said hi, etc. he doesnt seem interested whatsoever! I texted him 2nite saying hi, asked about car. He wrote back immediately, said yes, going to watch game, ill call you tomorrow. I dont want to bug him

2007-10-22 02:34:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am a plus size woman, (for a general idea think the comedian Monique). I have had a hard time finding a decent boyfriend and I just wanted to know, can attractive guys be attracted to plus size woman. Im very well kept, professional, kind, and far from ugly.

2007-10-22 02:33:40 · 8 answers · asked by lady l 1 in Singles & Dating

your parents not let u be with him/her

2007-10-22 02:32:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Last night me and my other half were being intimate.. well things got carried away and he gave me a hickey.. I covered it up for the first couple of hours well after i took a shower it started to hurt.. when i woke up this morning it was really sore.. Now it just plain out hurts .. is something wrong what can i do? with out my parents saying anything to me about it

2007-10-22 02:29:09 · 16 answers · asked by lyssa_lynn89 2 in Singles & Dating

im 23 weeks pregnant and have been on this mood kick like no other. i feel like im not treating my husband fair at all but everything he does i fly off the handle. now i know i need to get that in check but what is something sweet i could do for him that will light that fire that we once had??
guys-what do you wish your girl would do for you?
thanks in advance!

2007-10-22 02:28:14 · 13 answers · asked by 2/08 is the due date! 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I want to know my rashi . i dont know right time of birth. DoB 31/10/1986. birth place is Ratnagiri(Hardhakhale).Last 2-3 years their is no progress in the edu. i want to know that why this obstacles are coming in my life. which stone is perfect for me for edu as well as for overall improvement. so plz help me . when i get married & how will be my life partner.

2007-10-22 02:26:10 · 6 answers · asked by reshu 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-22 02:25:51 · 7 answers · asked by Teach 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I see how many married people online get into situations that they know they shouldn't, like talk to the opposite sex about things they should be talking to their spouse about, or they get into webcamming, or go to the chat rooms and talk about things they shouldn't... it's worse when they have kids... why does it bother me so much??? sigh =(... I guess I care too much...? =(... I just don't understand...no matter what, I would never hurt my husband... ever... I would never cheat... and he would never do this to me... (shakes head @ people who cheat online) I just want to scream at some people! argh! sigh...

2007-10-22 02:20:48 · 16 answers · asked by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-22 02:19:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am sexy male and I can not live without love.

2007-10-22 02:18:27 · 30 answers · asked by ashok k 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Because she already cooks, cleans, picks up dry-cleaning, etc...like you have the wife already?

Is the saying"why buy the cow when you get the milk for free" really true?

2007-10-22 02:13:29 · 9 answers · asked by Maeve 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm not afraid of short .....

2007-10-22 02:12:05 · 3 answers · asked by Me 3 in Singles & Dating

that would I get to tkae her out?Would I win her hand?

2007-10-22 02:11:50 · 9 answers · asked by Stu 1 in Singles & Dating

Why there is a friend that always hangs out with you and in the end you just find out that she/he is just using you so that she/he can have high grades or tries to reveal your secret to your enemies or to other people?? Why he/she is a traitor??

2007-10-22 02:09:43 · 4 answers · asked by Curious 1 in Friends

Hi.I am 29 and married.I have been married for 6 six years. i feel absolutely no attraction to my husband. in all the time that we have been married i have had an orgasm only once. I faked all the other times.sometimes he tries too hard and ends up hurting me. i feel like i do not love my husband anymore. he is a wonderful person but there is just no attraction and i hate myself for it. we have nothing in common and he tries to mould me into this person i am not. i work 9-5 and when i come home i do the housework and cook. i feel as though i do the same thing day in and out. i am bored stiff and want to leave him for my sanity. any advice.

2007-10-22 02:05:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

together several times.He acts as he likes me, he's carrying,we go out with his friends,we dance together and we stay alone till morning,holding hands and arms.He never tried to kiss me or asked me to be his gf but when some guys approached me inside the club he acted jealously.The problem is that this Friday after having fun in the club,he talked 2 much about his ex gf.They broke up this summer but they had had an on/off relationship for 7 yrs.We went to his house as he wanted to show me sth in his "my space"and he still keeps pictures of this girl and him.I don't want to have a 2nd place in his life or to be his rebound girl.I think to back off.How you see this story?

2007-10-22 02:02:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

kicked son as punishment and promised to do so again if he didn't do as told.
has previous history of becoming violent when angry threatening myself and causing bodily injury while blaming me for making him do so.
told son it was his last option, as though he'd tried other ways to discipline.
all were implemented with anger.\

2007-10-22 01:56:07 · 24 answers · asked by bahabug 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-22 01:54:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

So I'm new to the school this year...I'm kinda shy..but I'm working on it.
Well anways...last year [I was new to the school too] but alot of people [and alot of guys] talked to me.
But this year, hardly any guys do. And when they do, it's something about school, or whatever it is that we're doing at the time.
I have friends, but I want guys to notice me.
Last year, I just wore a t-shirt and baggy-ish jeans, and alot of guys talked to me..but this year, I dress nicely [not dressed up or anything, but not like last year]..and guys don't..

I know you're going to say "You go talk to them." Well, like I said...I'm working on that =)

What's wrong? Anything else I should do?

2007-10-22 01:52:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-22 01:52:09 · 19 answers · asked by pathma cute 1 in Marriage & Divorce

just found out she'd been calling your boyfriend at the time. She knew the two of you were together yet she kept calling him while you weren't around or late at night when I'm wishing I could be snuggling with him instead of making the rent at work. In the meantime I'm sitting and thinking of ways of more romantics for us. After we broke up, I told her very few people had I given my number to. Had she been calling my house? SHE BOLD FACE LIED!!!!! She thrives on doing this to women she thinks she is the sh--. I see her in a place where we are supposed to be nice for over an hour I see her at least once a week. My ex and I are still communicating. He has his part in this. I'm the queen of hearts . When things started to get better for him. He chose the queen of diamonds. I helped him through alot not that I wouldn't again with absolutely no strings atached because to see the light and the happiness that I saw was the same light and happiness that I fell in love with. It just hurts

2007-10-22 01:51:58 · 12 answers · asked by nnt 1 in Singles & Dating