There is a woman What would you do if?

Question

just found out she'd been calling your boyfriend at the time. She knew the two of you were together yet she kept calling him while you weren't around or late at night when I'm wishing I could be snuggling with him instead of making the rent at work. In the meantime I'm sitting and thinking of ways of more romantics for us. After we broke up, I told her very few people had I given my number to. Had she been calling my house? SHE BOLD FACE LIED!!!!! She thrives on doing this to women she thinks she is the sh--. I see her in a place where we are supposed to be nice for over an hour I see her at least once a week. My ex and I are still communicating. He has his part in this. I'm the queen of hearts . When things started to get better for him. He chose the queen of diamonds. I helped him through alot not that I wouldn't again with absolutely no strings atached because to see the light and the happiness that I saw was the same light and happiness that I fell in love with. It just hurts

the truth being you are right about one thing, I do love him and I can't help but believe that if we got together we would make it. I can't stay hurt, I love him. If I made him sound like an oger. I had my insecure part at that time I guess every side has its story.

Answer 1

What goes around comes around.

Women who steal their guys from other girls are quite likely to have their man stolen by someone. Knowing this they are often insecure and jelouse of others stealing thei man they stole.

Some men get addicted to the chase and are easily seduced by new conquests. If your guys motto is "variety is the spice of life" role play or acting mysterious might help a little in keeping the sparks flying.

In a healthy relationship the spice is supposed to bring the man to the table where he can be satisfued by the meat of the relationship, and get addicted to comfort food.

After he falls in lust he is then supposed to fall in love.and get to comfortable to chase other girls. In your case your competition did the chasing and he didn't have the the strength or the will to knock back what was offered.


Women who are busy working sometimes loose energy or enthusiasm for continually seducing their man. It usually takes very little to keep a guy interested. If a girl is willing to take the effort they can usually keep a man interested in her. Sadly men have a tendancyto be like lions wanting a pride of lionesses.

Some male animals like chickens have a large harem with many many children with the expectation that only the toughest will survive. Such harems usually have pecking orders with a chief matriach in charge.

Animals like humans who have long childhoods or like penguins who have harsh environments sometimes require the full attention of two parents solely dedicated to the one child. Western societies like the USA promote a nuclear family with monogomous relationships like penguins.

My advice is to steal back your lion and tame him or find yourself a penguin.

Answer 2

I think you should just let it go. You don't want to give her the satisfaction of knowing that she got to you. You have not completely lost if you still have him as a good friend. Look at it as her saving you! I have found that if you are the one, the man will not even consider another woman. If he were a man about it, he would not have hidden her phone calls from you! It sounds he would eventually have strayed away from you. It just happened to be with some one you see regularly and is known to take men.

Think... what will you truly get from fighting her or making a big deal about it? Will it effect your current friendship with your ex?

Unless you plan on being her friend or something.... Walk away and don't let her rule your world!

Answer 3

If your man knows he can get away with bad behavior he will definitely keep doing it!!

You can be as emotionally upset about his actions as you like - but if you ALLOW him to do as he pleases with absolutely no repercussions, he will never stop cheating/lying/etc.

My stupid female friends do this ALL the time - it irritates me to death!

Your man knows that no matter what he does, you will always be there for him. He can run around with other women all he likes, and you will still be happy to help him out. Why should he stop?? He's got you right where he wants you! It's no ones fault but yours - for condoning his bad behavior. If you really had a problem with him, you'd kick him to the curb & never look back.

I think some women thrive on this challenge of "taming" the wild man in their life. No one wins but the man - who gets all the women he wants bending over backwards for him like he's some God.

If you had any self respect you wouldn't allow someone to treat you so poorly & completely disrespect you.

Answer 4

They are 2 seperate people, she couldn't succeed.If he wasn't accepting her advances.
Sounds like your ready for Round #2,with him!
Boy,oh boy isn't he lucky! Still gets the "fringe benefits",and next time,he doesn't have to make even a false commitment.You'll help him again , "with no strings"attached???
What are you looking for in him.A needy friend, a gigalo/lover/drama-king, a man, or a weak husband.
He doesn't even have to bust a brain cell with weak excuses,you'll blame someone else for ALL his wrongdoing to!
So, what exactly are you complaining about! You need to purchase a throne for him to sit on ,and give him a septor to hit you in the head with.
I sorry,but you're keeping this game going! Next time,it'll just be a different woman.Other players,remain the same.Take care!

Answer 5

First of all, I'm sorry you're going through this, breakups are never easy!

You're asking what you should do about this other woman. If she continues to harrass you, you can call the police. But it sounds like she was just after your boyfriend. Continue to be polite to her, but you don't have to be her friend.

Your ex sounds like a jerk, They deserve each other. It's time to move on and find someone who will treat you with respect!

Good luck!

Answer 6

Not that you made much sense (try asking questions here when you aren't drunk), but it sounds like he hit it and moved on. Get over it. Or you could get back at him and tell everyone that he has a baby dick, or that he was always asking you to jack him with a dildo.
If you can't be happy, might as well make someone else miserable.

Answer 7

well it seems to me like she's not the only one that has a part in this. if she's actually talking to you your boyfriend, then your boyfriend is letting it happen, which means he don't respect you as he should. you should forget them both.

find your self a new boyfriend. Ignore her completely and when you find someone new, show him off to your ex so that he can see that you're happy with another guy, and he can see what he's missing. but i don't think you should get back with your ex, coz if he's done that once, who's to say he wouldn't do it again.

Answer 8

Just dont emphasize on the situation anymore...things have change and nothign can be done..Meanwhile confronting the woman is useless too. I believe in moving on..come on, who is she anyway to spoli your existence on earth..you are abig lady on your own..forget the situation, what's important is your ok now..cheer up!

Answer 9

I understand the pain you are feeling and it will take time for you to feel better but honestly,......do you want a guy that would do that to you. He isn't the one that is going to be there through thick and thin let it go.Find the one that is into you and you won't have to worry about other women stealing him away.

Answer 10

Your first reply hit it on the head.
The word is 'ex'. Going over what happened is destructive and will make you depressed and wary of new relationships.
Knock them both on the head (not literally!) and move on!