im 23 weeks pregnant and have been on this mood kick like no other. i feel like im not treating my husband fair at all but everything he does i fly off the handle. now i know i need to get that in check but what is something sweet i could do for him that will light that fire that we once had??
guys-what do you wish your girl would do for you?
thanks in advance!
2007-10-22 02:28:14 · 13 answers · asked by 2/08 is the due date! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am obviously not a man giving you advice but I can tell you that your treatment of him stems from those raging pregnancy hormones. It is not something you can change and it probably won't get better until after the baby is born.
You husband is probably feeling the strain as well. I will bet that you have not been as loving to him lately as you once were.
Make him a wonderful dinner, candlelight and his favorite food. Get all bathed and perfumed up and dress really nice and surprise him when he comes home. Forget about television and put on some slow romantic music and after dinner get him to slow dance with you.
Explain to him that the changes in your body are affecting you and you want both of you to remember how you produced this baby and that you both still love each other.
If you are not already doing so, involve him in all aspects of your pregnancy. Tell him how you feel, what changes are happening in your body and let him feel the baby move. If you love has died down some he is most likely feeling neglected and not a part of the pregnancy.
Good Luck to You
2007-10-22 02:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
⥠Being pregnant is hard on both you & him. I'm sure he understands that its just hormones that are making you "fly off the handle". Maybe you could make him a nice dinner, and sit down & eat together at a candle lit table. Then take a nice, warm shower together and cuddle. Although this seems like nothing spectacular... the intimacy is prolly what he's missing the most... the time for just the two of you! :-) Good Luck!
2007-10-22 09:33:28 · answer #2 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not a guy but i would like to help. I think doing something like. Light some candles in the bathroom make him a nice hot bath and bathe him from head to toe. while you are sitting out side of the tub. Rub his back while you are soaping him up and talk to him. Tell him you are sorry and that you want to make things right. Tell him how wonderful you think his is for dealing so well with your mood swings. Let him know you see how much stress it is putting on him. And go from there. Hope that helps....
2007-10-22 09:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by amscrystal76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the fact that you acknowlegde that you are being a complete B*** to your man is the first and most important step. My mother, who is going through menopause (just as emotional as pregnancy i think) is a complete and total nut job to my father and myself, doesn't do anything nice for him or me and the killer of it all is that she is totally oblivious to it and thinks we are over sensitive. I think you husband will appreciate the fact that you understand you are acting out of character. Sometimes it's the little things. Ask him what HE wants to do, eat for dinner, watch on TV etc.. and then actually do/cook/watch it. I try to take into consideration my man's feelings in everything, just as I would want him to do for me.
2007-10-22 10:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do much to control your mood swings, but maybe you should take him to your next doctor's appointment and have the doc explain things so your hubby doesn't think you're using pregnancy just as an excuse to act this way.
2007-10-22 09:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is the obvious, but I will avoid being crass.
One pleasant surprise from my wife was when she appeared before me as I watched a ballgame on t.v., with a plate of sizzling, tasty snacks, and a cold beer. Pretty simple, but it made me feel like King of the Castle for a few minutes.
Addendum: I got knocked for that? What did I say?!?
2007-10-22 09:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by David Carrington Jr. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's called pregnancy
Go easy on yourself it's a hell of an ordeal being pregnant and giving birth
Rest as much as you can
He has to make allowances as you are creating his beautiful child,
You are more important than anything right now
2007-10-22 09:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to admit that you are hormonal and totally mental. Whenever you feel the urge to be mean and unfair remember that you are not being yourself.
The best that you can do is to treat him to some great steaks and cold beer. Massage and TLC will do the trick.
Good luck
2007-10-22 09:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are very sweet. I bet your husband is very lucky to have you. I always like my girl to smile when I come home, made me simple dinner, and not being naggy. The fact that I see her trying to make me happy is already enough.
2007-10-22 09:32:51 · answer #9 · answered by Colder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than tell us....tell him. If you have to bare your soul don't look here because we aren't living with you while you're a beyouch on wheels.
So forget the "kissy-pie, nice stuff" crap. Tell him you know you've been insufferable and thank him for putting up with your crap.
THEN the two of you decide what would ne nice to do together.
2007-10-22 09:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋