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kicked son as punishment and promised to do so again if he didn't do as told.
has previous history of becoming violent when angry threatening myself and causing bodily injury while blaming me for making him do so.
told son it was his last option, as though he'd tried other ways to discipline.
all were implemented with anger.\

2007-10-22 01:56:07 · 24 answers · asked by bahabug 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

24 answers

Sounds like the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. You are teaching him to handle things violently and with anger and then you complain about him handling things violently and with anger. Always discipline in love. Sure we all lose our temper sometimes but you should never kick your child in anger. He will repeat it.

2007-10-22 02:03:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1 0

Your son causes you bodily injury and you wonder why???? Kicking him in anger is just renforcing his actions. I have an ADD child, he is 13 5"6 and 217lbs, he is a middle line backer on the football team. If I kicked him, with his size he could do some major bodily injury. My son has mood swings from his meds and I have been a single parent for along time when things were starting to get out of control I went looking for help. You should see if maybe your sons issues are medical related. There are counselors, parenting groups, social worker, therpists and lots of other people you can get help from, check your local telephone book.

2007-10-22 02:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by Girly1 4 · 0 0

Kicking a child for any reason is child abuse and punishable by law. The child can be removed from the home for such a thing.

No matter what a child does there are better ways to discipline him. Try talking to him, giving time outs, even help with a therapist if all else fails.

You should have left your house with your child when this happened and if you don't do it now you are as crimanally responsible as he is. No matter what he says, if he did it once he will do it again.

Don't make you child suffer because you are lonely and don't want to lose your man.

Good Luck

2007-10-22 02:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by mn lady 6 · 0 0

Not no but hell no it's not ok to kick hit or do anything to a child like that out of anger. When I was a kid I got spankings little slap on the hind side which is not that big of a deal but my mother never beat me kicked me, she has thrown a slipper or two at me but never tried anything like what he has done. Plus he is a grown man beating on a kid. That is a no go at this station.

If he has abused you and done this to you then you need to get him some help. Maybe you need to leave him for a while until he comes to his senses. Let him know that he needs to change his ways or you will leave him and if he threatens you then you need to call the police. There's only so much you can take but you need to protect your child at all cost.

2007-10-22 02:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by level_9yo 2 · 1 0

Yes absolutely. You find a non-violent way if you have to punish your child, and have your anger issue looked at. Thng is that your child becomes violent too, as the child will be copying your behaviour to resovle whatever problems he/she encounters.

What you're creating is a future criminal. That is also how killers are created.
Take a parenting course to learn about how to discipline without the use of violence.

2007-10-22 02:05:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Yes. Good grief, you'd frown if someone kicked a DOG, much less a person. It's called "assault and battery", and if an adult has to resort to kicking their child, it means that adult has already lost control of the situation and is just acting out their own frustrations. If you need to kick something, go kick a tree. And get your child into counseling, if they are having that much trouble with anger management. You probably need to screen for drugs, also, if this is a shift in personality.

2007-10-22 02:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

yes it is wrong that is child abuse i know us parents can get angry sometime but you have to take a deep breath and discipline with love not anger ! youre teaching him to be violent and to be angry all the time ! and the turn out wont be good in the future so try to change the way ya'll discipline good luck

2007-10-22 02:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by lil momma 3 · 0 0

hi, i individually do not consider hitting a infant, besides the incontrovertible fact that gently. i've got self assurance that when an person hits a infant, all they are coaching the youngster is which you will't administration your temper, that violence is appropriate, and that's that's okay to hit somebody/lash out once you're indignant. I used to apply a "naughty chair" the place my infant would would desire to take a seat quietly until they calmed down. i'd clarify why they have been on the chair and why what they did become incorrect. i got here across this to be very useful. do not hardship in case you have you have merely smacked your infant the as quickly as, i'm specific finally she would be in a position to not even keep in mind it. it is so confusing to be a mum each so often, attempting to make all of the the excellent option judgements! the actual incontrovertible fact which you're feeling so undesirable approximately smacking, shows you that deep interior you be attentive to that's not the excellent option. I now have ok behaved infants (infants and 20's!) and this proves to me this works - and you will not sense responsible every time you would be able to desire to "punish" her. stable success, you're able to do it!

2016-11-09 04:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by scasso 4 · 0 0

yes kicking your child is wrong.
if you have to hit them to discipline them, which let's face it, will deter them, slap their hand once but hardish. this will smart for a few minutes which will act as a reminder not to do the thing again but will not injure them so cruely. You have to make sure you know whether you are hitting them to discipline them or hitting them just to vent your anger.
if they're old enough, say 8 or so, to know their actions fully, then threaten to take them to an anger management course.

2007-10-22 02:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by kelby_lake 6 · 0 0

yes, it's wrong... =(... sigh... when one has anger in them, one should sit the child on the couch, tell them to stay there, walk away... go outside... settle down... then come back and have a talk w/ the child...! yell, but, never say "you are stupid", etc... don't have a talk w/ the child until you are calm! some can yell at the blink of an eye but don't say anything damaging... others, have to walk away then come back and yell! my guess is this parent was kicked or something or other when they were a child! never...take...anger...out...on...kids...or...spouse...ever...walk away... =(... if one don't learn how to walk away instead of saying verbally mean things or abusing physically...they need to seek counseling, or their family will eventually walk away from them!!! from what I see here, you need to walk away from this person! =(... take the child, too...

2007-10-22 02:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1 0

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