my bf spent the night at another girls house. it was late saturday like 11pm we were parting ways, he was goin to a bar and i was goin to my bros apartment to drink(since im under 21). he was at the bar with two male friends and a female friend of theirs, which was fine..... another friend was supposed to show(a girl) but she never went. so he didnt leave the bar till about 2 or 3 that morning. so... he decides to call this friend(girl) that didnt show and ask why she wasnt there. he was drunk, and she was like "you know i live real close to where youre at? you can stay at my house" so he goes there. i dont know if he drives or she comes for him, but he went. he said they drank for a bit and talked for a while, him, this friend(girl) and a friend(girl) of hers. then slept for like an hour, when he got a call from his mom telling him he had to go to work.... then he went to work and didnt tell me any of this (he had chances to) untill about three in the afternoon sunday. ....
2007-10-22 04:34:46 · 16 answers · asked by para_servirle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i feel betrayed............. really hurt.... disrespected........... confused as to how he would or could hurt me this way..... please someone help me...... it hurts alot..... i dont know what to do..... i love him..... i know he's a good person..... made a mistake...... but how do i deal with my pain........
2007-10-22 04:36:42 · update #1
oh yes, i forgot, when he was telling me, all this..... he kept saying "im sorry" "im so sorry" ...... that next time he's drunk like that.... he will just call his parents to come pick him up....... this hurts me now as i write it..... because you all seem to think he had sex...... i dont want to believe that......
2007-10-22 04:43:54 · update #2
He really could of just slept there, do you think he cheated on you? If he couldn't tell you what he did, he could be hidding something else. maybe you should take a break from him.
2007-10-22 04:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by blacklightn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding out the next day at 3PM I dont think is all that bad and it's not too late. But I can see how you are hurt. I think you should talk to him about it and if he says nothing happened, then that's that...but more important is why do you think something must have happened? Is he giving you other "hidden" messages that he's not into you. I think you should go with your instincts but don't jump the gun. Don't go dumping him right away because you think something happened. He was out with his friends and they happen to be females. You should tell him how you feel and if you feel uncomfortable. Remember, you are his gf and they are just his (female) friends...that means you should be treated better (cuz Ur the gf) and they are just friends (no special treatment 4 them!).
2007-10-22 11:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you are too young for all this nonsense you are not even old enough to drink let alone have boyfriend problems at this point if any boy gives you problems you need to let him go. You should have a no nonsense rule. Once he messes up you let him go that is the only you will build your confidence level to deal with men in the future. You are really young and nieve that is the only reason you would even ask if he slept with her. Leave him alone he is no good.
2007-10-22 11:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by didi g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that guys are stupid regardless of whether or not we are drunk. He probably has some mixed feelings obout what happened, which is most likely the reason he put off telling you. Btu the best thing youcan do is talk to himabout it. Find out what happened, decide if it's the truth, and go from there. If he did cheat on you, then do what you need to to be happy.
2007-10-22 11:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by munkeyhandz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he apologized and asked for your forgiveness, that means he is truly sorry. If he didn't, think about not seeing him again. What he did hurt you terribly and you have every right to be hurt. Drunk or not, his attention should be on you and not be concerned as to why a female friend didn't show at the party.
2007-10-22 11:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this. If he was hiding it from you, then he was up to no good. If you know the other girl you could ask her what happened, but if they were fooling around she will probably lie about it.
You're young, there will be other men worthy of your time and affection. Move on now before he hurts your more or he becomes some other woman's babydaddy.
2007-10-22 11:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,,he slept there? could be that "parting ways" is just what you need to do, and he could have went you your brothers place and drank with you, maybe you should consider some other method of fun.He will enjoy the time with those two girls more without having to explain things to you.
2007-10-22 11:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been through this with my fiance, you just have to be strong. It will get easier, I promise, its just not going to happen right away, no matter what you do. OR you can tell him to go F himself. I personally chose to forgive him and move on, as hard as it was, and still is. It also helped that i got sneaky and looked up her myspace and kept tabs, she never mentioned it to anyone, so that helped a little. lol
2007-10-22 11:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by <3That Girl<3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what you wrote it does not seem that sex was involved in the matter.
If that is true then you should be thankful to his friend for getting him to stay at her place rather than letting him drive drunk and getting into a wreck.
If there was sex involved, then you need to leave him and forget he ever existed.
Good Luck.
2007-10-22 11:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by Dimitar A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How close are these friends? I have male friends I've grown up with; we crash at each others places on ocassion, and nothing EVER goes on, we are just good friends.
2007-10-22 11:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by Leopardlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋