My parents are seperated, not divorced. He has a new partner and everytime my lil brother and me go visit him, they are all over each other. This bothers me. Makes me not want to visit him cause it makes me uncomfortable. I just feel hurt cause I remember when my mom and dad were like that.
I can accept he has moved on, but can't they like be lovey-dovey when we are not there?
2007-10-22 04:54:32 · 15 answers · asked by Bella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You should tell your dad exactly what you just told us!
I'm really sorry that you're being put in such an awkward position and I hope he is understanding and can learn to curb his behavior in front of you.
2007-10-22 05:32:24 · answer #1 · answered by Blossom 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad that his open displays of affection are making you uncomfortable, especially since he's still a married man. Tell him if it continues, you won't visit him(if you have that choice). Make sure you are being realistic and not talking about the occasional kiss(not open mouthed, just a kiss), hand holding and arm around shoulders, that sort of thing. If they are actually "all over each other", then when it happens ask them to stop. Embarrassment can sometimes do the trick. "Do you think you could leave the room to neck, its making me feel really uncomfortable" or the ever popular "Ewww, get a room!"
I think the biggest issue here is that he's sending you the message that acting on impulse is appropriate no matter who it hurts. He's still married, he has no business having an open relationship and especially not in front of his kids. A parents responsibility is to protect their child, not flaunt themselves. Tell him just what you said here, you have accepted that he's moved on, but his open and inappropriate sexual behavior in front of you and your little brother is making you uncomfortable enough not to want to be with him. He'll need to choose. Good luck honey.
2007-10-22 05:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your Dad about it. He most likely doesn't think about it, if he and your Mom were affectionate then it may be just a part of who he is. Tell him you want to talk about it. Tell him it makes you not want to see him. Be honest with him and just tell him. Your Dad wants you to talk to him, not loose you, to mis-communication. Tell him that your brother and you want to have a serious talk, and that you want to talk to him alone. Don't trash talk his friend, just about the fact that you are uncomfortable with his affections in front of you. Tell him that there is going to be a time when it may not bother you but that time hasn't come yet.
Sweetie just remember Dads and Moms can make mistakes to, the way to keep that from hurting you for a long time is to talk. In any realtionship talking is the key.
2007-10-22 05:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by thornfieldaffens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your dad and let him know how you feel. I think if it's just lovey-dovey playing around that is no big deal but if their makeing out that is very wrong.
2007-10-22 05:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by mary ann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your dad about the situation. Just let him know that you aren't comfortable with them "all over each other" infront of you or your brother. He should be sensitive to his children's needs at this time because divorce effects the whole family and not just the couple.
2007-10-22 04:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Madison 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YEAH IT HURTS ALRIGHT ..... I WAS 3 WHEN MY DAD AND MOM WERE NO LONGER TOGETHER AND HE ENDED UP WITH ANOTHER WOMAN OTHER THEN MY MOM ..... I DIDNT UNDERSTAND IT ONE BIT BUT I DID GET USE TO HER AND THINGS WERE BETTER ........ BUT BELIEVE ME YOUR DADS GIRLFRIEND COULD BE WORSE LIKE ONE OF MY DADS EX GIRLFRIENDS USEING YOUR DAD AND STUFF FOR A PLACE TO STAY ...... SEEING YOUR DAD HAPPY NOW IF I WERE YOU I WOULD JUST LET IT BE AND LET THEM KISS AND WALK OUT OF THE ROOM ........ YOUR PARENTS ARE THE ADULTS AND YALL WILL BE ALWAYS THE KIDS OF THE HOUSE ....... THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT .
2007-10-22 05:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by LOULOU 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That pretty tacky thing for him to do. If he is not smart enough to see it bothers you, then you should tell him. If he still keeps it up, tell him you wish not to see him as often. Hopefully his new partner is not another guy
2007-10-22 05:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by coachotis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad should respect you while you are at his house but you need to tell him first that it bothers you. If he dosnt know, he cant fix it. Talk to him and tell him how you feel
2007-10-22 04:58:02 · answer #8 · answered by louie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad needs to be more discreet, but he's not and you can't change it.
If it bothers you that much, let him know. Or don't visit.
I'm sure he's in heat.
2007-10-22 05:21:03 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him ant tell him it bothers you if he didnt accept dont visit him for a while
2007-10-22 05:05:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋