Help!!! I'm confused! What I really want to do is to go to Charleston,SC to get married next year and make it really simple but beautiful but that means that alot of our guest won't beable to come. I feel like a part of me has to stay and have a local wedding so that all the guest can come but that also means more expense and planning involved. I know this is a one in a lifetime event for me so I don't want to regret it years down the road. Does anyone have any ideas that I could do for the local people or should I just forget them and just think about me and future husband and close family members???
2007-10-22 04:55:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We have family all over the country. My family is in Florida and Michigan and some cousins in Alabama. His family is in Texas, Georgia and Florida. We know that who ever we invite they will not all come but the smalled the wedding the cheaper it is too. We want it to be a intimate wedding in Charleston and take a carriage over to the reception where ever it would be. We like the idea of a package wedding because it's cheaper and not as stressful to plan. If we have it here in Tallahassee we will have so much more work and planning to do and more expense. We thought if we could do everything in one place the wedding and honeymoon it would be so much easier. Also we don't want to wait more then 6 months so we are looking at a Spring wedding right now.
2007-10-22 05:26:49 · update #1
Charleston is beautiful. And if you really want a smaller intimate wedding don't let others talk you out of it. Where are you from? Is that really too far for guests to travel or do you just know you have family who won't travel?
I dont like when people try to have 2 weddings and suggest to you that you have one wedding and a year later have another one. It's tacky and a plea for gifts. However there is nothing wrong with having a reception afterwards. If you want, a very casual get together a couple months later saves a lot of expense. I have a friend who did a clam bake style of get together. Very casual, picnic. They had people bring games like bocce and horseshoes.
You can inviite people to celebrate afterwards.
Be aware that not everyone is going to make it no matter where you have it and what kind you do. Now if it is someone really important--like your father or grandparents can't make it and you can't imagine getting married without them there--then YES change the wedding so that they can be there. But if its just b/c several of your 2nd cousins--who cares. Have the wedding you want!
2007-10-22 05:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am going to tell you something that goes against pretty much everything the whole wedding industry in the U.S stands for but I think it is completely true. The guests get more out of weddings than the brides do. So spend your money on what makes you really happy because trust me, no matter how many guests or flowers or dresses or cake tiers your have, your wedding only lasts a few short hours and it will fly by. You will be too busy talking to taste the food, too busy dancing to really care what music is playing and too busy staring at your man to care about flowers or colors or anything else. Spend your money on experiences that you and your hubby will really cherich. However, if you feel close to all 30 people and really want everyone at your wedding, I have to tell you that Colarado is amazing. My suggestion is to stay in Boulder at the Briar Rose B&B and do day trips in the Rocky Mountain National Park only an hour away.
2016-05-24 04:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by iva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations!
This is a hard situation and a decision that really only you and your fiance can make. I can understand how you are torn!
One solution.....who says if you stay "local" that you have to have it be so much more stressful. If you read many of the posts on here....so many brides and grooms are opting for smaller, more meaningful ceremonies and receptions. You could stay local so that more family and friends can come....but simply have a cutoff of number of guests. I'm sure in the Tallahassee area, there are many places that you can do both the ceremony and reception -- not just in Charleston.
Search around for a garden, lake, museum, botanical garden, art museum, bed and breakfast.
Have a small wedding party too...that cuts down on stress! There are lots of ways to cut down on the stress (and money) and still stay local.
OR, simply go away! It's your choice to make, not ours.
Good luck with your decision!
2007-10-22 16:51:47 · answer #3 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had my wedding in Charleston, SC. My family was in Georgia and North Carolina while I lived in Maryland... and yes, there were some people who couldnt make it... but we planned far enough out so that people had plenty of time to make travel arrangements... and those who meant the most to me were able to be there...
Yes, it is a once in a lifetime thing... so its important for your friends and loved ones to be there, but its also important for you to look back and absolutely LOVE your wedding day.
Just decide what it is that you really want and what means the most to you.
Feel free to contact me about Charleston weddings if you decide to have your ceremony/reception there... jb17stamerica@yahoo.com
Good luck!
2007-10-22 05:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have my wedding local.But the honeymoon in South Carolina.You can always take pictures of the place to share with the family.
2007-10-22 06:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by sharen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you two want to do. You can still have a romantic wedding and just invite immediate family.
2007-10-22 05:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can always rent a hall later after your wedding and just have appetizers and cake for all of your family and friends. You can make it pretty inexpensive and then get the best of both worlds!
2007-10-22 05:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by Sarahz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the first post. If you plan it far enough out(which it appears you are doing), why cant you have your dream wedding? It is your day, not anyone elses. with a years notice , anyone who really wants to be there will have plenty of time to make arrangements. Congrats!
2007-10-22 05:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by Geia 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't want a wedding, you want a theatrical event that will look good in the pictures.
Look at current divorce rates & ask yourself who's going to want to look at the pictures if you don't make it.
Have the wedding at home & go to Charleston for a honeymoon.
2007-10-22 05:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by noname 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋