I met a guy and he came back to my flat. I had never done anything sexual with a guy or even kissed a guy! (I'm 18) anyway he took off my jeans and stuck his penis inside me FOR ABOUT 6 SECONDS. It only went in half way and he was trying to push it in further and guide it with his hand but it hurt so bad and he took it out again without him even starting to push it in and out.
I don't want to lie so was wondering,have I had sex with him? He never ejaculated at all and never got it in fully.Also he never thrusted.My hymen was already broken from a horse riding accident I had two years ago.Not that I think that makes a blind bit of difference but some freaks on here seem to believe it does
2007-10-22 04:48:54 · 107 answers · asked by jacinta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think the truth is there is no wrong or right answer.Only personal opinion. I personally believe it was not sex and I am still a virgin
2007-10-22 05:08:48 · update #1
Weren't you seeing a 34 year old man.
2007-10-22 04:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by elizadushku 6 · 12⤊ 5⤋
Sex effectively means that you have had a penis inside you, which, you just told us you did. While it may not have been a very satisfactory experience, and probably shorter than 99% of other people's sexual experiences, you are effectively, no longer a virgin. Congrats. Ejaculation and hymens have nothing to do with "virginity". Although, the term "virgin" means pure. So it shouldn't be a black or white term. You are more of a virgin, then say, someone who has lots of anal and vaginal sex with multiple partners. But, you are less of a virgin than anyone who has never had physical contact with another person.
In any event, if you are asked if you are sexually active, be honest and say yes. Also, if you did not use a condom with this guy, you need to go get yourself checked for HSV-2, HPV, and HIV as you could have been exposed. I'm sure this guy will tell you that he's squeeky clean, but is that a risk you are willing to take?
Good luck, and welcome to the wildly dangerous and extrememly unpredictable world of premarital sex.
(note, I'm not married yet, and have gobs of sex is my fiancée)
2007-10-22 04:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,, counts as bad sex. when you do it again try some foreplay to warm things up some personal lube will help you get it in there deeper. USE A CONDOM !!!don't take it without protection ! you could be infected now! don't be stupid about these things. look it up online so you have a chance to have a normal life.
2007-10-22 04:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may only be six seconds you mentioned, but he did get somewhat inside you! So yes.. although very little, you had sexual contact with him. You may want to make sure in future meeting with this guy, or others to have protection for you and the other person! No need to transmit any sexual disease, or become pregnant when you do not want a child at this point in your life!
Good Luck and be careful!
2007-10-22 04:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yes it's not sex, but that not becuase he didn't ejaculate or thrust or get it in more then half the way, these are only little details. Some would say no, but the fact of the matter is this, even the tinyest little bit of sperm release from a erect penis only half way inserted could get you pregnant. so this is sex. Wether you done it once, 10 time or he climaxed or not, and erect penis will have sperm in it even before ejaculation so just the pushing with the hand was enough to force sperm inside you.
2007-10-22 04:57:11 · answer #5 · answered by Randy W 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes. That was sex. Why in the world would you allow a strange guy to come to your flat and take off your jeans? Do you realize what a dangerous situation that could have become?
2007-10-22 04:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
here is a little tip. make sure you are fully lubricated before any penis goes up there. have the guy do oral sex to you first and please you. trust me, you wll find it much more pleasurable if you do that first. A tube of ky gel might be a good idea to have on hand. And yes i suppose it is sex. really bad sex but sex none the less. good luck next time
2007-10-22 04:54:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Technically, you did not have sex, but you did have sexual contact even though it was not fully executed, so to speak. It is important that you see that you could get pregnant even in that brief moment. When men get aroused, they release small amounts of semen that maybe you aren't even aware of. Furthermore, if you did not use protection, you have exposed yourself to STD's. What a shame it would be if you compromised yourself and all for nothing!!
I don't want to act like a moral authority, but I am concerned that you are so young and inexperienced and opened up your precious body to this boy whom you knew nothing about. Please take the time to consider the value of your body. If you want to have sex, would you really want to do so with a total stranger, or wouldn't you prefer to wait until you meet someone special who is deserving of your affections?
2007-10-22 05:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes you are no longer a virgin, and the fact that your broke your hymen from a horse does not mean that having a man inside makes you prone to be pure. All it means is that your cherry wasn't popped when he put his penis inside you. Grow up and ask questions where people do not shake their head at you.
2007-10-22 15:56:55 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand and believe you are a virgin.
Now have beyond reasonable doubt for this so there is no need for me to go into specifics, because also it's what you know to be true.
What an ordeal you've had!
Now lovely, go and do something to treat yourself, like a bubble bath with your favorite music playing.
2007-10-22 23:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by My Fathers Daughter 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Obviously.
2007-10-22 04:55:49 · answer #11 · answered by fahim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋