Family & Relationships - 11 October 2007

ok , I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. he is 37 and i am 26. I have been trying to convince him to take our relation to the next level. But if he hears the work marriage or kids he gets red in the face and discusted about it.
This is my dream, to someday have a family, 2 years ago i caught him cheating on me with one of his xgirlfriend, it has been going on for the first 2 years of our relationship.
The truth is i am tired of these games with him, i want him to commit something more than just a live in relationship.
I believe that i have proved my love with him by just staying with him, (after he broke my heart) just proves i love him.. but he does not want anything to do with marriage and kids. What should i do?. Please dont say dump him cause we all know it is easier said than done?

2007-10-11 21:15:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

how do i make her agree on this issue

2007-10-11 21:07:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Foobar?

2007-10-11 21:00:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-11 21:00:31 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I get home from school and do my work and homework. and i walk into my mothers room and she is screamin at my sister on the phone she gets off the phone and starts yelling at me all the time.. about everything. she will get madd at anyone and yells at me for it. and i dont understand why and it makes me feel like **** when she does. and its not even me that is makin her madd. she just yells at me about anything...
what should i do ..im so puzzled.

2007-10-11 20:51:19 · 4 answers · asked by Karly J0 1 in Friends

I suffer from SEVERE depression, which I am currently being treated for. I've made huge strides in recognizing I am a worthwhile person, but I'm pretty sure I'm ugly.

People tell me I'm not, but I know I am. I'm scrawny (which women say they don't like), I'm short, and I have ugly-colored hair. I think I'm funny and a good person to know, but I lack sexiness, whatever makes a woman think of you as a hottie instead of a friend. I can even get women somewhat, but I want to be attractive physically, and I don't think wanting to be mildly hot is too much to ask. And women are nice and say it doesn't matter, but all the women I know in real life agree physical attraction (like a nice body and hair) make a guy a lot sexier.

I feel like trying to fix myself by dying my hair and working out (maybe taking some steroids), but not all that I hate about myself can be fixed. I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any advice?

2007-10-11 20:45:47 · 15 answers · asked by Fun1 4 in Singles & Dating

like a geek? And why does a woman wearing a man's shirt with a very sloppy knot in her necktie look cute as can be, but a man dressed like that is a slob?

2007-10-11 20:41:30 · 2 answers · asked by Howard H 7 in Singles & Dating

ive had such a bad week! nothing seems to be going right. ive had so many people telling me im not good enough and im a waste, my crush started dating another girl, ive had things thrown at me by my dad and doors kicked at me.

i need help badly.. i will speak to friends about. im not far away from commiting sucide. i just want to leave this cruel world :'( :'(
p.s im still a very young girl.

2007-10-11 20:41:10 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

She started by chatting and emailing with him about 3 months ago, keeping it all secret from me. She grew distant from me, and shared details of her life (multiple times daily) with him. They had cybersex once, and both think it was a mistake. She shared erotic dreams with him (that involved him), and talked about our marriage. She's tried to say goodbye to him 3 times now, and says it's finally over. Now, she's admitting the sex part was cheating, but that they were truly just friends, that nothing would have happened. She's trying to turn this on me, saying I have insecurities about her being friends with other men. We set up counseling and both want it to work, but I'm running out of hope. BTW, she's pregnant with our 2nd, and we do love eachother. Has anyone else been through this? Did it work out? It's been 10 days since I confronted her. How long will this take???

2007-10-11 20:40:49 · 13 answers · asked by Dude 1 in Marriage & Divorce

i want to no if are married and u do cheat can u give me answer?

2007-10-11 20:37:33 · 16 answers · asked by keary t 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-11 20:23:12 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Im looking for my half brother who lived with our dad.
He used to visit but i havent seen him since about 10 years ago.
I know his last known address and it turns out our grandad still lived there till he died last month.
So maybe thats a good place 2 start.
I live abroad so cant call directory enquiries.
Have been trying to look online but everysite that comes close then asks for money and as im only 16 i dont have a credit card to pay them.
Does anyone know any TOTALLY free ways of doing this online??
It would really help---
Thanks!

2007-10-11 20:16:44 · 14 answers · asked by Little Old Me Again 2 in Family

she is in my chem lab and seats beside me...
i have had a huge crush on her and it's a long long story...we havent really talked...we've asked each other a few questions about chem...i have to open up a way to start a conversation...i found her on facebook but im not sure if it's ok...wouldnt that be weird or would she freak out ? (she has the choice of accepting my request or ignoring it) please please help me, i have to talk to her somehow but it's almost impossible to talk to her at college(long story)

2007-10-11 20:15:38 · 17 answers · asked by Ali 4 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-11 20:14:52 · 2 answers · asked by ayok 2 in Singles & Dating

My 13yr old daughter has been friends with a girl for about 8yrs now. I personnaly never cared for her because she was always mouthy and acts like she ownes my house when she comes over. But anyway for the 5th time now in the past year she has bullied my daughter, called her names, and tried to start physical fights with her. My daughter keeps accepting her apologies but I cant anymore. I explained to my daughter that I cant pick and choose her friends but I can choose to have in my house and I wont allow this friend of hers into my home anymore. My daughter thinks I'm being to dramatic and is pissed off at me. Do I stand my ground or give in? I dont hate her friend but want to teach her a lesson that she cant do that **** since her parents wont.

2007-10-11 20:12:41 · 10 answers · asked by mak 3 in Friends

Guys- How important are big boobs to you when you are choosing a girl to date? If a girl has small boobs will you decide not to date her because of it?

Girls- How comfortable are you with the size of your breasts? How do you think it has impacted your love life?

2007-10-11 20:11:27 · 31 answers · asked by pinkisluv17 2 in Singles & Dating

ive been talking to this guy for over a year and we act like we r a couple but he says we r not together yet because he is not ready for a relationship

2007-10-11 20:10:56 · 9 answers · asked by heather r 2 in Singles & Dating

my ex text me last week 2 let me know he has my insurancecards n he wants 2 give them back,so i said 2 hold them until today because we had court,n i text him back on monday 2 say id meet him 2 get them back and he brushed me off kinda cuz he was busy. then yesterday he text 2 say sorry for ignoring me n he wanted 2 meet when he knew he would c me this morning.we talked for a few mins n i took off.2day at court he said hi n waved 2 me.n after he talked 2 me for 1/2hour about court n other random stuff on the phone.he told me a few weeks ago that the new girl was a rebound n he never wanted me 2 leave n he always loved me.he doesnt want 2 b some guy i used 2know.well i luv him with all myheart n want to tell himthat if he can get this girl out of OUR house I want 2 make it work, iwill stay here and we can be together until we r ready for me to move home again.It eats me up how much imiss him. Ileft him bcuz he got really distant after our car accident that put us on disability for 3 mns

2007-10-11 20:10:21 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-11 20:03:39 · 18 answers · asked by JR 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-11 19:51:25 · 7 answers · asked by hank s 1 in Singles & Dating

He says to me all the time that I need to stop "trippin" about us. I want to be in a relationship with him but I am not ready. I say this to him alot and he seems patient so far. But then he says "You need to stop trippin". He seems to try and make me jealous all the time talking about his ex-girlfriend and I am sick of it. I am getting mixed messages. I tell him I don't want to get involved too deep but the sex is great. This last time during sex he wouldn't look at me like he normally does. What is going on with us? I felt weird and asked him to stop. He later asks me what is wrong and I felt confused and he went and smoked a cigarette. What the hell is going on? Am I really trippin for real or am I the one sending mixed signals?

2007-10-11 19:48:06 · 8 answers · asked by new life abundant 2 in Singles & Dating

My daughter's father and I were together almost 6 years. We agreed to call it quits in Nov but continued to live together until I could get on my feet to move out. At this point, we both let all our past demons out and agreed to be honest with each other from then on about possible relationships with other people. I found out that he was talking to a girl in the next state behind my back and things just went downill from there. He ended up stealing $500 from me and talking to another girl. I forced him to move out just last week. That's not even the complicated part. I thought I would be able to move on but I was wrong. I have done nothing but cry everyday and I ache because I love him so much. We both agreed it is what we need and that we would come to a binding agreement outside court concerning our daughter. Basically, he agreed to all my terms, we just have to finalize it. The weekend before I kicked him out, I went out of town and he stayed with his bro because they work together

2007-10-11 19:47:52 · 6 answers · asked by lilqtpie 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 7 yrs now and we have 1 little girl, he has a little boy from another woman who i look after as my own. About 3 yrs ago he broke up with me because i was fighting with his girlfriend, he brought her to the house while i was there and i beat her up. he chased me from his house got custody of my child and just throw my personal belongings outside. he would go abroad with different girls and spend money like nobody's business
i stayed with some realtives within the area, got myself a job and trired to move on. I used to go to his house to see my child and then 1 yr later he came begging to take him back, i did take him back because i loved him and i had missed my little girl. now i 've been with him for over 2 yrs now and his money has run out, the kids are not going to sch, i pay for everything in the hse,i don't have a car if am late 5 minutes he he shouts at me and tells me to leave him and stay by myself. am cheating on him and all.

2007-10-11 19:43:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

dats especially boys to girls n why do they take dem 4 granted always im in dat circumstance so wat the hell should i dooooooo?????????

2007-10-11 19:42:28 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

I'm doing a research project and I hardly use the internet so I have difficulty paraphrasing stuff that I find. If you can, please paraphrase the following 3 paragraphs for me. thanks.

Mehendi (Henna): Decking up the bride The 'Mehendi' celebration is a lighthearted affair with no religious connotation. Henna is the eco friendly and natural tattoo paste made from the roots of the Henna plant. It has the unique property of soothing and cooling the wearer. This event has no pre designate time in the flow of ceremonies, normally forming a continuation of sangeet, the ladies of the house draw intricate patterns on their hands, arms and feet. The most intricate and complicate patters being reserved for the bride. In some households the groom too is given a spot on the pals the benefit from the properties of Henna.

Jaggo: The Jaggo ceremony is where the family dances and sings on the road in front and around the beautifully decorated wedding home. Jaggo is in the last hours of the night. They decorate copper vessels called "gaffers" with divas (clay lamps) and fill them with mustard oil and light them. The bride/bridegrooms maternal aunt (mammi) carries it on her head, and another lady will have a long stick with bells, and she will be shaking it. The ladies will then go into other friends and families homes and be welcomed by sweets and drinks, they will then dance there and move on. It is a loud ceremony, filled with joy, dancing, fireworks, and food. And if the family wishes the ladies' sangeet (ladies night of singing) and mendhi will follow the mayian and dinner.


Chuda Chadana The white bangles This ceremony is also held on the morning of the weddingthe bride's maternal uncles give her a set of choodas (21 bangles in red and white ivory) after washing them in milk. As per tradition, the bride should ideally wear these for at least a year. Nowadays the bride wears the chooda for a month and a quarter.

2007-10-11 19:42:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My friend talks to this one girl who i do not talk to. I told him she looks good and I like her. He went back and told her what I said. She told him "How does he like me if he never talked to me?" Maybe I shoulda never told him and just did my own thing right?

2007-10-11 19:38:13 · 12 answers · asked by Tiger 2 in Singles & Dating

we are classmates.now she calls me her bro or friend.i am deep in love with her.i've seen 2 of other friends falling 4 her,not gaining her heart but losing her friendship 4 ever..i am 100%sure she'll get desperate much more than she got from those two bcoz i am closer to her than they were.she regards me as sb to whom she can sympathize about friends who keep falling for her;i can not imagine anyone to whom she can sympathize about me falling 4 her.we r 2 more years together in university.i want to be at her side and protect her,even if she gets engaged with a boy,i want to protect him too.i dont know wut will happen to me after bidding farewell in the last day without letting her know my real feelings.i cant tell her about my love even after finishing university;she may need my help as a friend or bro then,too.even thinking about the last days make my eyes rain.i cant risk upsetting her;wanna always make her laugh,wanna be invited to her marriage n c her laughing in those white robes,

2007-10-11 19:34:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

we are classmates.now she calls me her bro or friend.i am deep in love with her.i've seen 2 of other friends falling 4 her,not gaining her heart but losing her friendship 4 ever..i am 100%sure she'll get desperate much more than she got from those two bcoz i am closer to her than they were.she regards me as sb to whom she can sympathize about friends who keep falling for her;i can not imagine anyone to whom she can sympathize about me falling 4 her.we r 2 more years together in university.i want to be at her side and protect her,even if she gets engaged with a boy,i want to protect him too.i dont know wut will happen to me after bidding farewell in the last day without letting her know my real feelings.i cant tell her about my love even after finishing university;she may need my help as a friend or bro then,too.even thinking about the last days make my eyes rain.i cant risk upsetting her;wanna always make her laugh,wanna be invited to her marriage n c her laughing in those white robes,

2007-10-11 19:33:42 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

well one of my earlier questions was about my now boyfriend and theres was alot of drama with that.. anyways his ex will not stop calling him and leaving messages every day and is mad because she feels she needs to be in his life because they were engaged.She calls asking him to come over and watch movies. she has made it clear she doesnt like him anymore and hates him yet she wont leave us alone.He has also made it clear he doesnt even want to be friends. Why does she still want to be friends?Why wont she take the hint?

2007-10-11 19:33:17 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

maybe looks has nothing to do but i quit doing what i was doing to be there for him so my question is what do i do to get him back all my friends have told me to seduce him but thats not the problem he loves my body and he enjoys having sex with me and am always giving him the best pleasure but she is fat and ugly but he loves to talk to her when he's down i mean his serious issues he goes to her and i know they're not sleeping with each other because it's obious but i know he calls her to talk about me and she tells him all this sweet staff and makes him feel so good and me that am the wife he only wants sex and am so confuse what do i do to show him that i love him and that i left everything for him???

2007-10-11 19:33:04 · 12 answers · asked by hey 2 in Marriage & Divorce