2007-10-11 20:23:12 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you done dealing with your wife? don't waste your time with the guy. Did you break off and she had an affair or she just plainly "cheated" on you and want some revenge. There's a bigger problem here that you need to be resolve. It is not the guy's fault. If you are happily married person would you have an affair with somebody else other than your spouse? Deal with your present situation right now. Revenge is not the answer, its hard to accept it but time will tell and heals slowly...very slowly. You also need how to forgive even it is hard to forget. Try to move on or else it will make you miserable. Good luck.
2007-10-11 20:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Alec G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, here's an idea you might not have thought of, "if she cheated on you with him as you explained".......then maybe you ought to let him have her. I say that because it is in direct conflict with the idea of marriage. You know ?.....the muslim terrorists believe that when they die, they go to heaven and get 70 virgins,.....a few camels and some other stuff,..I actually believe they deserve 70 virgins,...and whats' more?......I hope they all have to live in the same house with him and I hope they all go on the rag at the same time!....one woman is enough for any man. Getting back at the guy isnt gonna get you anywhere further in respects that your wife cheated on you,......If i'm not mistaken, it takes two to cheat which incenuates that she is half of the problem,........Or, she might have had a good reason to cheat, think about that!....Not that it matters anymore because you know now and you'll never forget what she did!....just try and forgive her and dont put the blame on the guy, most any guy would go after sex with any woman if they had the opportunity. think about how you might improve your relationship with your wife, that will keep you busy enough that you wont have time to think about the guy & getting back at him.
2007-10-11 20:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by theoregonartist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't that be, How do i get back at my wife for having an affair? Your wife did it to you not the man he doesn't know you,not to say that he wasn't wrong because he was but he isn't the one that betrayed your trust she did. Your anger belongs on her. I know how you feel my husband cheated on me and i wanted to get back at the other woman who by the way my husband worked with. Unless this man is a friend of yours and he went behind your back to seduce your wife there isn't to much you can do to him. Call him on the phone and tell him what you think of him.
2007-10-11 20:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing as it will not change what has already occurred. He really doesn't care what you think or he wouldn't have had an affair with her. He knows what he has done is wrong; let him live with it.
Now, I'd deal with the wife on this as no one put a gun to her head and forced her to have an affair. She had every opportunity to say no to it all and is 100% responsible for her actions.
2007-10-11 22:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you going to get back at anyone? So she had an affair, it's her loss. Move on and live life to the fullest, everything comes around full circle and she will experience the same pain if not worse than what you are going through now.
Write it down, get it all out of you...then destroy that paper. Sometimes it feels better when you've put it in writing and it helps you comprehend what's happening.
2007-10-11 20:30:56 · answer #5 · answered by Tigerbabe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No offense but unless you have small children why would you want her back?
But if you really want revenge you could pull your resources and use any connections you may have (political, financial or otherwise) to get even. Dig up some dirt, hire a PI. Use what you already know and go from there. Heck, sleep with his wife back if he's married too. Or maybe his sister (as long as she's of age).
2007-10-11 20:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are taking out your frustration, anger and humiliation on the wrong person.
The real problem is that your wife, the one who took the vows with you, has betrayed your trust and committed a deal breaker.
Forget the "other man" he is irrelevant. What you need to focus on is your marriage and the direction in which you wish it to take. Do you want to work it out? Do you want to have a separation? Do you want to go to counselling together?
Do you know what you want? Work that out and then concentrate on making it happen.
I am sorry for your situation. I hope that whatever happens, it is for the greater good. Good luck.
2007-10-11 20:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by kelstar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Revenge isn't going to solve anything, if anything it's going to make the whole situation worse. Re-evaluate your life and notice the changes that are needed to improve your life. Don't give that man the satisfication of knowing he got to you. Get your wife out of the way and realize you can do better!
2007-10-11 20:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a dirty hooker with the most festering case of the clap. In fact, pay her extra not to clean up from the last guy. Dont use a condom and dont wash after. Run home and give it to your wife in the hopes that she runs off to meet with him later. While shes gone, go to the ER for some antibiotics so you dont get sick. Then, sit back and watch all the fun. Sorry, I have a real problem with infidelity and I am a bit of a vengeful bas-tard.
2007-10-11 21:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by MHnurseC 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well your not very intelligent are you ? if you wanna get back at the man who had an affair with your wife , hmmmm id say give him the cheating b**ch , that should be punishment enough in long run
2007-10-11 20:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by ur asking me lmao 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋