we are classmates.now she calls me her bro or friend.i am deep in love with her.i've seen 2 of other friends falling 4 her,not gaining her heart but losing her friendship 4 ever..i am 100%sure she'll get desperate much more than she got from those two bcoz i am closer to her than they were.she regards me as sb to whom she can sympathize about friends who keep falling for her;i can not imagine anyone to whom she can sympathize about me falling 4 her.we r 2 more years together in university.i want to be at her side and protect her,even if she gets engaged with a boy,i want to protect him too.i dont know wut will happen to me after bidding farewell in the last day without letting her know my real feelings.i cant tell her about my love even after finishing university;she may need my help as a friend or bro then,too.even thinking about the last days make my eyes rain.i cant risk upsetting her;wanna always make her laugh,wanna be invited to her marriage n c her laughing in those white robes,
2007-10-11 19:34:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's not going to respond to you.
2007-10-11 19:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Steven R 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Are you sure she does not have feelings toward you? Are you sure she only thinks of you as a friend? It seems so very sad to me to know you love her so very much and willing to help her no matter what but that you will not tell her your feelings because you are afraid that you will lose her forever. You have what is called really a true love. You are willing not to say a word just so you can be near her and not lose her. I feel for you.. but I ask you this... are you sure you will always be in her life? When another man finally gets her he may shove you out of her life because he may not want you around. I am sure he will be able to tell that you love her.
It may be worth taking the change to tell her the truth.. Or maybe tell her that you would like to go further then just a friendship with her and see what she says.. then .. you have not lost your friendship.. but at least found out where you might stand..
2007-10-11 20:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by craft painter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation and my former best friend/big bro is now the love of my life. I never told him how i felt and i stood by him like a friend and watched him date so many other girls that were wrong for him. It hurt to watch him be hurt and unhappy for such a long time. Well when i finally couldnt stand it anymore, I told him that i was madly in love with him and have felt that way for years and he told me that i took the words right out of his mouth. He felt the same way that i did. I think that you should tell her and explain that if she doesnt feel the same way that you still want to be bff's with her and that her response would never effect the friendship that you two have built with eachother. Trust me dont live with what ifs in your life, it will drive you crazy later on if you dont find out if the feelings are mutual. Who knows it could be the best move that you've ever made. You could end up like me and be planning your wedding to the person of your dreams.
Good Luck.
2007-10-11 19:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by Gen Gen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i be attentive to it would desire to be greater extreme than something you have ever felt till now, yet that still would not make it love. You had a great adventure able that may no longer something like what you do and notice on a ordinary foundation, and while you have been there, you met a guy. the 1st area just about continually makes the 2nd area greater dramatic; this is why maximum of summer season romances flame out as quickly as human beings get returned to their well-known lives. as quickly as the thrill's worn off slightly, the sentiments will, too. till then, basically shop busy.
2016-10-20 06:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First try to conquer her, that she falls in love with you.
Second, when you've tried your best, go and tell her, ask her out.
Let's say she says 'no', then after a couple of weeks you tell her you were confused with such big friendship and confused it with love. You tell her how unbelievable it was you could ever think of such a thing, then you laugh a bit on how "stupid" you were to ask her out and pretend forever you didn't feel love for her, you just "misunderstood yourself". Make it sound even funny. This will keep your friendship. Then, for me, never telling her, would be stupid, missing the chance. She might be looking forward. Maybe she's telling you you how upset she was to be asked out by the others only to send you a message: "you are the one who should ask me".
2007-10-11 19:42:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before thinking about going to her wedding and crying for her, I think what you should do is tell her how you feel. Tell her in a way, where she does not feel insecure around you.
Have her sit down, and tell her, that you love being her friend and nothing can change it, and you want to be her best friend all her life....then tell her what you just wrote here in your question, cuz if you really feel that way, she is a lucky lady.
After that, if she shoots you down, there is still a big chance that you guys can remain friends, but you have to be communicative, if she marries somebody else, you're going to lose her anyway....
WHY NOT TAKE A CHANCE?
2007-10-11 19:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by Flova 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Aww how sweet! well if your more than friends things could go bad but than things could be great...if you stay friends than you have less of a chance losing her. how does she feel about you? does she just want you as a friend? if you never tell her you might miss the chance with her do what you think is best, maybe she will need you when she finds people that arent so great..maybe she willl see that your the one..".its better to have loved than to have never loved at all.."
2007-10-11 19:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by Glittery★stars 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide whether you truly will be OK just being friends. You can't always be there with her, Especially if she starts dating someone. Let her know how you feel and if she rejects you then back off for a while so things aren't weird between you and move on, I guarantee you will find another. You also can't protect her and her future boyfriend/fiance/husband, It will seem creepy. Give her space, space is a good thing. Good luck!!
2007-10-11 19:43:29 · answer #8 · answered by pinkgirl2030 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Life is ironic, that you must realize. When i was young guys that I don't really like run after me while my crush wouldn't even glance at me.
In your case, tell her nevertheless. If she turns you down, at least you tried. And one more thing, you cannot choose the people you'll fall in love with. You just feel it. It's not your fault.
If she turns you down, help yourself forget her and find someone else who can return your love. Life is short, don't waste it to only ONE person.
2007-10-11 19:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are parting, just tell her, "I love you more than you will ever know." she can take that as a best friend love or something more. await her reaction. if she seems upset just clarify it and say, " i wish i could go with you and be there for you, standing by your side to protect you....you are my best friend." then she can not get mad at you, but you have to read her reaction.
2007-10-11 19:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by christy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Guess what? If you were to get her, you wouldn't want her anymore.
2007-10-11 19:51:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋