My 13yr old daughter has been friends with a girl for about 8yrs now. I personnaly never cared for her because she was always mouthy and acts like she ownes my house when she comes over. But anyway for the 5th time now in the past year she has bullied my daughter, called her names, and tried to start physical fights with her. My daughter keeps accepting her apologies but I cant anymore. I explained to my daughter that I cant pick and choose her friends but I can choose to have in my house and I wont allow this friend of hers into my home anymore. My daughter thinks I'm being to dramatic and is pissed off at me. Do I stand my ground or give in? I dont hate her friend but want to teach her a lesson that she cant do that **** since her parents wont.
2007-10-11 20:12:41 · 10 answers · asked by mak 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
what you can do, if you let the brat back, is to lay down rules with her... when you catch her in the act doing something bad say "we dont swear in my house.." "we arent mean to others in My house..." it proves the point to them, if she continues to be a brat then at least the brat knows what she was doing wrong and so does your daughter, if she continues drop her home.... stand your ground but do it wisely so that your daughter understands.
2007-10-11 20:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are totally within your rights. You are, after all, protecting your daughter since it seems as if everything she has tried hasn't worked. If you do ever let this girl back into your home, though, tell her that under no uncertain terms will she be allowed to act these ways towards you, your daughter, or your family, or act as if she owns your home when it is YOU that owns it, or else she cannot come back into the home--ever. By the way, what does your daughter say how this girl acts around her in public, such as in school or in public places? If she is the same way other than in your home, then she has a serious problem. If that's the case, then I would definitely tell my daughter that she is not to associate with this girl for anything because this girl is using her to bully her, get her way (manipulate her), etc.
I know that your daughter is mad at you; what teen doesn't get mad at their parents for something or other. But DO NOT back down by any means. If you do, she will know that she can get her way by being mad at you. Plus you are doing this for your daughters protection, even though she doesn't see that right now. I know how hard this is (not to back down). I have raised two teens and am now a nanny to a teen and a pre-schooler. Raising children, as I am sure you know, is the most rewarding but yet the hardest job in the world (at least it is to me).
Give your daughter time. I am sure that she will eventually see why you have banned this girl from your home and will feel better about herself by not having her around to bully her and tell her what to do all the time.
2007-10-11 20:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter's 18 365 days previous buddy is a egocentric, spoiled brat. After she dealt with me disrespectfully (ignoring me, making faces at me), I informed her mom. Her mom have been given disenchanted, defended her daughter, and to on the present time, now the mum AND the daughter show egocentric, disrespectful habit. Like mom, like daughter. I wish my daughter might end her friendship with this female! yet she would be able to no longer because of the fact she does not have many buddies. this variety of undesirable impact. Get this, the mum and daughter call themselves non secular Christians. Small city crap. Martinsburg, PA Hypocrite city.
2016-12-18 05:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by lacuesta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter probably doesn't see what this girl is really doing. She might be just too shy and too nice to say anything to this girl.
An 8 year friendship is a pretty tough one to take a hold of.
Do you know why this girl has tried to start physical fights with your daughter? Why she's bullying her?
Don't give in. Let her know that that treatment towards anyone is considered unacceptable and people do not like it and want it gone.
2007-10-11 20:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your right. I have dealed with this before.
Look Tell her parnets i did. Or yell at her friend tell her what a cow she really is, I was bullied at a young age but those cows now have no life! That is what is gonna happen to your daughter if she keeps backing down. trust me , I know how girls can accept and Bully. Tell your daughter from your point of view then it will work out. If not, then do what i did.
It will work out
Elllie
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2007-10-11 21:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it would help if you sat down with your daughter and tried to explain to her that you're not attacking her or trying to make her life complicated. Ask her why she chooses to stay friends with someone that bullies her around. I don't think your being dramatic...you're just concerned about her. If this friend of hers really bothers you, maybe you guys can work on some sort of a compromise. Or you can always encourage your daughter to make some new friends who are nicer to her. In time, she'll begin to appreciate and realize who her real friends are.
2007-10-11 20:19:25 · answer #6 · answered by happy14 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OH MY GOD. Please do exactly what you're planning because let me tell ya...I had a TOXIC friend that my mom tried to ween me off of (unsuccessfully.) This friend is abusive to your daughter and she is still too young to realize it. She will probably hate you for a while, but trust me, you are on the right path. I didn't cut ties with my toxic friend til COLLEGE and I wish I could have all those years back...
2007-10-11 20:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by lauren 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
stand your ground its YOUR house YOU pay the bills there fore YOUR the boss not your daughter. and i would personally speak to the girls parents as well if it is getting too much for just you to handle
good luck with it all.
2007-10-11 20:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground.
2007-10-11 22:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go mama, stand your ground...I wouldn't let her step one foot in my house...
2007-10-11 20:37:59 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋