Family & Relationships - 11 October 2007

I'm 20 years old in college and I had 6 sexual partners. 3 out of the 6 of the partners, at the BEGINNING(only) of the relationship it was difficult to obtain a erection. But after a while, i got comfortable enough to easily obtain about 2 weeks of the relationship. I'm nervous because I just got a new girl friend, and she wants to have sex and i'm so nervous that when i get in bed that'll i'll have problems obtaining or keeping one. What should I do? How can i avoid having that problem?

2007-10-11 03:41:38 · 4 answers · asked by DVS 1 in Singles & Dating

I’ve been with my s/o for 9 months and our relationship is great. I’ve lived at home off and on for the last 3 years. I got an apartment 4 months ago. He still technically lives at home but he’s with me every night. Having him there costs me an extra $200 a month that I really don’t have. Money has been tight lately and it’s left me very irritable.

Last night I mentioned that I don’t have much money. He asked me why, in a tone that was suggesting I was blowing money or something. I just snapped! I told him that this isn’t fair and it pissed me off when he asked why I don’t have any money. I told him he has no idea what it costs to be independent and take care of yourself. It’s really hard. I said I want a partner, not another person to take care of. I also said that it pisses me off that I have to work 40 hours, go to school 12 hours, and stress about money when life is bliss for him. He’s only working 10 hours and goes to school for 9. Even his parents have said something to him.

He’s not a bad guy. He’s just lazy. Will I have to push him forever? Was I wrong to say anything?

He pays when we go out to eat, which is rarely. He does clean my apartment a lot. If he’s going to be there everyday then I think we should make it official and split the bills.

2007-10-11 03:37:55 · 10 answers · asked by Due May 17, 2009! 2 in Singles & Dating

My man is very passionate and nice person. We have been knowing one another for a year now where we agreed to postpone sex until after marriage and he seemed to agree. Anyways, We were invited to a birthday party to one of our friends & I was putting on a nice dress ... Throughout the whole party and I saw his eyes never moved away from me, I was really happy & when we sat close to one another he looked deeply in my eyes and told me "I love you much, I long for the time you'll be my wife" but the times I looked around, I noticed accidently that he is looking at my body specifically (breasts/ legs) but when I looked directly to him, he is like starring at my face. Just wanna make sure ... was he turned on that much? knowing that he is passionate all times but it was extra-ordinary at party? Does he adores me or its all about how I looked at the party?

2007-10-11 03:36:52 · 7 answers · asked by Sara007 5 in Singles & Dating

My son is a skater and grew his hair pretty long and bushy over the past 2 years. He decided to get it cut, it looks different, kinda like drake bells, maybe longer. anyway we are eating dinner last night and my husband just comes out and tells my son matter of factly, "I dont like your haircut". You could tell it hurt my son's feelings (he's almost 13) I usually tell people I dont like it if there is something wrong with it,(cut crooked or something) not just because it is my opinion. I just thought it was rude and wondered if you would tell him bluntly you hate his hair or if you would keep your opinion to yourself!?

2007-10-11 03:35:29 · 14 answers · asked by kaytee3212 6 in Family

2007-10-11 03:32:58 · 10 answers · asked by tcbgwennap 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My hubby and me never got to dance at our wedding reception, because he hated to dance back then. But weve been taking dance lessons for a few months now and he's really gotten into dancing with me. I LOVE IT! However, with our anniversary coming up.. We need a special song to reflect our marriage, love, respect for each other, and to celebrate our 10 years as a married couple. I'm not sure what to choose. I'm the more vocal of us two (as you can tell). My hubby is not as vocal as I am. He says he doesn't care just as long as he gets to dance with me. :) Please don't say "In the Navy" by the Village People. I've heard that one all ready. Any suggestions would be helpful.

2007-10-11 03:32:55 · 9 answers · asked by navywife_2001 3 in Weddings

Why do I find a WOMAN in general to be very extremely important in my life??? Is it just me as a male? Am I the only GUY/MAN in this world, that finds a woman so extremely important in my life??? Are there any guys/men out there that also just like me, in finding a woman in general to be important in their lives just as well? Also, is there any Women out there, that also CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT A MAN IN GENERAL????

2007-10-11 03:32:16 · 10 answers · asked by pain_of_unhappiness 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-11 03:31:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

We are 14 year old girls... help.

2007-10-11 03:26:27 · 36 answers · asked by RechdaRocker 2 in Friends

Me and my mom have had a rocky relationship for the past couple months and it's been getting worst. Yesturday we got in this huge arguemnt and i called her a b****. I would have never in a million yrs think i would call her something like that and i just want to show her i never meant to disrespect her like that but i don't want to suck uo to her either. We have not talked for the past 2 days and my mom is really stubborn. what should i do

2007-10-11 03:20:21 · 31 answers · asked by ? 5 in Marriage & Divorce

do i have to be engaged before i get married or can we just get married without an engagement?

2007-10-11 03:17:57 · 33 answers · asked by LINDSEY S 7 in Weddings

Ok so my boyfriend says he has a secret. We agreed not to buy each other anything so that we could save for marriage but he says this is the last thing he's allowed to buy me. He's given me two clues lately as to what it is.

1st clue: it has something to do with a Cherry Coca Cola Zero.
2nd clue: it has something to do with six three pointers

What do you think it could be?

2007-10-11 03:11:15 · 5 answers · asked by ........... 1 in Singles & Dating

he told me he didn't want me for sex. he said that if he did we would have done it. and then the next day we did. i had even said no i wasn't ready but he still pressures me. and before me and him had sex he was never rly into hangin out with me.. and now that we have hes always around.. does he want me for sex???

2007-10-11 03:06:29 · 26 answers · asked by DaniGirl17 1 in Singles & Dating

and would you see the signsif it happened again?

2007-10-11 03:05:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I want out and this his just another control tactic.
What should be my next move?

2007-10-11 03:04:10 · 21 answers · asked by mrs O 6 in Marriage & Divorce

What is everyones opinion on casual sex. No strings attached. Its understandable some people accept it and some think its wrong..but im wondering what the majority opinion is. Is friends with benefits a bad thing to you?

2007-10-11 03:02:49 · 27 answers · asked by MN 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok so I am getting married May 08 and my dad is not really in my life but is my dad. I have a 2 year old he has only seen twice and never calls me and never does anything for me. I have a step dad that does really anything and everthing for me and has been there since i was about 10 years old. He is who my sons knows a papa. I have told my step he was going to walk me down the isle but i want to invite my dad to the wedding..Not that i even know if he will come for sure or not? but should i let the one who has been there for me walk me down the isle or just let both? I need some help?

2007-10-11 02:59:44 · 20 answers · asked by Thinking of Baby#2 <3 2 in Weddings

What is to you the definition?

2007-10-11 02:59:09 · 12 answers · asked by Petal62 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Including see through dresses, low jeans showing panties from inside, etc

2007-10-11 02:57:23 · 20 answers · asked by rishi_k4 1 in Singles & Dating

I have a guy friend that I'm in love with. I know he really likes me but we live in different states. We stay in contact but I would love to know if I can influence him in any way to make him feel for me the way I feel for him. Any ideas would really help me. I cannot stop thinking of him. We got together once but now we just chat ...like friends. I invited him to visit..he said he will but that the prob is that its difficult to get me there...and that's true as I'm usually travelling. I dont want to be pushy, Im not the type. I feel he would be more proactive if he were in a position to date seriously. He's studying heavily. Can a long term good friend become a lover one day? Or am I living in dreamland? We havnt discussed our feelings and I cant bring myself to bring this up.

2007-10-11 02:55:50 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My wedding was this past weekend... the cake that I had asked for from the baker was NOT the cake that ended up at the reception. The baker was a friend of a family member of the groom... we had never met her before so she was a neutral party. We had discussed that we would put a $200 deposit and another $200 would be paid after we saw the cake (a tip would be added to that if we absolutely loved it). The cake that was there was not what I asked for... the icing was basketweave which I absolutely hate and definitely did not ask for (I did specify what I did want)... so I was horrified.

The day after the wedding, the family member (not the baker) showed up at my hotel and made a huge scene in front of family and friends demanding $500 for the cake. Of course I said no and that I would need to speak with the baker to determine what should be paid... they refused to let me speak with her and started yelling and cursing.

2007-10-11 02:51:17 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

2007-10-11 02:51:12 · 17 answers · asked by nicole 1 in Friends

2007-10-11 02:47:32 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-11 02:38:56 · 12 answers · asked by Money Makes Me C(u)m 1 in Singles & Dating

I am toying with the idea of a Halloween Wedding. In just two years - - - Oct 31, 2009 - - - will be a Saturday! The date works perfectly into our schedule.
I need to have a Saturday wedding as people will be travelling and be staying overnight.
My concern is for the few people with younger kids whose kids might be upset at attending rather than going Trick or Treating. I've guestimated that there will be about 10 kids attending.
I would like to know your thoughts. Do I go ahead with it and maybe appease the kids (give them bags of candy, let them wear their costumes, etc) or do I wait a year, have my theme but do it on Oct 30th?

2007-10-11 02:34:29 · 12 answers · asked by nova_queen_28 7 in Weddings

oh when i was walking in the hallways i was checking this girl out from behind so looked so fine....nice butt and everything......then when i get alittle bit closer....i find out its my cousin! I said hey whats up.....and left rushing to my class....

I freaked I WAS CHECKING OUT MY COUSIN! and i was liking it....until i found out it was her! IS IT WRONG or can i be forgiving bc it was a mistake?

2007-10-11 02:32:11 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Any suggestions on a small/nice gift I could give my soon to be husband on our wedding day?

2007-10-11 02:31:59 · 8 answers · asked by beth v 2 in Weddings

2007-10-11 02:31:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

im putting together a scrapbook type book for my husband who is getting ready to deploy. i want to include some quotes but i cant find anygood ones. anything to do with love, missing him, things like that. also if anyone has any good ideas of other things i should include i would really appreciate it. it was supposed to include letters from our entire extended family but they r too lazy to help!!

2007-10-11 02:30:53 · 8 answers · asked by daisycm 5 in Marriage & Divorce

He ruined our finances, blaming it on me. Told most of his friends, coworkers, family and church members that I had borderline personality disorder and now none of them will talk to me, destroying my support network. Told me I was crazy and paranoid that I suspected a change in people's attitude toward me. He was cruel, screaming and spitting in my face that he wished my then newborn daughter was never born when I breastfed her. He insisted that I was a burden and wanted me to leave a lot so the family would have peace. Going out I was attacked more. I yelled a lot in resistance. He said it is in the past and I shouldn't be upset. He told be about wanting me to kill myself less than a week ago. He is known to be the nicest guy ever to others. I don't know what to do, think, feel, etc. Any suggestions would help.

2007-10-11 02:30:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce