Casual sex?

Question

What is everyones opinion on casual sex. No strings attached. Its understandable some people accept it and some think its wrong..but im wondering what the majority opinion is. Is friends with benefits a bad thing to you?

Answer 1

I think if it is among consenting adults, and both are okay with it just being no strings attached, who are we to judge?

Answer 2

Friends with benefits is a bad idea. Once it happens and becomes a habit, there can no longer be a clear cut definition between being a friend and a lover. Casual sex is a risky practice. For health reasons especially if not practiced carefully. And the fact a person can get quite a reputation if not discreet. Casual sex can become a problem if only one of the two people involved considers it as casual and the other treats it more serious and thinks more of it being a relationship.

Answer 3

Its great as long as both parties understand from the start that is what it really is. Nearly every time though someone gets more attached then the other and it ends badly. My gf was a friend w/ benefits... she didn't want anything other than sex. I fell in love with her and after months she finally felt the same way. We have an awesome relationship... so, sometimes good can come from it. But trend softly. Oh yeah, use condoms!!

Answer 4

It all depends on whether or not it's agreed upon by both parties BEFORE the sex begins. That way both can go into the sexual escapades with a mindset not to catch feelings. If only one of the people think it's a casual sex thing (admittedly, that's usually the male), it's likely feelings will get hurt. If you're going to have a casual sex/friends with benefits situation, it's important to realize it's whole purpose is fun, not feelings.

Answer 5

I have never, and would never attempt the "friends with benefits" situation. It would be much too awkward for me, and I would not want it to ruin the friendship I had with that person. On a much larger scale I would not want to end up pregnant from a guy, that I was just "benefiting" with ... that would be a disaster! Protected sex does not always mean you are in fact completely protected unfortunately. As a female, I am a very emotional person .. and I would have had to gone through quite a few dud relationships to not connect any emotion to a purely sexual relationship. It may be for some people ... but that does not float this girl's boat.

Answer 6

I think people usually focus on the rightness or wrongness of it and totally miss the emotional issues. In my experience when people have sex they get attatched to and feel affection for the partner. This is not because they read the Bible or because society told them to. It's because they are human. Humans get attatched to things they get positive experiences from. This includes sex. If you pay close attention to people who engage in much promiscuous sex you will see many other behaviors incorporated to aviod the feelings that follow the sexual experience, drinking, doing drugs, having to leave the bed as soon as possible, switching partners, ending relationships as soon as sex happens and so on.
I just think "friends with benefits" never really works, except for maybe in the movies. Somehow there's this idea out there that people can do whatever they want and decide how they're going to feel about it. And I just don't think we have this kind of control over it. I think drugs and other compulsive behavoirs can help us to convince ourselves we have this kind of power. The power we do have is to realize that certain behaviors have physical and emotional consequenses, and to engage in or avoid them considering this knowledge.
Now, I don't believe this means we have to be married or in a serious relationship in order to have sex. But I do think it's good to work in reality. Sex has emotional consequenses. This is one reason why rape is a much more serious crime than slapping someone in the face. And you as an adult can make a decision about wether to have sex with these consequenses in mind.

Answer 7

this question is like a two sided sword on one side theres the well to be frank the fun an dplesure side of it and on the the other theres the moral values and the worrys about the stds he may or may not carry.It all depends on the time place and person to just say it is etheir ok or not ok is not something anyone can really do. in my opion its just stupid in general with the worry of aids and stds that is circleing around the whole world right now and the millions dieing from it each year i just dont wan tto have to worry about it.

Answer 8

I see nothing wrong with it personally. But it really is up to the people involved. More and more women are discovering it and liking it. The problem with friends with benefits is that the more your intimate with someone, the easier it is to develop feelings. I am not saying that's a bad thing, but its inevitable.

Answer 9

I guess its between the two people doing it, and the understanding, that, casual sex is all it will be and nothing else. I guess if two people are happy with their life like this its great, and good for them :) Its better than a one night stander with different people all the time.

Answer 10

I think the survey will lack merit without knowing the age and gender of the answerer. I'm a 41 year old male and I have had sex and I have made love - Making love wins hands down !!!!

Answer 11

I don't have a problem if other people want to do it - but I personally want to know I'm the only one the guy is with since there are just too many chances to get a STD if one or both have multiple partners even if you use protection.