Family & Relationships - 11 October 2007

I'm a stay at home mom, with 2 kids. I do some in-home service work,part time, but other than that...i'm at home taking care of things. I've been with my man for years, and yes...he is the father of both my children! LOL!
I've always felt that our relationship was good, but we argue a lot, over stupid things...mostly about our families, and money.
He's a good guy, but moody at times, and has a bad attitude. I know he is faithful, and so am I...but his attitude and remarks hurt!
Some people say that being at home, I have it easy, and am just spoiled...but that's not true. Like I said, I do part time work for IHSS, and with that, I pay for our truck payment, and insurance. I do all the cooking and cleaning, take care of the kids, and handle our bills. I even help his and my family out constantly, but nothing ever seems to be enough.
What should I do? I put him and my kids before me ALWAYS!!
What would you do in this situation?
P.S.
I really don't wanna leave...Help!

2007-10-11 07:40:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i've really really liked one of my best guy friends since i met him.. which was around 7 to 8 months ago.. since then he's had two girlfriends, and he's always acted like he really likes me, and all of our friends want us to be together, but it's like he's completely blind or something.. he's sort of single now, his girlfriend dumped him, and i was the first person he told, and he started crying when he told me about it, and i hated seeing him like that, i wanted to kill the stupid girl because she told everyone how happy she was after she dumped him.. then she changed her mind, and told him she wanted to get back together, and even though she totally and completely killed him inside for the past week, he's considering it! and i'm still here, waiting for him to finally get over her.. but i'm afraid it's never going to happen if u don't do something, is there anything i can do to get his attention?

2007-10-11 07:39:19 · 2 answers · asked by LoveLyLonEr 2 in Singles & Dating

or are you usually too pi**ed to care lol

2007-10-11 07:39:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I have been dating this guy for 2 months now, ( he is 43 years old ), he told me that he has not had sex or even kissed a woman for the past 18 years, and when i asked him why, he told me that it is because he has been very busy working.

But now that we are together, he doesn't want to have sex with me also. It has been 2 months, he wants me to give me oral sex, but he does not want to have sex with me. i have tried everything to make him have sex with me, and he still resist. ( AND HIS ENGINE DOWN BELOW IS WORKING PERFECTLY ).

He told me that it will take a very long time before we have sex together, and it might never happen. He told me that he wants to do everything with me ( like hugging, kissing, foreplay, )everything except sex.

What is happening with this guy ? He has not had sex or even kissed a woman for the past 18 years, and now that he is with me, he still does not want to have sex.

Help me, what is going on with this man ?

2007-10-11 07:38:37 · 5 answers · asked by psychic clara 1 in Singles & Dating

Am I a bad person for wanting to take my nephew away from his mother knowing he is not in good hands? Loveless, abusive relationship.

2007-10-11 07:38:09 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm doing a research project and I hardly use the internet so I have difficulty paraphrasing stuff that I find. If you can, please paraphrase the following 3 paragraphs for me. thanks.

Vatna: The cleansing ceremony On the eve before the wedding, the bride and groom (at their respective homes) are cleansed with turmeric paste. This ceremony is performed to cleanse and cool the body, and signifies the cleansing of the soul. 'Uptan' is a paste made of sandalwood, turmeric and rose water, this is applied by seven married female members of the families, to the face, hands and feet of the bride and groom.

After this ceremony the bride and the groom are barred from exposing themselves to the elements (environmental, physical & emotional) till the wedding ceremony.

Mehendi (Henna): Decking up the bride The 'Mehendi' celebration is a lighthearted affair with no religious connotation. Henna is the eco friendly and natural tattoo paste made from the roots of the Henna plant. It has the unique property of soothing and cooling the wearer.

This event has no pre designate time in the flow of ceremonies, normally forming a continuation of sangeet, the ladies of the house draw intricate patterns on their hands, arms and feet. The most intricate and complicate patters being reserved for the bride. In some households the groom too is given a spot on the pals the benefit from the properties of Henna.

Sangeet: Musical night Sangeet is a musical affair celebrating the joysness of the occasion. Usually held in conjunction with the 'mehendi' ceremony, is primarily a ladies function, held by each household separately for their guests.

Traditional marriage songs are sung to the beat of the drum.


Chuda Chadana The white bangles This ceremony is also held on the morning of the wedding. The pundit does a puja and the bride's maternal uncles give her a set of choodas (21 bangles in red and white ivory) after washing them in milk. As per tradition, the bride should ideally wear these for at least a year. Nowadays the bride wears the chooda for a month and a quarter.
For the bride's mother and father the maternal uncle gets gifts - nanke chaak.
As a symbol of best wishes and blessings, the sisters, sister-in-law and friends tie kaleeras made of thin silver and plated with gold on an iron bangle worn by the girl.

2007-10-11 07:38:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

I love my boyfriend we've been together for 1 year and a half. We've been having some arguements lately and its hard for us to both control our tempers. Our last argument ended in him slapping me on the face, it wasnt a hard slap, it was more like a light tap. I'm scared its going to get worse because abuse escalates. Its starts with a light slap, than a punch, than kicking and choking. He says he wouldnt do it again but i'm smart enough to know that just because he promises doesnt mean he wont do it again. He's a really good guy, and i know he loves me, its just that sometimes we both lose our tempers. I have to admit i've slapped him too before because he's said some really mean thngs to me in the past. Right now we are on a break, i told him that the only way we could get back together is if we both go to couples counseling. Clearly we both have a problems, i'm not blaming it all on him, i know i have my faults too. Do you think couples counseling will work?

2007-10-11 07:35:54 · 15 answers · asked by Lady B 3 in Marriage & Divorce

for a club with "high maintenance" women that are more into themselves, without buying them a drink?

2007-10-11 07:32:25 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

someone who keep playing with ur feelings... who would scar ur name and backstabs you whenever he would give the chance...and doing things to make lose ur chance with any other man... he acts like he is ur friend while he really is ur biggest enemy... it seems like becoming friend with him was the biggest mistake u made in ur life... and u will end up regretting this for the rest of ur life. but this idiot should have known you would have given up anything to only be with him. He is not giving back ur stuffs and ur dog who raised since birth
why would anyone want to see someone hurt and in pain... and if they really hate being ur friend couldn't they just tell u in the face and move on. after a year it is all over and done he still continuing spreading rumors about u to whoever he gets the chance ... why can’t he just stop!

2007-10-11 07:32:23 · 3 answers · asked by death body 21 1 in Singles & Dating

i love her very much and yeah im pretty excited. note that im 20 and shes 19 ....... i never done anything like this in my life ; )

2007-10-11 07:32:16 · 1 answers · asked by The Great ONE 1 in Singles & Dating

Are there as many women as men that are pro NSA (no strings attached) relationships? A lot of online ad's I run across are from men, a few from women, and it leads me to believe that more women then men want a relationship to be based on more then just sex.


Can anyone shed some insight into this?

2007-10-11 07:32:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-10-11 07:31:55 · 24 answers · asked by bree 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Alright so I'm like 12 and theres this really cute guy we've been going out for like 1 week and i've been kinda shy cause hes my frist real boyfriend and it kinda seems like a bet because we hugged on the first day 5 min after i said yes and and like 3 different times people told me that he wanted to break up but he didnt and like i said we've been going out like 1 week and he called me yesturday to ask me if i would make out with him and like i said no and then he broke up with me and called later saying he was sorry and HE was going to kiss me not make out but just a kiss on the lips and like i feel really confused because he's going fast and i dont want to kiss him or for him to kiss me and it feels like it's a bet but it might not be and i have no idea what do do HELP ME PLEASE! : (

2007-10-11 07:31:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How can I show that i have confidence....I have confidence but i dont know how to show it?? any ideas?

2007-10-11 07:30:59 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Me and my mom was going over wedding plans and we thought it would be extremely cute to use small pumpkins(gords and such) as the centerpieces at my wedding reception (fall of 08) instead of spending 1000 of more dollars on flowers....

picture this....

in the middle of the table,,,

a small pumpkin surrounded by fall leaves (fake) with some small pine cones and small yellow candles

cute or not??

any more ideas???

2007-10-11 07:29:33 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

how much planning is involved, etc. My fiancee and I are exploring all of our options, we're on a low budget so we're trying to see what's the cheapest and easiest way to go, but we still want to have a few close friends and family there. Any help would be appreciated.

2007-10-11 07:29:12 · 6 answers · asked by phatchick182004 4 in Weddings

i was surprised when i found out that my girlfriend's mom was a pornstar. i just met her today and i asked what she does for a living and she was like, "i make porn movies". i was surprised when i heard this, and my girlfriend wasn't even ashamed of it. her mom was really nice, but i never expected her to be in porn. she even offered me some of her movies. should i still date her because of this?

2007-10-11 07:24:24 · 16 answers · asked by josh w 1 in Singles & Dating

you hate all your boyfriend's friends because they have no respect for you, they're a bunch of shallow *** wipes, and they suggest your boyfriend to go out with this another girl when they know i am his girlfriend!!!


QN: do you think your boyfriend's friends actually matter to you? do you need to consider them before getting serious with your partner? like you know you have to consider his family and all.

i personally do feel they do matter because those *** holes are part of his life.

but what do you think? should i ruin our relationship because i hate all of his friends, and believe they will be able to influence him the wrong way???

2007-10-11 07:22:20 · 6 answers · asked by IamherewhenIhavenothingtodo 2 in Singles & Dating

So, my boyfriend took pictures of some half naked girls dancing at a club when I went to the bathroom and lied about them the next day when I looked at his camera (he at first said there was a bad picture of me on it, then I said I didn't care and looked at his camera anyway and found the photos). At the club, we had just met some new people and he said that one of the guys said that "your girlfriend just went to the bathroom.let's take a picture with them" and they took a picture with them and then my boyfriend took a bunch of pictures of just the girls. When I found the photos, I started crying and he said he was embarrassed, but didn't see anything wrong with taking the photos. I asked him what if I took photos of half naked guys and he said he wouldn't have a problem with it. Well, he later apologized and deleted the photos, but how big of a deal is this? Has something similar happened to you? Is it any reason to break up over a guy or is taking pictures of halfnaked girls ok

2007-10-11 07:19:49 · 13 answers · asked by g 3 in Singles & Dating

Why would a man say that he is happy with his wife say that I am the one and then sign up to these sites and lie say he is looking or what ever one he picks to say I am free and ready to meet someone.... WHY please help me!!!

2007-10-11 07:17:44 · 15 answers · asked by krisyloveit 1 in Marriage & Divorce

This guy used to give an eye contact to me since 2-3 yrs. I approached him and we r friends now. But at first he hesitated to talk to me..i dont know why. Then he talked nicely. My problem is....sometimes he talks very nicely,...he makes me laugh...he shows that he cares.. But sometimes he gives very to the point answers to me...and converse as if hez just doing a formality. Not only this...sometimes he completely ignores me.I m so confused becoz of his mood swings. What do u think...why is he behaving this way??Are they really mood swings or do u think hez just being nice?Should i ask him directly whether he really wanna talk to me or not?

2007-10-11 07:16:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Back, foot, shoulder, butt, leg, arm...whatever kind, how often?

2007-10-11 07:15:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-10-11 07:14:01 · 6 answers · asked by Baby i 1 in Singles & Dating

My gf is having a wild night as we speaks. It is her friend's birthday so she went out for dinner and having a karokee night , it is 2am already. I spoke to her and she is quite drunk. She even mention about this guy "Alex" is living close by, and she said she will call him even at 2 am.

Her behavour bothers me........I asked her to go home, she said she will spend the whole night. I then have no choice but to tell her be careful and take a day off work.

Would that bother you?

2007-10-11 07:13:50 · 4 answers · asked by White Shooting Star of HK 7 in Singles & Dating

Ok, I've been going out with my current girlfriend(Miss A) for a while and she introduced me to her friend(Miss B). Miss B and I really hit it off and I'm starting to like her more and more, So much so that the prospect of a relationship with Miss A seem dull and unhappy. Miss A and I have been great friends for a while and i don't want to ruin that by that asking her best friend out after i break up with her. What should i do???

2007-10-11 07:13:35 · 7 answers · asked by Drifblim 1 in Singles & Dating

What if?


Then, you can create your own fanstasy world and do all that if you really wanted to, right?


WHAT IF???

2007-10-11 07:11:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for awile now but he wants me to be on top but Its kinda awkward when I even think about it cause he would be looking at me when im up there and I don't even know what to do if im on top of him? So my questions are: How do I be on top without feeling awkward? What do when Im on top?

2007-10-11 07:10:31 · 15 answers · asked by ♥Megan♥ 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-10-11 07:09:53 · 11 answers · asked by christopher m 1 in Weddings

I'm a sophomore in college and I lived on campus last year, so I've already made friends and everything, which makes it hard to leave, but I live only about 30 minutes away, so I would still be able to commute to school.

2007-10-11 07:08:20 · 20 answers · asked by katemonster 1 in Family

Last night i went to the casino. Won some money and then desided to go play bingo. As I was playing i was looking around the room and spotted a hot chick in the back. With the bingo cards and the dabber i wrote my name and number. I wrote to cross two pages. I wrote it in advance on the cards i wasnt going to use,cause i was bored and going to leave early. The intermission came up. I walked over there and set the two card down right in front of her, and just walked away. When I was out the door i looked back at her, and she looked really confused. I went to a different door and was still watching her She still had that confused look on her face.Her mom came back, she went away to get something during the intermission. she handed the cards to her mom and her mom started laughing. The mom showed the bingo attendent and he started laughing. She took them back and took out her phone. She didnt call me right away. about 2 hours later i got a text message from her and then we talked all nigh

2007-10-11 07:07:11 · 5 answers · asked by Jon G 7 in Singles & Dating