A long question, but my boyfriend took photos of half naked girls at a club?

Question

So, my boyfriend took pictures of some half naked girls dancing at a club when I went to the bathroom and lied about them the next day when I looked at his camera (he at first said there was a bad picture of me on it, then I said I didn't care and looked at his camera anyway and found the photos). At the club, we had just met some new people and he said that one of the guys said that "your girlfriend just went to the bathroom.let's take a picture with them" and they took a picture with them and then my boyfriend took a bunch of pictures of just the girls. When I found the photos, I started crying and he said he was embarrassed, but didn't see anything wrong with taking the photos. I asked him what if I took photos of half naked guys and he said he wouldn't have a problem with it. Well, he later apologized and deleted the photos, but how big of a deal is this? Has something similar happened to you? Is it any reason to break up over a guy or is taking pictures of halfnaked girls ok

okay, we went to a dance club, not a strip club...I didn't know it was one of those clubs where half naked women come out and dance in the middle of the dance floor.

Answer 1

you're severely insecure and possessive. with that said, maybe it's your boyfriend's actions that are causing your insecurities and possessiveness.

if his actions upset you that much, i don't think it's about him taking the pictures. there are much deeper roots to your emotions. find them before he starts to say "every little thing sets off my GF".

Answer 2

I don't think it's a big deal at all! Every guy is going to be attracted to a half naked girl (this excludes gay men). It's obvious that he loves you. He deleted the pictures and apologized. It's not everyday that a man will admit he's wrong. All he did was take a few pictures. I would say you deffenetly have a good man. Don't ruin it over something stupid like this.

Answer 3

If seeing half naked girls is not OK, what the heck were you doing in a club that featured them? I've never been to a strip club, never will go. I don't care if it's men or women stripping, I find it demeaning to either gender. I won't participate, because my actions give a silent approval for the activity. You obviously approve of this activity, or you wouldn't participate. Doesn't making a big deal out of it, when he has erased the pics and apologized seem a tad hypocritical? I'm not condemning you, but if you support this activity on one hand, you can't condemn it on the other.
Edit: I read your response...bummer. That happens to all of us from time to time. We end up in a situation we did not anticipate. So....blow it off. It happened, it's over. Especially because the bf got rid of the pics. I'm sure the whole deal was icky for you, but let's give the bf a get-out-of-jail-free card on this one. You both ended up doing something you normally wouldn't.

Answer 4

I find it okay for guys to look at porn when they aren't single, as long as they put you first in front of everything. But when your boyfriend took pictures of those girls when you were gone it showed that at the time he wasn't thinking of you even when he was going out with you and cared only for those girls. I don't think you should break up with him unless this happens again. I think he learned his lesson and proved it by deleting those pictures and apologizing to you. If he does it again then you'll know that the apology was fake. But I think you can still go on and hope he has more respect in the future for not just you, but for everything girl.

Answer 5

You were there at the club with him and teh half naked girls and you have a problem with him having a picture?

Am I the only one confused? It is ok for him to be PHYSICALLY PRESENT with the half naked girls. Just not take a picture?

That is like saying you got him a stripper and got mad cause he looked at porn online!

Answer 6

As long as all he did was take the pictures, I don't think it is a big deal. He probably didn't want you to see them because he knew you would react like this. They were ONLY pictures. No different than if he was looking at half or fully naked girls in a magazine.

Answer 7

i don't think it is really that big of a deal. guys are just that way. we females get turned on emotionally. guys get turned on by girly mags.porn etc. it really is just a guy thing. they are always gonna look and if they get caught they are always gonna lie about it. they get embarrassed or they don't want their girlfriends to trip out. but it is natural. all guys do it.
however if he was getting their number or making plans with them it would be a different story. his intentions would be to hook up or cheat.
but if this isn't the case and he is a good guy, then i say give him a break.

Answer 8

its not a big deal, every guy looks at girls and comments on them even when hes married or taken, its just the way we are. He didnt hit on them or anything so you have nothing to worry about. alot of times when were with friends we act like dogs but it doesnt mean that were not loyal. just tell him not to take pictures anymore when youre out like that of girls im sure hed understand.

Answer 9

a guy hasd a girlfriend and takes photos of OTHER girls half naked and LIES about it? and THEN says h doesn't have a problem with HER taking photos of OTHER half naked GUYS? yeah there's a problenm! it's called"he doens';t respect youa nd tried to get one over on you but failed!" he's not even worth crying over. why are you even writing to us? stick out that hitchhiker's thumb and say NEXT! LOL! (read dump him)

Answer 10

I would not break up over this, but i would definetely make it a point to make my feelings known that you dislike his behaviour and that you won't tolerate it and that he needs to have more control over his actions even under peer pressure and know what is upsetting to you and respect that as you would respect him. This is what relationship is all about, respect and trust, not just love.