Family & Relationships - 11 October 2007

You know, without sounding superficial.

2007-10-11 08:45:43 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

my common law wife and i were together for 5 years....bought a condo together and she had even told me about mariage in aug 08. She said everything was fine the way it was and never had any bad thoughts about us. Then one day she up and tells me that she "wants to see what else is out there" that she "needs more" and still loves me but its not the same love. Why is it that when you find the one you want and are told the same...women seem to be able to do just the opposite!!

2007-10-11 08:43:33 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I'm married to a man that i don't love. He recently had a seizure, for the first time (scared the hell out of me). He doesn't seem like he want to be somebody. He just lost his job that makes me more mad. I feel like i'm his care taker, i don't feel like we are equally or that he want to make something out of his life.
I was on the dean's list last year but now my grades are dropping because am so stressed out.
I really think i would be a lot happier without him in my life But i know for a fact that if i leave him he won't be able to make it on his own. I'm giving way more than i'm getting back. Is this what marriage is suppose to be like? I'm 24 and he's 31 and i'm way more mature than he is. He lost his job because he was "joking" around.
Would u stay in an unhappy marriage?

2007-10-11 08:43:17 · 26 answers · asked by redhead 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Like the limo? We'd have them pay less than the bridesmaids still, but it's hard to cover everything without help! Or is it just tacky?

2007-10-11 08:39:08 · 26 answers · asked by Vyque 3 in Weddings

2007-10-11 08:28:48 · 14 answers · asked by antiberocked 2 in Singles & Dating

How involved is the mother of the groom in the typical wedding planning process? Are there "traditional" things I should be asking her to do?

My FMIL drives me out of my tree, but I don't want to make her feel left out. Is it normal for the bride and her mom to do most of the stuff? Just for reference, she lives across the country.

2007-10-11 08:28:25 · 11 answers · asked by eli_star 5 in Weddings

I have been asked a lot of times by other girls what perfume i wear, because they like how it smells. But the other day a guy at my work asked me that. we were talking about some general stuff and than we walked away. Next He passed by me and said what perfume do you wear. I was kind of shocked and said WHAT. He repeated and said it smells good on you. So I said thank you and told him the name of the perfume. He left. Is that weird.

2007-10-11 08:27:27 · 13 answers · asked by flygirl 1 in Singles & Dating

I've just moved for Uni and I live in Uni halls. There's about 10 of us that share a kitchen and my stuff keeps going missing. At first, it was milk then it was a whole carton of orange juice, I let this drop since it was just juice but it still made me angry. I have just gone to the fridge to find that now half my eggs are gone that I only purchased yesterday.

I hate thiefs and stealing and this is basically what this is. It's the principle of the matter that I can't afford to keep going out buying things for other people to consume. I have an idea of who it is, but I'm not sure so I don't want to go accusing. On the other hand, I could also talk to a senior resident but I am worried that it'll be seen as 'telling'. I don't know what to do, confront the person? or talk to resident? help!

2007-10-11 08:23:35 · 15 answers · asked by RLJ 5 in Other - Family & Relationships

Not too long ago, I told some people that I plan to stop dating altogether and remain single. (I have my reasons.) They acted as if such a thing were unthinkable! Their constant refrain was, "You'll end up alone!" Why do some people think that being alone is a fate worse than death? After all, marriages and relationships aren't what they're cracked up to be and they're not at all as they're depicted by the media. If anything, I've found that marriages and relationships often cause more grief than happiness for the people involved. There is reason why most marriages end in divorce. THINK ABOUT IT!!!

2007-10-11 08:23:28 · 19 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Marriage & Divorce

Has anyone gotten MARRIED in the poconos? I was thinking of doing the champgane wedding from caesars..is it nice? There will only be about 15 people max in attendance at our wedding. I wanted something small and private where people could still be there, and where it wouldnt be so expensive....thoughts? is the place nice? are there private places to have a wedding?

2007-10-11 08:21:17 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My Sister has had a rough two to three years. She was in a serious car accident, then had a child when she didn't know she was pregnant. She has turned to drinking, and is currently in rehab (the drinking has caused her to b/c nasty). She has always been irresponsible. She doesn't have a job, she has no long term goals for herself, basically she just doesn't care. BUT...She's my sister, and would be heartbroken if I didn't ask her to be my maid of honor. At the same time though, is it okay for me to be selfish for my special day?

I appreciate all of your thoughts.

xoxoxo -

2007-10-11 08:20:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

What makes a gurl atractive to u?

2007-10-11 08:20:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My mother in law is a clingy annoying manipulative lying individual. We were married in August, I have been with my husband for almost 5 years before this. I tried to involve her and my sister-in-law with everything for the wedding. I went out of my way to make her feel wanted, and a part of the big day, and it was never responded to well. She didn't take part in anything, and then complained that she wasn't invited to things or asked opinions on.
She wore white.. to my wedding... and threw her hair in a ponytail. (it was a big wedding)
She didn't smile in any of the pictures
COMPLAINED cause her boyfriend had to wear a suit instead of a tux (he wasn't in the wedding)
compared everything to my sister in law's upcomign wedding.
My husband has called her on her actions, and her respone was simply ... " I hate you"
Also, my sister in law has copied everything from my wedding, down to the invitations. I do not want to go to her wedding, in 2 weeks, or deal with my mother in law....

2007-10-11 08:12:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anna_Phylactic 2 in Family

I met with a woman last September(yes 13 months ago), and she had very nice pics of herself(5'8" and probably in her 160s) so she had nice curves. When I met her, she didn't tell me she gained like 200 lbs. This woman was a whale. I felt nasty and gross for still agreeeing to make out with her like she expected me to do when I said all this in my email when I thought she was in her 160s like in her photos. She was butt ugly!! I hated every minute of it and I could not wait to get out of there. I love women well-proportioned women with curves(130s to 150s if she's 5'4") but I'm not attracted to women who are skin and bones, but defintiely repulsed by 400 lb.beach whales.



She deliberately misled me by emailing me old pics before she gained weight without telling me about her horendous weight gain. Wouldn't you also be pissed off if you were me?

2007-10-11 08:10:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Or does having less sex make you less happy?

2007-10-11 08:08:24 · 6 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Marriage & Divorce

me 19 and my boyfriend 21 have been together 5years, we started having se.x 3months into the relationship and since then we have had sex on average 10 -11 times a week. talking about sex with friends this came up and they couldnt believe me they even said that it was unhealthy i no thats not true but do you think were having too much sex is this wrong or are my friends just being prudish? why are they saying this to me? also my guy mates think this is great so is it maybe just a girl thing to thinks its wrong. its with 1 guy so its not like im sleeping around.

2007-10-11 08:05:26 · 23 answers · asked by estrellita 5 in Singles & Dating

he is my co worker and he helps me a lot, he is nice. I am new here and immigrant. So i do not know if guys in this country are nice just for being friends. So how do I know if he likes me. But sometimes he is like funny and then sometimes he is serious and avoided me not look into my eye. we had this conversation once in the lunch room and there is like a gap in our conversation. So how do I know if he likes me

2007-10-11 08:04:46 · 3 answers · asked by shibereta 2 in Singles & Dating

She was married in her country and has lived in the US for a long time now, and is now a citizen of the US. She is unhappy with her marriage and wants to leave her husband. They bought a house together in Maine. Her kids are all grown. She only has part time work but she wants to find a place of her own, but cannot afford to do so. She tried getting state welfare but she filed a join return they assume she is married, and is denied benefit. She only stay living at the shared house for insurance benefit. How can she leave this marriage? Her ex says he cannot afford to pay her off. She deserves to be happy. Please help.

2007-10-11 08:03:39 · 10 answers · asked by Nora S 2 in Marriage & Divorce

There is this guy that I know who used me and most of my friends for sex. He acted all sweet at first and acted like he really cared, and after he got what he want from us he just dropped us. I hate him and he hates me and i want to make his life a living hell. I had the idea of putting exlax or eyedrops in his drink to give him the runs but i don't know..anyone have any good ideas?

2007-10-11 07:59:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

I'm taking out a girl I really like for the first time tomorrow, has a guy ever done anything on the first date to amaze you? any recommends would be helpful

THANKS!!

2007-10-11 07:58:26 · 4 answers · asked by Nate 6 in Singles & Dating

Curious to know the truth.

2007-10-11 07:58:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm 17 years old boy. I was just thinking about my family. I think I don't like them.

Well yeah basically they are my family so I don't hate them but I don't love them. My mom was really mean to me when I was little. She hit me. And My father is an alcoholic. My little brother..Well I kind of think that It's unfair that I'm the only one bit up by father after he drunk. But I can't hate my little brother It's not his fault. So I decided when I can take care of my own, I left the family and never calls again.

Lately My mom trying to make it up with me. She trying to be nice, say sorry about what she did.
But I don't feel good about it. It makes me uncomfortable. I wish that I can get over everything but...I just can't.

Is it weird that I don't wanna see my family after I left the house? Should I at least trying to make it up with my mom? (I don't want to try things with my dad.)

2007-10-11 07:56:41 · 10 answers · asked by RG 1 in Family

so mean and violence ????
Well at least some of them :(
And why can't they just let their feelings out,what wrong with that ??? Are they too shy or................whattt???

2007-10-11 07:55:17 · 7 answers · asked by ★Star Girl★™ 6 in Singles & Dating

On a scale between 1 to 10, where does sexual compatibility belong?

2007-10-11 07:52:09 · 30 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Singles & Dating

On a scale between 1 to 10, where does sexual compatibility belong?

2007-10-11 07:51:51 · 16 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6 in Marriage & Divorce

To come stay at her house but I don't want to because her house is really nasty! Ughhh It makes me want to puke But I don't wanna be mean about it!! What can I do? Help me Please!!!!! Answer my question please!

2007-10-11 07:50:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

My younger brothers father was a great guy. Kind, generous, caring, and a great father to his children. Heck me my younger sister and older brother werent even his and he treated us like his own. Unfortunately he had to die at the age of 26 over 14 years ago. Why?? And just recently my aunts brother n law, who is a police officer, a great father, and a kind caring person, died in his patrol car yesterday at the age of 49? Why do they die and all the crazy dont give a **** about life people get to live on with their miserable lives. Its just not fair.....

2007-10-11 07:49:52 · 8 answers · asked by Gotta luv it! 4 in Family

My ex is taking me to child support. She seemed to drop it on me the day after i got engaged(Seem strange). But she told me that she filed the paperwork already. I am planning on taking a paternity test, because I never signed an acknowledgement or the birth certificate. She keeps saying it is a process, but I just want the madness to get over quickly. I known her for years, and just hate that the relationship is so bad between. But we have a little kid involve, so it is not about us. I am willing pay child support, just my responsibility. But I want to get some information first
When I get married will my spouse income be included
Because I don't think she should have to pay for my previous actions before the marriage
Second, I want to file for joint custody
What will be my rights and responsiblities under that act.I love my son, but I just know under theses circumstance I just could get along with the mother, So I think it is best to go to court. I am just glad he is only one

2007-10-11 07:48:45 · 22 answers · asked by lilgotti56 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Im 13 and i havent had my first kiss yet. Im scared ill get it wrong but dont wanna leave it too long.
I no its a moment thing n i shud jus enjoy it but its scaring the crap out of me if im bad.
How old was u wen u had urs and do u have any tips?

2007-10-11 07:43:00 · 8 answers · asked by HoneyBee 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-10-11 07:41:37 · 11 answers · asked by baddestbitch 2 in Singles & Dating