How important is sexual compatibility?

Question

On a scale between 1 to 10, where does sexual compatibility belong?

Answer 1

10, along with everything else. Ask anyone, no matter how much you love someone, if the sex is bad, the relationship is bad too!

Answer 2

I am asking that question myself now in connection with my current relationship. The way you rank it will depend on everything else you get from the relationship. If you find that many other aspects of the relationship are fulfilling, you will very likely overlook some sexual compatability and be content to work that out between the two of you. However, if you feel that you are not deriving enough benefit from other aspects of the relationship, this will put it over the edge, as it is doing now for me. If you love and respect each other, are willing to both give and take, your compatability will grow. If you are both determined that the problem resides with the other, than that's a sign to move on. Relationships can and will break down for lack of sexual incompatability, and if it does break down as a result, it does not make you insensitive or a bad person.

Answer 3

The key word in your question is compatibility. If you don't like the same things sexually there will be frustrations and resentments. Nothing worse than really getting hot over something and your partner isn't into it and isn't willing to try. Compatibility is very important if it was just the sex issue I have found the older I get the less important quanitity is and the more important quality becomes!!!!! I would discuss your passions openly with your partner it is a fast way to find out if they are into the same things. Good luck.

Answer 4

8

Answer 5

9

Answer 6

8

Answer 7

I'd have to go with 7 or 8 because it's a very intimate thing and if a couple can't connect somehow on that level there will be something important missing in the relationship....obviously it's not everything but I do think it's important.

Answer 8

I would say 8 to 9. Sex in a relationship is very important, it's a release of anger, aggression, joy.. everything and if you can't thoroughly enjoy it, then it stifles all of that release... but then again, I'm a sexual person, other people may not feel the same. that's why i don't understand how people can get married before sleeping with their spouse first.... I mean, if you get married, decide the sex is bad and not getting better... do you get divorced or have an affair? hmmm

Answer 9

People can learn to become more sexually compatible to people they love, its not really as important as you think. Other things are far more important. i'd say 2 or 3. You probably have a stressful time with someone who is like "I only do missionary... and you've got to make me feel like a princess" and your like "can i use chains to hold you down?"

Answer 10

It depends on how important sex is to the relationship. Some people are much more sexual than others. For a person who is not very interested in sex, you can expect it to be low (unless they are with someone who is signifigantly more sexual) and for someone who is more sexual you can expect it to be hugher (again, unless their is a signifigant discrepency for their partner). No one is 100% perfect for anyone else, so it's really about accomodating each other's needs and dersires.

For me, I rank it as a 7. It's not the most important, but it does factor in and can cause issues if it is not handled correctly.

Answer 11

in a ideal relationship it should be about a 5 or 6 but in the real world its more like an 8 or 9.