Do you like your Parents?

Question

I'm 17 years old boy. I was just thinking about my family. I think I don't like them.

Well yeah basically they are my family so I don't hate them but I don't love them. My mom was really mean to me when I was little. She hit me. And My father is an alcoholic. My little brother..Well I kind of think that It's unfair that I'm the only one bit up by father after he drunk. But I can't hate my little brother It's not his fault. So I decided when I can take care of my own, I left the family and never calls again.

Lately My mom trying to make it up with me. She trying to be nice, say sorry about what she did.
But I don't feel good about it. It makes me uncomfortable. I wish that I can get over everything but...I just can't.

Is it weird that I don't wanna see my family after I left the house? Should I at least trying to make it up with my mom? (I don't want to try things with my dad.)

Answer 1

Yes i love my family,this is to answer your main question and not that i've had a great childhood but it was all situational,not to blame mom or dad,they gave the best of all that they could.

Now,about u,would suggest to you to be a little emphathetic,look at your moms situation,she had a hard life with a drunkard husband,just imagine what she would have gone through and the kinda stress she would have undergone,you should not judge her by things she said,things said in anger and specially by parents are never a curse.look at it positively,she wanted you to be a better person than ur father and so she was harsh on you.
She needs u at this time,i suggest you need to make up with them and specially ur mom..think practically!!good luck!!

Answer 2

I don't think it is strange at all. Your family didn't act like much of a family to you and the damage has been done.
People do sometimes change and do sometimes feel really sorry for what they did. But change is hard and very few people truly change.
You need to evaluate what having a relationship with your family could mean to you? Would it help you? Would it make you feel better? Would they make your life better? If not, then leave them alone.
If you do decide to attempt to restart a relationship, be very careful and take it slow. Don't let them guilt you into another dysfunctional relationship with them.

Answer 3

First, your mom is feeling guilty and that is effecting her to make up with you. Are they both still abusive???? Do you think that when you leave, your little brother will then be the one being abused?? If so, have you thought about taking him with you?? Has your mom tried to better your dad thru suggesstions & help? This is a hard one....did she think about leaving him because he "abused" you and your brother??? Why didn't she leave?? Whew....those are all tough to answer, huh? These are my thoughts... It's got to be so hard for you ......

Now, on the other hand...........IF they are getting professional help (are they??), then remember that God forgives, AND His only begotten son "Jesus" forgave many for their terrible sins. You can be the better one in the family and work to make it a better life for you and your little brother. I actually would recommend a church family counselor for you to meet with and just decide from there if it feels right for you and if it's helpful to you. But, the big thing is to forgive, forgive, forgive, BUT, be smart and do the right things.........always be aware of what can hurt or harm you, and stay away from it. I wish you well...........and many many blessings. You are almost 18!! Try to make the best choices, always.

Answer 4

I was fortunate to have the greatest parents in the world. Well my mom still is, my father passed away. I not only loved them, I really did/do like them. When I would go on trips with my dad and whoever he was married to or dating at the time, I was never embarrassed, like alot of kids are when they're with their parent, because he was so much fun to be around just the coolest guy. My father HATED his father!!!!!! I helped my step mother take care of him while he was dying and even on his death bed he said that he didn't want to make ammends with his father, that he hated him and he'd take it to the grave with a clear conscious. My grandfather died when I was pretty young and we obviously didn't visit often so I don't know much about him or what he did to my father. I'm not particularly fond of 2 of siblings (OK, I really dislike them). I don't lose any sleep over it though. Sounds to me like you have pretty good grounds for disliking your parents. Your mother's making an effort, I don't know if it's too little too late, that's up to you. Don't feel bad about your feelings :)

Answer 5

i think you should give your mother a chance. at least she's trying. i been through the same thing with my father.(but he never beat me) he wasn't n my life 4 15 years n off n on for 3. now that im grown i give hem chances but its a certain amount of chances you could take with a person. so just give it a try. and if she is not making a good effort just let it go!!! and explain to her your feelings about her.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, we are not able to choose our family. But we have to accept them. If you do not like what they are doing and you see what they are wrong doing, is good for you. Take it only as an advice for life and never do like them. If you can take care about yourself and not going on wrong ways, you are big already. Try to be someone in your fife, keep in touch with them, but cold if you want to. Help your brother. He might not be as strong as you. GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

You need to attend Al anon meetings to help you cope with being the child of an alcoholic. I wouldn't let your mom back into your life until you are ready, and you may need to grow up alittle to know if you want to do that.

Answer 8

Hey im sorry to hear about your probs and i dnt no wat ur goin through but i will try n help you. I definatley think you should still talk your bro, it isnt his fault and (not knowing an age) doesnt fully understnad the issues. I can understand about not wanting to talk to ur dad, and that probs for the best but ur mum is trying to be bac wit u. mayb u shud giv her chance. if not u must have grandparents, aunts , uncles etc mayb talk to them and get them to help u n go with u to c her. Mates can be help hopefully they are supporting you but really really dnt let this get between u and ur bro.
hopw i helped and good luk! xxx

Answer 9

It is such a personal question and you have to decide for yourself if you are ready to have relationship with her it has to be the right time for it to work and you cannot force yourself so take time consider weather you are ready to forgive and forget.

Answer 10

Yes, I do